MARRIAGE IN THE FAMILY
Hello Stella and BV's....
I have a problems that needs answers fast.....
Is it OK to Marry the Cousin of my cousin?I am female and my female cousins cousin and i are in love and nobody knows about it yet....
He is related to her from her Father's side while i am related to her from her mother's side and we met through our mutual cousin....
I want to know first if we are committing taboo so that i can quietly and quickly rid myself of this baby growing inside me and let go of this relationship but if not then i have found the man that i will marry before the year 2019 is over....
Please be truthful with me and do not spare me so that my brain can be reset quickly.
We have been dating secretly for a year and some months and we normally spend quality time together abroad and return to the Country acting like we are just 'Cousins'
We have done everything do-able under the Sun and like i said up there,I am carrying a one month old foetus inside of me that needs to go if this is wrong....
We have actually been asking questions separately and anyone i asks and say i am asking for a friend tell me to tell her not to go ahead as she would be marrying into her own blood....How?
Please honest answers would be appreciated as it would help me make some life saving decisions...
Thank you Stella and BV'S....
*The Cousin of your cousin ?wow this is a new one and i would also need to ask around oh.......I pray that it is not a taboo ...
You are pregnant and would abort if it is a taboo?OMG,i am tongue tied
Most down syndromes are born as a result of related blood... do your findings oh.
ReplyDeleteMy father's maternal cousin's daughter got married to my father's paternal cousin. The link there was my grandmother. In other words my grandmother's sisters grand daughter got married to my grand fathers brothers son
DeleteYour cousin's cousin is NOT RELATED TO YOU by blood.
DeleteOne of his parent is from your cousin's partenal lineage. YOU ARE IN NO WAY LINKED BY BLOOD since your own parent is from your cousin's maternal lineage.
You should not have been dating secretly or engaged in premarital sex IF you had ASKED this question AT FIRST.
Please don't abort your baby. It's not JUST A ONE MONTH FOETUS. THAT IS A HUMAN BEING WITH LIFE.
Depends on where you come from.
DeleteAsk your people very well.
Northern Muslims marry first cousins
You guys are not even related. In my opinion, you can marry but like I wrote before, depends on where you're from
DeleteJust have to comment....
DeleteMy father's blood brother is married to my mum's paternal cousin. Its been 18 years, two healthy children and God's blessings.
My dad's cousin from his mother's side, also got married to his cousin from his father's side and they met in our house. I was their little bride. Their fathers are from two different villages and speak different languages, but in both cases the families knew each other so well that the wedding was like one big family.
As long as you are not related by blood, there is no issue. Your cousin is related to both of you but you people are not related to each other. Dont let anyone's ignorance ruin your happiness. Good luck!
Dear poster, you should have asked questions before opening your legs. We don't know where you are from so we don't know if it's a taboo in your village/tribe or state. nevertheless, your parents are in a better position to answer your questions. Ask your parents or close relatives
DeletePoster, you are not related by blood. Happy Married Life to you and congratulations on the baby.
DeleteYour a very stupid person, oh now that a baby is growing inside you is the right time to ask foolish question? You're a fool and I hate you for bringing shame into your family. Onye nzuzu
ReplyDeleteU urself wey dey call person fool na compound fool. She just asked for advice and not insult. Y are u taking some1 else's matter personal? U need help
DeleteThank you Fan
Deleteare u sure u are okay? there seem to be no blood ties here so why are u trying to shame her? is this how to advise someone?
DeleteDear Chronicle writer, I’m sorry but you have misplaced priorities see your problem in life, is it not your mate that came here to ask how to make money. Keep throwing your brain away ok
DeleteU guyz shud know that sometimes the screws on the fan gets loose.
DeleteWetin dey worry this Fan sef? Must u insult before u pass ur message across? Damn girl😡, u irritate me with ur attitude sometimes. Abeg go and sit down somewhere biko. Small girl like u. Tueh!
DeleteFan take it easy...how is she stupid?They are not related by bloood...they are only related by marriage. Read the Chronicles again.
