STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
ADVICE NEEDED
Good day Stella,
I have an issue right now that is bothering me. I dated my hubby for seven years before we got married.
Good day Stella,
I have an issue right now that is bothering me. I dated my hubby for seven years before we got married.
Some few months after he did my introduction, I stumbled on a chat between him and a girl in his church which showed that they were involved. I confronted him and he begged and swore that he hadn't had s#x with her.
Now we are eight years in marriage with three kids and he just admitted that they had s#x. What brought about this was that the girl in question is getting married now and we happened to talk about it and I jokingly asked him if he had s#x with her back then and he said yes with a very guilty face that he never intended to, he said I should forget it that he did that before we got married.
Stella I am so hurt right now and I hate him now like crazy. why did he lie to me at first? And the stupid girl was always very nice to me anytime she sees me in church then. I feel so terrible now. I need your advice pls. Thanks..
*What do you really want?You asked and he told you the truth and now you hate him?Is it not better that he told you now?Dont you have secrets that you have not told him about?why are you making this a big story?
You should have told him immediately that you didnt like that he lied to you instead of wanting to start this big drama that might help you end your marriage..
Let him know how his lie has made you feel and let it go!!!
Even at that, it shouldn't behave bothered you to the extent of this. This is 8yrs please let sleeping dogs snore. It hurts but let peace reign.
ReplyDeleteMadam divorce your husband ,since divorce is hungering you. This is What I say about adolescent getting married. Someone like me I waka well before finally marrying.
DeleteWhat would you say about me that has had something to do in the past with atleast 2 people that my husband knows. They are actually my husband's school classmates.
I never told him because he is the jealous type. When we happen to see any of them anywhere we all just smile and greet eachother. My husband doesn't know I have slept with this two men in the past,dated one in school. This is something of like 15yrs ago,before I even met him.
In marriage some things are better left unsaid. If I was your husband I won't tell you anything.
I can imagine me telling my husband I have slept with those people. Any greeting I greet them,he can change it to I'm flirting.
We are all married now,i am even friendly with one of the wives. Why say anything.
Your story doesn't align with the trajectory of her story.How about you tell your husband you slept with one of those men during your introduction engagement to him.Then come back and give your advice. Ordinary 15 years before you even met your hubby, before You knew he existed.You are already afraid to let him know. Tell him nau after all you havent met him then. How much more when you confess to him same way the poster's husband did that while you were engaged to him you cheated?. Try it and let us know
Deletemadam 16:38 it is people like you that give women bad names. as you have slept with your area people, you think everyome is like that. the way this poster is reacting eill be the same way your husband would if you ipen your mouth..
Deleteyou are nothing close to this poster.She is hurt she is hurt..if its oke go and tell your husband about yout body count naw including the 2guys you smile with..nonsense. stella ehh post ohh
Delete16:38, your case is different.
DeleteAnon16:38 is still sleeping with those men lowkey... & probably other men.. Why did you keep the men so close after? Which yeye friendship r u guys forming? With such canal knowledge of each other.... Wow at least you should have left those guys in the past & shouldn't be so close to your FAM.knackaholic.
DeleteAll these rubbish happening in church.
ReplyDeleteFornication and whatnot.
Orishishi.
No single fear of God.
No be today yansh dey for back..We are just too stupid to allow pple deceive us with that name(Jesus)...so funny
DeleteNa ndi Pharisees na Sadducee, them full church o
DeleteJust dey spray fork like say na cherries, from
pastor down to usher na so them go dey do
Make una choose one na?
If na fork, fork am well and commot from church
If na God, worship him well and stick to him
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You that is judging on SDK nko?
DeleteDo you have fear of God?
@SluttyChic
DeleteI just have one scripture for you:
1 Cor. 5:12 What business is it of mine to judge those outside
the church? Are you not to judge those inside?
Anon 16:13
Delete👏👏👏👌
16:13, beautiful response. The Bible has an answer to every question.