Delete"He is related to her from her Father's side while i am related to her from her mother's side and we met through our mutual cousin"
Quit sunding like a broken bottle....at least she hasn't engaged in incest yet.
Poster,walk straight to your Parents n ask them these questions u threw at us...
They ought to know better.
And why hid the relationship if u claim not to know u can't marry.Cuz it's obvoius u knew all along n playing smart;now pele don enter u come dey ask jamb question.
So, you waited untill you became pregnant to ask this your question abi? Go and find out from your tribe people, they will have the right answer you seek
DeleteAsk your parents poster.
DeleteThere's no blood tie bonding you guys na. You're as free as a bird to marry yourselves my dear.
ReplyDelete@ Tbabe, you are 100% correct. THEY ARE NOT RELATED BY BLOOD.
DeleteYou are not related by blood. Let your family know about it.
DeleteVery free!!!
DeleteIf you are from the north, go ahead.
ReplyDeleteIf you guys feel it's right, why hide? Deep within u, u know d truth...
Anything relative even if its 15th cousin, i don japaaaaaaaa.
@Blackey
DeleteWetin be "japaaaaaaaaa"
Na the sound of a breaking bed be dat?
😊😊😊😊
Me too, but Sanusi Lamido marry him cousin o.
DeleteBut you should have asked before getting involved in all this.
DeleteI hope you get the right answers tho.
😁😁😁 nwuye herod.
DeleteAfter the 3rd generation, 4th generation cousins can marry in S.E.
DeleteHappened in my extended family.The guy is from the neighbouring town though resides in the US (still does). His mom (married outside my town) thought to ask since the girl's mom was also from the same town and extended family. Both moms are 3rd cousins, their son and daughter are 4th cousins.
Family elders traced the lineage and their link was from their great, great, great-grand father and gave their blessings.
The 4th cousins are still married today with fully grown children.
@17:13
DeleteHow about in the Bible?
God is not going to judge you based on the customs of the S.E.
@ Anon 18:01 w. r.t my comment by 17:13, read *Leviticus 18* and see a list of your kin that you can not get into sexual intimacy with. Cousins were not mentioned.
DeleteS. E have a lot in common with Jewish culture. It has also been traced. Ask.
God is not going to judge marriage to cousins.
Worry about her premarital sex and disregard of the life of the baby growing inside her.
@19:34
DeleteNow you made sense but we have eternity set in our hearts by God Eccl. 3:11
If this poster is free in her soul, she won't write this chronicle.
1 John 3:20 If our hearts condemn us, we know that God is greater than our hearts, and he knows everything.
@ 21:56 TRUE, God set eternity in our hearts and your reference to 1John3:20 but have you stopped to think her heart didn't condemn her until 'she got pregnant'?
DeleteIt's her premarital sex(fornication) secrecy and ignorance that is condemning her.
The guy she is involved with is her inlaw not her cousin by blood in anyway.
Her question could have been if she could marry from her inlaw's family or the same family her marternal aunt got married into.
The answer is YES.
still don't understand the causing relationship
ReplyDeleteYou mean "cousin"?
DeleteThe causing relationship is attraction and love. Now back to the cousin relationship....she is in love with her cousins cousin. Meanwhile, while you were allowing the guy ball in and out, you knew no taboo. You enjoyed alone, now you are waking me from sleep.
DeleteLol 15:55. Ezigbote waking you up from sleep
DeleteAs long as you people are related then I think it’s wrong and for you to be in doubt means that you also know that it’s wrong.
ReplyDeleteThis one you’re using an innocent child to wager “let me know if I should keep it or not blah blah” is something you should have thought of before getting pregnant. What if doctor tells you aborting would put your life at risk, what would you do?
At this point, the answer lies with what your own family considers a taboo. Whatever we say here won’t change anything if your family condemns it and this is why you need to speak out about it. You and this man you’re in love with should do the proper thing, go to your families and let them know what’s up.