DeleteNonsense and ingredients.. Divorce him na. As divorce dey hungry u
DeleteSome of you women look for trouble where there is none. You are angry and overreacting about what happened8years ago??? Hian! no be dey na 40 seconds man?? hanty poster,biko drink cold water.
ReplyDeletePlease divorce him ASAP... As na everything una go bring come online. 8 years in marriage and still senseless. Past is past.
ReplyDeleteDon’t mind her.
DeleteThe story is annoying jare. She wants trouble , the devil will gladly step in.
Deletego and tell your husbands about your body count 8yrs ago naw...knowing most of you lied about it..fakers
DeletePlease dear poster communicate exactly what you typed up there to your hubby and after it forgive. There's no need starting a fight where there's non please. Believe me most couple have deep secret the shield from one another. So dear enjoy your marriage.
ReplyDeleteJust follow this advise.
DeleteWhich advice do u need? Something DAT d sperms have since gone into oblivion is what is making u angry...OK u can divorce, separate, beat him, or what about d girls he's gbenshing now n u haven't found out yet! 😀😀😀 u go bomb house? 😀😀😀
ReplyDelete@Blackey
DeleteThose girls wey im dey fork now (wey you know), them be ya Pharisee disciples?
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You just commot this afternoon dey yarn tatatatata like typewriter eh?
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She go scatter the whole place 😂🤣
DeleteBlackberry, dont give her sleepless nights oh.
DeleteShe might stop cooking & sleepin with him cus someone on SDK blog accused him of cheating.
@Yaba lest escapee, na so many people they reason ooo. No brain of their own. Gosh!
DeleteThe girl is bold. LOL
ReplyDeleteI bet that's what is really paining you.
Mtcheeeeeew!!
ReplyDeleteWhen will some people learn that what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas.
Marriage is like a new realm.
Is there a butthole you'd dig in a not find shit? Shebi he has answered honestly & now ure hurt.
Sticks and stones may break a bone but words can inflict permanent psychological damage.
If youre this hurt, imagine if hes cheating and you catch him today, hmm... sniper will look like orange juice be that. You better learn to take things easy.
Ha! After how many years???? Abeg move on.
ReplyDeleteTruth is, you trully asked him rightly 8years too late.Poster, if you were trully convinced with his answer back then(he even swore to u). U would'nt have asked again whether jokingly or not. Now u basically have one choice and that is to move on. Am really sorry about the hurt but in ur heart i think you always knew. You only wanted him to affirm it. Take as much time as u need but eventually u will heal. Give it time.
ReplyDeleteHeal from what exactly?
DeleteHe lied to her face.
DeleteThat's wat she will heal from. Wats done is done...She has to move on from it all. For her marriage
I tell you Bini.It has happened to me before. Someone lied to me and it wasn't even a man. My best friend. I looked back and felt so stupid. At a point I wished I had magical powers to go back in time and put her in her place. Whenever I think about everything she did and said and how gullible I was to believe her, I always felt so stupid and its been long.I guess I felt that way maybe because I was really honest with her and I trusted her. Gosh she played on my innocence. That babe was not who she pretended to be! Nonsense pretender.
DeleteIt’s not about whether you believed him or not. Sometimes, I ask just to gist about it or tease him. That is the truth.
DeleteI understand the poster so much because I am like her. We are honest to a fault and expect same
Most people condemning this woman are not married.
DeleteMadam poster, please let it go. Pray that God removes the kind of anger and disgust you feel for your hubby and restore His AGAPE Love in your home.
May God Almighty in his Infinite mercy, bless and protect your home.
Truth is, you trully asked him rightly 8years too late.Poster, if you were trully convinced with his answer back then(he even swore to u). U would'nt have asked again whether jokingly or not. Now u basically have one choice and that is to move on. Am really sorry about the hurt but in ur heart i think you always knew. You only wanted him to affirm it. Take as much time as u need but eventually u will heal. Give it time.