I know northerners practice this up to marrying 2 and 3rd cousins but I won’t do it whether my family supports it. In fact, in some tradition the man’s first wife must be his 2nd cousin so as to protect the family name or whatever the reason is so yes your case is a possibility but like I said your family may not like it and you need to find out from them not us.
They are not related in blood o. Not even the tiniest of all.
Deletewell said.
DeleteI don't think it's wrong doppel. I'm from South-south, my dad's younger brothers married two cousins and both couples been married for more than 30yrs with kids. This poster isn't even related by blood to the boyfriend.
DeleteThey are not related by blood in any way.. I mean in even the tiniest way
Deletethey ain't related..some of u know who uve hooked up with without even knowing if u are related? abeg love ur love in peace nd leave all these sentiments
DeleteTbabe, Athena and 16:35, oh that’s great then so she shouldn’t be worried. I know people do it but I personally won’t want to do that. She should tell her family already instead of the whole hide and seek.
DeleteThey are not related
DeleteYou are not in anyway related to the guy.
ReplyDeleteOh my God! I am so happy for you poster. Congratulations! Please invite me to the wedding pleaseeeeee.
DeleteI have someone I am related to both from my mom and my dads side. They are my cousins from both sides.
My dad married my mom. Years later, My dad’s nephew married my moms cousin. When I say cousin, I mean cousin because they share same grandparents.
It's not a taboo. Read up about CONSINQUINTY & AFFINITY in Nigerian marriages. Cousins cousin does not fall within either...so ure free
DeleteHmmmmmmm
Delete@ 15:24 You are correct. I had this discussion with someone of a different faith years ago. He told me to search my Bible and see that Moses did not include marriage to cousins among close relatives one should not marry.
DeleteThe world was smaller in Moses' time. Now we have billions of people in the world.
It's just that I know I cannot marry my cousin
from my direct uncles or aunts.
They are not related na. But you sef now that you are pregnant what can I say now?
ReplyDeleteThere is absolutely no blood relationship between you two. Mbok enjoy your life. Two guys from my place, same parents married two sisters, same parents.
ReplyDeleteClap for them
DeleteI know them !
Delete👏👏👏 Fan Emmanuel nothing wrong with that. Two brothers married to two sisters. Did they do wife swap?
DeleteTwin brothers marry twin sisters.
This happened to my grandma. She and her sister had children for brothers. So their children are not even cousins but they are like brother and sister.
DeleteIf the entire relationsip is helmed in secrecy, does that mean you know deep down?
ReplyDeleteMy own be sey na why she wait until after she don do enjoyment finish, come dey ask kweshun?
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ReplyDeleteIt depends on your culture. It would be okay in my own culture as technically you are not related. You should be able to ask trusted family members.
But dating for one year secretly was enough to know where your culture stands on this.
I don't think it's an incestuous relationship.
ReplyDeleteBut wait o,has he proposed marriage to you and how come you didn't think of this before fucking him and getting pregnant?
Ask your mum or dad,they should know better.
Girls no get shame again oh... open nyash before marriage... then ask questions later.
DeleteMen no get shame again oh... Inserting prick into open yansh before marriage... then ask questions later.
Delete16:48... 😂😂😂😁😂😂😂
Delete16:48 Gbamest
Delete16:48 you made my day🤣🤣🤣🤣😁😁
DeleteI believe you are both good to go. I practically drew both family trees on paper and saw no blood line in common. So have a wonderful marriage and i wish you a safe delivery
ReplyDeleteThis type of thing you have to know and you have to know quickly
ReplyDeleteAsk your mother about him
Say u met him and u just wonder if it can work
If she says god forbid you are his ..... then you can take your next action. Don’t use can I marry my cousins cousin to ask her. Use the actual guy. If you ask with hypotheticals then any story that can help u won’t come out
For example, maybe you think he’s your cousin but he was adopted of you were. If waster pass garri, your mother will tell you well he’s adopted but if you ask in general, u may not get the right answer.
Poster, you gotta ask. Cause even if it is feasible, it doesn't mean your folks will be in support.
DeleteI meant ask your parents.....
DeleteYou wants to play emotional blackmail on us with that foetus okwaya?So you think if you tell us that a baby is involved we're gonna tell you to marry your blood relation. Abeeg carry your busy body comot here. I pray you have uterine rupture or cervical tear if you ever go ahead with that murder mission.
ReplyDeleteGod doesn't answer such prayers from hypocrites like you...sorry.
DeleteOlodo Anon!! How is he her blood relation?? These two are not even related so what are you on about??
DeleteWell I don't see anything wrong in your relationship based on where I come from. In my tribe we marry cousins though civilisation is wiping that practice out.
ReplyDeleteI'm presently married to my cousins cousin.
ReplyDeletemy cousins mum and my mum are blood sisters
while
my cousins dad and hubby's dad are blood brothers.
that is: my aunt (mum's younger sister) married my father in-law's younger brother (hubby's uncle).
no body complained nor objected, rather it was just jubilation from our relatives especially our parents.
we gave 2 boys together.
me and hubby are not related by blood in any way.
me and my aunt just married into the same family.
poster this is all the explanation you need.
DeleteEven if it is wrong, that you did it doesn't make it right, does it?
DeleteJust like someone is asking is it right to eat frog, and you go...
"Ehhh, I am just on the dinning table chewing a frog's leg"
😊😊😊😊😊😊
Is it right to commit abortion? and you go
"Ehhh, I am just coming out from the abattoir where I extinguished my baby's life"
If there is anything to talk about, it is Scriptures. At least that one says
among other things in Proverbs 6:10-16; "God hates hands that shed innocent blood"
ANG, you saying the union is wrong or what?
Delete@15:54 you did not answer poster's first question with scriptures.
Delete.... and @ 15:18 did nothing wrong marrying a cousin's cousin who is not related to her by blood.
She is 'not eating any frog or chewing on frog a frog' s leg🐸." 😂
Anyway, variety is the spice of life. Your comment just cracked me up.
@Perxian
DeleteThe truth is I don't have any Scripture (this is the manual of life) to declare that it is wrong or not.
So I am concerned about the life of the unborn child/ren. Whether wrong or not, he/they should not be killed for
no mistake of his/theirs.
The wrong things I know here are:
1. fornication
2. Being so eager to shed innocent blood.
3. writing the chronicles after opening her legs for the man
On a personal (strictly personal) perspective, I will not advice any lady to allow a
relationship to develop between she and her cousin, no matter how distant.
Hope I answered you question nwa Ada Perxian?
@Perxian
DeleteThe unlawful sexual relationships/marriage is well stated in Leviticus chapters 18 and 19
Take time to read the chapters and what Jesus said about marriage in Matthew 19
Thanks.
She is not in a relationship with her cousin . She is in a relationship with her cousins cousin. They are not related by blood. I do not know if any culture that prohibits you from marrying into a family that your your blood relative married into. I think it’s a family decision. Some families do not like marrying someone too close
DeleteThe way you’re saying ‘one month old foetus that needs to go if the relationship is a taboo’. It’s not some sort of baggage you just drop, it’s a whole child that’s growing inside you. You should have been more careful since you were unsure about the future of the relationship. Personally, I wouldn’t marry my cousin’s cousin.
ReplyDeletethat's the part i didn't like .that's a whole human being you are declearing will have to go if the relationship is a taboo. Why do you think the innocent foetus should bear the consequencies
DeleteIt’s a foetus
DeleteYou were once a foetus.
DeleteThis man of yours is related to your cousin from your cousins father side and you are related to your cousin from your mother side...I don't think its a taboo, you have no blood ties with this your guy so you are in no way related.
ReplyDeleteThank God i dont fall in liove easily. Nothing will make me follow my cousins cousins before i hear stories that touch when the love is deep.
ReplyDelete*love
Deleteor nobody just wants u😩
DeleteYou are both related
ReplyDeleteLet her be deceiving herself after getting pregnant.