ReplyDeleteWoman how many years ago please move on.
DeletePoster let the matter slide, he admitted he lied and has given an apology for it, learn to forgive as it is an important ingredient in marriage.
ReplyDeleteMadam, why do you want to scatter your marriage?
ReplyDeleteYou need to deliver yourself from hatred. You and your husband should do some seeking God together to
erase this ugly past.
But why Naija pharisee girls dey dey church dey spread fork anyhow eh?
And fork never finish o, as the girl marry now, na so so fork fork fork.
Terminate, terminate, terminate eh?
Haba una be terminators?
Ajuju n' ese okwu 😯😯😯😯😯
So the man that was fornicating while betrothed to another? No blame for am abi? It is the woman that wants to scatter her marriage, it is the woman that needs deliverance, and it is other girl that is spreading sex? The two women are to blame while the man is Angel Gabriel.
DeleteỤwa ụmụ nwaanyị ntooor!
This must be James from time past! Or the brother of James
Can't believe this is a chronicle. Did he marry you as a virgin?. Even if your answer is yes. This act was done when he has not married you... Simple. Next post please.
ReplyDeletenonsense
DeleteMy sister, I am sorry about your situation But please forgive him. Cry if you have to. Tell him how disappointed you are but please do not take it too far.
ReplyDeleteI lost a relationship that I knew was headed to the altar because of something like this. He didn’t even sleep with the girl but I couldn’t let it go and kept picturing things. The relationship didn’t survive.
Forgive him my dear.
Take big hug ��
Cry about what exactly? The man did not do her any wrong for saying the truth. It happened long time ago and they were not even married then abeg.
DeleteDon he cheated on her
DeleteI agre it’s long ago and should forgive but he did offend her by cheating and lying about it
Mr Don, do you know how painful it can be if someone you love and trust lies to you? It’s not even about the timing.
DeleteLying is deceit. Some of us do not lie especially to our significant other and cannot understand the rationale for it.
It is betrayal.
Cry about what? It seems the poster has alot of tears to shed. You are simply creating problem where there is known. You're simply allowing the Devil to use you as Eve to scatter your marriage of 8years.
DeleteThis is how crises in Marriage always start... and I bet you are just about to begin yours because of this.
Anon 15:13
DeleteDont feel bad about the relationship you lost, if you had gone ahead to marry him, maybe you would have still carried the feeling of hurt with you and scattered the marriage by yourself.
@Poster
Your feelings are very valid. Me sef when I date someone, I don't like to hear about the people the person dated 100years before me, talk more of that the person cheated on me. But!... If you sound like that's his only slip up and he doesn't engage in such anymore, let it go! He probably made that mistake and realized he can't afford to lose you so he lied about it but he changed. He's a 'christian' but people make mistakes. The good thing is he realized it and still feels guilty 8years later.
Let him know he has hurt you terribly and both of you should work to get past it. He must show that he's sorry and he'll never do such again! Go to counseling if you like. Then let go and don't think of it again. Don't let it cast a shadow over your marriage such that you will now start referring to it with everything he does. Just let go.
She should drink coconut oil ontop too.
DeleteWhat happened many years ago is what’s making you feel terrible?
ReplyDeleteMtcheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeew.
Where you guys married when he did it?
The dick wasn’t even yours then so what the hell?
Since you hate him, biko leave him so another woman can take your place.
No time for nonsense!!! Mtcheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeew.
Like your husband said they did it before he married you. Whether he told you then or now it cannot change anything. I suggest you let go
ReplyDeleteWomen will always be selfish, I guess if the table is turned right now, you will want him to forgive you, claiming it happened a long time ago.....
ReplyDeletedear poster, it's a matter of choice, just pick one of the following.
ReplyDelete1) forgive your husband
2) pay him back by sleeping with someone else.