DeleteHow are they related abeg??
DeleteYou guys won't kill me on this blog!! THEY ARE NOT RELATED!!!
I don't even know the cousins of my cousins. Hissss... Stay there and be giving yourself unnecessary headache
ReplyDeleteYou would have asked this question before getting pregnant .I think the best persons to give you a reasonable answer are your parents. This one you are saying cousin's cousin get 'rohi'
ReplyDeleteWait, hold on a moment. This means you're dating the son of your uncle's (ofcourse, the man your aunt married is your uncle) brother?
ReplyDeleteY'all are cousins nau.
🙄
Nooowuuuuu..She's dating her inlaw's son...her maternal cousin' cousin
Delete🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
DeleteThey are not related Odun!!
Nne, you guys are not blood related but why ask this question now that you're pregnant,why play with your reproductive organs and kpekus like this?, abi na so abortion take dey easy to dey do?
ReplyDeleteThis is the question you ask before you begin to shag not after shagging..
*sighs*.. Be guided, take care of you and your lil'bleep. 💚
Brainless girls all over na, they dont know theyd ask the right questions at the right time.
DeleteI’m also confused
ReplyDeleteYou guys aren’t related in any way by blood, there’s nothing wrong with your relationship except of course, fornication.
ReplyDeletePlease go and legalise your relationship quickly and may God bless you as you do so!
I wish you happy married life in advance.
Please whatever you both decide to do, DO NOT TAMPER WITH THE BABY INSIDE OF YOU. Murder will be a worse sin compared to both incest/fornication you have committed already. Sin cannot correct sin. The blood of Jesus does. You will be attracting the anger of God (Proverbs 6:10-16) if you kill that child. I will refer you to the book of Leviticus chapters 18 and 19.
ReplyDeleteBut girl, why is it that once Naija girls hear "abroad/marriage", you lose control kpata kpata eh?
You tohtohs begin to behave like it consumed a cocktail of steroids/ganja/heroine/coke?😯😯😯😯
Ajuju a di egwu ooo
What really is in this abroad that all of you are dying to grab. Many times I ask myself if it is the same place I know of or is "abroad" another name for heaven? This is the question I ask myself since I began visiting this blog especially whenever I am "abroad".
Look at you right now; "we have done everything under the sun..." Why didn't you write us before you began all these "everything under the sun?"
😯😯😯😯😯😯😯😯😯😯😯😯
Madam you talk/write/sound foolish and anyhow to me. You are overly judgemental. Sometimes you don't even read to understand at all. What's with you and abroad? What if she can afford the trip herself?
DeleteIf being a Christian is your type then I'm so sorry, you don't inspire me at all.
You are in abroad and you've been there and so what?
Please let people breath some fresh air.
If you were Jesus whom they brought the adulterous woman to for him to condemn, I can imagine what you would have said with all these headache inducing nonsense you scribble here all the time. I know your type, just take it easy, learn to understand people's predicaments first before you begin to dish out your judgements.
@Joycilicioux
DeleteAll this your being aggravated was for what?
😯😯😯😯😯😯
Ajuju n' ese okwu = Question that causes commotion
Your rant lays credence to that. I do not write here to impress
or to pacify anybody.
If really I want to impress, I would have gotten a blog ID, but that not it at all.
You do not know me and you have also made assumption
that you "know my type"?
I don't expect you to like me. If Jesus was liked, he will not have been crucified.
He was hated for no reason and so myself too.
The poster told us that "they went abroad and shopped and did everything under the sun..."
Based on what I read here, that probably was the attraction...
Yes, I do go abroad and I am typing right now not from Nigeria, do you have a problem with that?
Ajuju n' ese okwu 😊😊😊
Please thank you for all the insults and cool down, it is a blog, sdk blog and not
a competition set up to impress or win accolades inugo?
What you call judgment is truth -fornication/thoughts of murder; is she not involved in those?
Fear God's judgment and not humans for I am only human okay?