3) scatter the lady's wedding
4) report the lady to her husband to be
5) divorce your husband.
just pick one of the above and you will be alright.
don't forget to update us on the one you picked.
Nekwa nu ndi omeko ome
DeleteOnly your first piece of advice make sense
No. 2,3, 4, 5 no go ever help this poster find peace of mind
She will just become a bitter old maid overnight, and them
full this blog well well.
Even if you tell am "good morning" she go bite you cham!
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Savage
Deletepls poster, if you are picking option 5, I beg you, send me your husband's phone number and house address.
DeleteAnon 16.10. You better don't wish yourself bad thing.someone that SWORE to backup his lies is someone you want to grab. People like that scares me. except lie isn't your deal breaker and you have the shock-absorber for it.
DeleteLwkmd anon 16:10
DeleteHahaha
DeletePoster please go and rest and enjoy your marriage
Please don't use your own hand and spoil your marriage
Note: everyone have a skeleton in his or her cupboard
Stella has said it all.
ReplyDeleteThats all in the past, before you got married. you are now having BP on top of a matter of 7yrs ago.
ReplyDeletePurge yourself of the hate and move on, he already apologized.
I hardly comment... but i must say, you must be a foolish woman...I believe your village witches and wizard have tabled your matter in their coven....Oya walk away since you hate him, let another woman come take your position in your ticking time bomb present home... Buzzu like you... Msheeew... There are things i read and realize some people are just not mentally ready for marriage and no need advising them....
ReplyDeleteVery annoying woman. Double mtcheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeew.
DeleteHer mates are focusing on more important things,she’s here talking about fuck that happened many years ago.
I expected her to joke and laugh about it when her hubby agreed he slept with her.
Like say she bring the preek from heaven.
You are the foolish one and mind you am not the poster.Always quick to threaten the woman with the usual mantra of "go away and let another woman take your place". What is special about the hubby. He has no integrity and morals that if he got snatched by another woman the world would end. You too madam poster no vex ehn? Forgive him biko😚
Delete@ Anonymous 16:35... You sound like a bitter person that has/have been hurt in the past or presently by a dude... Please do heal from whatever or whomever hurt you.... And mind you we are all special in our little or mighty way ( Not saying she should worship him though)... He f**ked up before marriage... They are somethings that ought not to be asked... Enough said. And mind you, it is her home and she shouldn't let things like this destroy whatever she has built over the years.
DeleteNo am really very sweet but have no tolerance for those who place men on a pedestal by bringing women down.That phrase i highlighted up there, have never heard it been used on a man before so what the fuss?. What you did there was issuing a subtle threat. This your second comment is more like it,minus a few parts up there where you felt like being silly. And btw you sound like someone who is suffering from a low self esteem may you find succour.
DeleteVery foolish woman.. My wife and I even discuss about people we have fucked in the past. And we just laughed about these and nothing happens.
Deleteannon 15:25 good you dont usually comment so you wont comment nonsense on here...Rubbish
Delete1. @ Anonymous7 May 2019 at 18:01: Low self esteem ekwa, Lol... Some of you just like to retaliate stupidly sha.
Delete2. @Anonymous7 May 2019 at 18:54: I believe you should go drink chilled Zobo to calm your nerves. Lmao. Point of correction, Some people just need to hear the harsh truth. No need to sugar coat somethings.
Madam...this is not an issue abeg,,u can only make it an issue if u are ready to put an end to ur home...simple as that
ReplyDeleteAn affair he had before marrying you. Madam you're just looking for trouble where there is none.
ReplyDeleteYou're a very stupid woman. Why hate him for saying the truth and to think it even happened before you two got married? Get out of here!