Ka Chukwu mere gi ebere 🙏🙏
Did you even read to understand the abroad part or you just feel like yearning your normal rubbish abroad talk?
DeleteListen whoever or whatever you are, I don't give a hoot about you. I don't need to know you on a personal level. Your comments here already gave you away. Have you forgotten that out of the abundance of heart the mouth speaks?
DeleteJesus you yap about is very very and extremely merciful both in words and actions. Learn to be like Him.
Isn't it obvious that you are a very bitter person? If you ain't hiding under covers why not get an ID? What's my business with you should you choose to please people here or not with your comments? Learn to read and understand, stop being foolish, obviously you are IBO, we are not careless with words. We are compassionate beings. Learn that....you make it seem like you are a better Christian than others. Please be like Jesus or stop mentioning Him.
@Swag
DeletePlease, I am bereft of understanding
explain the abroad part to me inugo?
@Joycilicioux
DeleteWawu, me bitter person?
and you quote bible "out of the abundance of the heart..."
See everything ya mouth yarn up there 👆, compare it with my own and judge who is bitter
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
May God have mercy on your JOYFUL soul inugo
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
@ Anon 15:27 aka Ajuju n'ese okwu, please you would do well to heed @ Joycilicioux much as she sounded exasperated.
DeleteSOME,(not all) of your comments on previous posts were REASONABLE...BUT...on this post.... YOU DID NOT READ TO UNDERSTAND THEREFORE YOU OFFERED NO ADVICE.
A Christian should approach matters like his or her Master, Jesus Christ - with love and compassion even when rebuking or correcting, not with condemnation.
Please, learn to take corrections and not take on every BV that disagree with you no matter how harsh SOME of their words are. Respond in love.
Shalom. ✌️
@19:55
DeleteDid I respond in hate?
Ajuju k' m juru gi?
Someone is laughing and you call that hate?
Like I said in another comment up there, I don't have any scripture
on this and if you have please teach me, I want to learn too. But I won't
advice a girl to have intimacy with her cousin (this is my watchword in the above) or any relative and of course
I have always written scriptures on fornication and abortions which I know God
hates.
Please if the above response is not in love, teach me how to respond in love.
Shalom too 😊😊
@Joy one bottle of beer for you biko...typing from abroad indeed. When someone doesn't read to understand, that's the kind of response you get.
Delete@Olive K
DeleteSo of all the things I typed there, only "abroad" was what you saw?
Was Joy not the person that brought up "abroad" first?
I do not need all your endorsement but I have always made myself clear.
I DO NOT HAVE A SCRIPTURE FOR THIS GIRL except the fornication/abortion intent aspect.
If abroad dey pain you, kpele o.
I know from what I read in this blog that if that guy did not have have the capacity to
take her "abroad for shopping and doing everything under the sun..." (whatever it all means), she will
not have opened legs to collect a baby without thinking about the "supposed" blood relationship.
Thanks for your insult inugo?
And keep distributing bottles of beer... 😊😊😊
I know someone who married her cousin’s cousin.
ReplyDeleteI think tribe matters too 💁🏿♂️
@Slutty Chikito
DeleteIs God the creator going to judge our actions according to what
our tribe allows or according to what is in his Word?
Okwa ajuju ka m juru o
Make una dey fear God and not family or tribe o
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Okay, which tribe yarn say make person "do everything under the sun", commit fornication
Deleteand shoot the baby dead? 😢😢😢
Why innocent baby go suffer for ya sins eh sisi poster?
Ajuju 🤪🤪🤪 my tribe 🏃🏿♀️🏃🏿♀️🏃🏿♀️🏃🏿♀️🏃🏿♀️
Deletein my tribe, you can marry from 2nd cousin how much your cousin's cousin.... what you should have detailed is your tribe cos i know yorubas, as long as one person says, this man is your brother's cousin's nephew's dog owner's grandchild, e don be for that relationship
ReplyDeleteYou can marry. You guys are not related in anyway. My cousin from My dads side.married my mum’s younger brother.