ReplyDeleteShooter Gyal you are an idiot, did you read her chronicle well? After her introduction the guy cheated with a girl in thier church. Don't be too quick to abuse some one, I know how it feels to be betrayed by your fiance
Deleteshooter you are an idiot...I was just reading only but had to reply you...a lot of you here have no sense and do not comprehend when you read. her annoyance is with the fact that her hubby lied to her then.. this is not a matter of the affair back then. am sure she feels foolish for believing him and also she must have known the girl too. she has a right to be angry but this is not the kind of issue that should last beyond that time you express your self.. people on this blog should stop down playing peoples emotions, we are all different and what hurts you is not what hurts me. poster is I was you I will just tell my hubby how I feel and just move on. it happened in the past, let it live there
DeleteStop making a mountain out of a mole hill. What he did and lieing about it was wrong. But since its been years it happened forgive him and move on. Every one has secret. So his admitting is a good thing.
ReplyDeleteOya act like Tonto and call him out!
ReplyDeleteSince you like quarrel pass peace!
Relax!! Its not that serious.
ReplyDeleteChurch ...ehn...some clubs are better off.
ReplyDeleteMadam, abeg let go..what if he had continued gbenshing the girl?? Forgive him and gboju nbe
If the man is very rich , she will not complain even if the man has seven wives before her.
ReplyDeleteIt's water under the bridge let it be. Punishing him now is of no use after eight years of marriage. He confessed his sins and as his wife you have to be willing to forgive him and let go. You have not said he has been a bad husband or is currently cheating so why are you going to let something that happened almost a decade ago to damage what you have. Push past the hurt.
ReplyDeletePoster exactly is your problem? She fucked your husband when you both weren't married & so? Is she still sleeping with him now? So he addmited sleeping with her so why are you mad? Except you are not telling the truth or you are not sure he isn't sleeping with her till now. Don't let your village people play you mumu.
ReplyDeleteBetter face your marriage & mind your business.. Don't act like a bitter person.. There is so much gain in playing a fool & ignoring a lot of things, you live a stress -free life.
Eight years already and u r behaving like a girlfriend. U r in marriage but marriage has not passed through u. U better let d past be past and hold ur man well now.
ReplyDeleteOh please! Y'all spare her. She has a right to be hurt. Ma'am, your hubby prolly lied to you then so that you won't call off the wedding even tho you won't. For him to tell you the truth now, he feels comfortable with you & he knows you will forgive him anyways.
ReplyDeleteSolution? Let him know you're hurt in 2 ways. Sleeping with her & the lie he told.
It'll take a while to forgive & forget but then, take time to heal.
Thank you very much. I thought I was the only one holding a contrary opinion. She truly has every right to be hurt. She may even be doubting most things the man had told her in time past.
DeleteWhat rubbish hurt are you talking about? Did she married as a virgin? Ask her about her body count before she got married to her husband. @Poster, this is simply ticket to scattering your marriage.
DeleteOdun. Thank you for this. She is hurt because he lied to begin with therefore she feels betrayed. Its the principle behind it
DeleteShe did or didnt marry as a virgin but she didnt sleep with a brother in church like her husband did.She was faithful. Lets turn the table maybe you guys will see things from her perspective.
DeleteLets say you were a man and planning to marry a sister but suspected her of waka waka with a popular brother in church who knows you very well and you guys do rapport well well.She denied it then 8 years later the same brother in your church who chopped your wife and who you have been seeing in church for good eight years and being friends with is getting married to a wedding you probably invited to.
Then your wife dropped the atomic missile/confession of their tryst. Then you go back memory lane and start questioning yourself with questions like" so that day he shook my hands he just finished straffing my wife, or that day he dropped us at home, they signalled to each other and the next day they met and he did the do while we were busy contacting the photographer and the make up artist for the wedding, and she said she was coming instead she went to the other room.
Who knows,the lady picture may even be in their wedding album, oh lawd!!! How would you feel Sir?. She feels stupid right now and trust me it's not a good feeling.Just tell her to forgive but don't disparage her feelings for she has the right to be upset but she needs to forgive. SIMPLE.
I disagree with you all, since she can't forget such flimsy sex that happened ages ago, she should file for divorce...there's nothing to forgive if she's vibrating over a 40 seconds sex.
DeleteBerry can you guys read. They were engaged she be slept with the girl
DeleteWhat do you expect, when people are sleeping up and down these days...all of you attacking her, can you tell your boyfriend's who you slept with? double standard..
Deleteand yes poster, he is comfortable you aint going no where, so whats the point giving yourself a headache..
DeletePlease all of you insulting the poster tell your husband your body count. Since it was before you met him. Tell him your real body count and come back to give us feedback. Mtshew
DeleteWhat advice do you now want? Ooh.. Y, divorce him and move out with your kids, if that will take away the pain of eight years ago.
ReplyDeleteBe there looking for trouble when there's none.. Nonsense..
She is well fed and has no troubles that's why something of over 8 years ago is still living rent free in her memories
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ReplyDeleteMaybe her mother's cousin' sister's nephew in the village just remembered her matter. She dey Mad!
DeleteThis poster your heart is too deep, you asked a question 8 years ago got an answer (though it was a lie)..but why ask the same question 8yeara later into your marriage?seriously, you never moved past it. I clarify an issue yesterday with hubs, as long as it has being clarified( be it a lie or truth) by the next day I am done and even forgotten what the issue was about.
ReplyDeleteYou didnt see another text in your husbands phone to say it's a pattern...the said girl is even getting married not to your husband 8 years after you and you are still bitter.. the heart is really deep o.
Madam as you dey vex, divorce him nau abi no be werin you wan hear?
After 8 years and this poster learn to let things go .life no hard
Poster, I truly understand how you feel right now. You feel betrayed and lied to. Probably, you feel your marriage was built on that lie. You feel, you may have made a different choice of not marrying him if he had told you the truth when you asked him first. Probably, he didn't even show the kind of remorseful reaction you expected of him. You maybe the type that value the truth and is very sensitive to lies that even the slightest lie irks you. I know people we tell you that even you too are not perfect so, let it go but they really don't understand that people have different values and are built very differently.
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry this happened to you. I know you may start having trust issues right now but I want to advise you, for your own peace of mind, not because of your husband oo, LET IT GO. You can find closure by telling him how truly feel about that small lie he told from the beginning.
#Vikenx-virus
Lolly Sweet:
DeleteYou know nothing at all about how she feels right now. The only advice she need right now is to Divorce her husband. That will make her feel alright.
Divorce him and drop his number on SDK let the small gurls with BIG goD take good care of him for you.
God bless you. Someone with sense. I Like!
DeleteAnon abeg leave my new bra I no get another one. Thank you.
DeleteLeave me to my opinion and make yours.
I don't know why everyone is scolding her. Like she doesn't have a right to be livid. Her man is a cheat. If he was in her shoes do you think he would forgive her?.The effontery in sleeping around not even in a far distance but within the house of God with a sister in Christ a few days after the introduction. Haba!!!.This kind of thing that you all are seeing as mild can make a white woman dissolve her marriage.And people will be hailing her saying "Whites dont take nonsense" bla bla bla.Afterall she is white so it's okay to praise her.Go online and read how whites dissolve unions built on lies over things you Africans see as trivial.Poster you have a right to be upset Okay? Don't let anyone take that right from You. However when you get upset a little,try and calm down a little please. While having it at the back of your mind that you married a cheat.Someone like that can sleep with neighbours, colleague and his wife's friend.Forget the former cheating and focus your attention on the new ones you haven't been noticing.
ReplyDeleteDear Anonymous 16:32 ->
DeleteI respect your opinion and views about this matter, but I'm sorry to say "You are Mad".
How do you come to a conclusion that her husband is a cheat? She never made mention of anything of such in her chronicle. She only said, it happened before they got married.
Please don't scatter OP' marriage with your delusional views about her suppose husband whom her village people have decided to remember her matter this period.
OP, you have a right to be angry only if you married your hubby as a virgin.
I respect your views too but darling, You are "stark raving bonkers", and am not sorry to say it.
DeleteStill I accept I shouldn't have jumped into conclusions like that and called her husband a cheat. Op forgive me and forgive your man.
😂😂😂😂 association of mad pipo.
DeleteWith you blacckey as the chairman ba😁
DeleteHahahahaha what sort of subtle insults is this bikonu..nawa!
Deletethe first one to call mad is the actual mad person.
Delete😂😂😂.. shift for me.
DeleteAnon 17.27😂😂😂insulting someone while showing love By calling the person darling sweetie at same time.😩😩
DeleteMadam something that happened eight years ago before you go married? Are you okay? Are you tired of the marriage and you're looking for an excuse? You want us to tell you to leave your house? Abeg your cheating story is invalid, shift let us address recent and more serious cheating issues
ReplyDeleteWait, you guys are funny o. So she does not have right to be angry? I hate being lied to and I would have reacted same way.
ReplyDeleteOf course, she would forgive eventually but madam go at your pace...
This reaction is cheap, make she pack out 😁😁
DeleteU guys shld stop being judgemental, she opened up abt it because she feels hurt which I think is very normal, im not sure she was ever thinking of divorce or anything, let her air her feelings so she can mayb feel better nd knw hw to handle things.
ReplyDeletedont mind them, some of them cry a river on their pillows every night. they come here forming heros
DeletePoster there is no issue here unless you want to create one. What happened between your hubby and the lady was even you got married to him though he lied to you initially probably out of respect he has for you. Let it go and move on. You don't need to be upset about it.
ReplyDeleteWhat should bother you more is how he knows shes getting married. Why are they still in touch after 8years?
ReplyDeleteI have one word for you ma... Just forget about it like it never happened at least for the sake of your sanity coz in another 8years time, you might hear more.
ReplyDeleteHear more ke? Haaaaa!!!🙄
DeleteI have one word for you ma... Just forget about it like it never happened at least for the sake of your sanity coz in another 8years time, you might hear more.
ReplyDeleteFirst of all, how young was the babe that she is just married eight whole years later? Maybe that's what is actually eating the madam up. Say small pikin dey staff her Bobo still follow her dey laugh. That's really annoying but not something you should cause royal rumble for. Forgive.
ReplyDeleteeven those ones without men sef de talk...kikiki. its sad most people ignored the lie he told. oh what a world. poster watch that man...he has so many lies.
ReplyDeleteMen read stuff like this and know that are expected to be accountable to their actions as such there is nothing to really be afraid of. As far this knowledge exist they will continue to can misbehave. It is well with women especially African women. Make your men sit up and respect you guys.
ReplyDeleteThe reason she is pained is because he slept wih the girl after their INTRODUCTION. It's deceit pure and simple, and he ought to apologize to her and then she can move on from it.
ReplyDeleteAs for the girl, her karma is around the corner.
Stella if you are not affected or bothered by your partner lying to you then good for you, but stop acting like people being bothered or getting upset by their partner doing it to them are childish. I've ended a relationship with someone I cared deeply for because of a "simple" lie like this before. Because I trusted them wholly and completely and finding out about such a little and unnecessary lie made me wonder what else they lied about and doubt everything that they said. No way to maintain a relationship when distrust crept in via a little lie about the past.
ReplyDeleteMadam, you have every right to be upset, please talk it out with your husband and work to build up trust again in your relationship
so you wanna give yourself BP because of things of the past,madam take a chill pill
ReplyDeleteNa which kain husband be this sef, doesn't he know that whenever you are with a woman especially a wife you just have to keep your mouth shut or say as little as possible because anything you say can and will be used against you. My wife knows me for this, mum is the word, all secrets remain secrets forever, after all she too get her own secrets that I don't want to know about.
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