ReplyDeleteyou are not related in any way. You can only call him family.go ahead with the marriage plans. Your only fear should be what your both families reaction will be but if they can understand that you are not related by blood that's all
ReplyDeleteThere's no blood relation here, go ahead and marry biko.
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmm, this is LOUD OOOOOO, that's how one of my aunt married her cousin too , it wasn't an easy one in the family as it torn the family but they remain adamant , although they separated and later connected again and got married 9yrs ago now.
ReplyDeletei dont know if its same thing with yours, but here is the way they were connected.
lets call aunt Tola, hubby Femi.
Tola's MOTHER younger sister + the son of the elder sister of husband(husband of tola mum younger sis).
therefore no same surname involved at both parties, thats the conclusion of a pastor that was called speak to those not in support.
Why dont you stylishly ask the elders at home, maybe you'll get a better answer.
ReplyDeleteI think you should ask your questions from your mum or aunties so you know what you are up against. If you want to be fair to yourself. We have no way of knowing where you are from.
ReplyDeleteAnd then you put the cart before the horse. This is what happens when you start sleeping with someone who is not your husband. This are the challenges you have when the priorities are rearranged.
It's very okay, go get yo man. Congratulations in advance 😊.
ReplyDeleteThere is no blood relationship so you are good. Google it if you doubt
ReplyDeleteSorry Poster, I am not judging you o. But why didn't you ask this question before having sexual intimacy with him. Take style ask your mum or elderly ones. OSETIGO! Good luck to you.
ReplyDeletePlsgo ahead with Marriage plans. Tell your parents as soon as possible. There is absolutely no blood tie between you two.
ReplyDeleteMy own is why didn't you ask these questions before SECRETLY (guilty conscience) going under the sack with your supposed cousin's cousin?? Now a CHILD is on the line and you are here asking JAMB questions...
ReplyDeleteAnyway, the good news (for the innocent child) is that you are not related from my point of view. So go ahead and do the wedding.
However irrespective of whatever PLEASE DON'T KILL THAT INNOCENT CHILD!!
Cheers..
Since you're in doubt, ask your family members and let them know everything. They are in the best position to answer you not us.
ReplyDeleteThere's a list of people you cannot marry by common law, go to any registry to find out. However you need to find out what your parents will think of this because culture affects our actions more than the law.....good luck.
ReplyDeleteWell poster you should have made this enquiry before getting pregnant now a baby is involve even though u called it foetus.
ReplyDeleteI pray you'll get responses that will favour u but come to think of it, you are not related na
You are not related in any way to him.
ReplyDeleteHe is her cousin from her father’s side so no blood relation to you at all. Her father has no blood ties to you so the son of her father’s sibling has no blood ties to you at all. Yes you can call him (cousin’s cousin) family based on familiarity but calling him family doesn’t make him your blood relative.
But why should the innocent baby suffer for your fornicating soul?🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️😢
ReplyDeleteIf anyone should be killed at all, isn't is you?
For even nursing the thoughts of murder?
LOL at fornicating soul. 😂😂
DeleteLmao! It's not funny poster.
DeleteYou are not related in anyway, you only have a mutual connection (your cousin)
ReplyDeleteI would totally marry my cousin's cousin. I know 2 families with this kind of relationship in Igbo land.
If you can shag him without our input,why can't you marry him without our input?
ReplyDeletemy sister you guys aint related in anyway,you guys can go ahead with your marriage.its not a taboo. moreover you guys aint cousins
ReplyDeleteIf you are related by marriage then there’ is no blood relationship. You both seem to have mutual cousin and are joined by marriage. So there is no blood relationship between the two of you.
ReplyDeleteThe funny thing is even if we said its a taboo and you got rid of the baby you wil still carry on sleeping with him. So why act bothered ?
ReplyDeleteExactly, don't mind her. She's still going to continue gbenshing the guy even if they tell her it's a taboo.
DeleteNne you guys are not related or tied by blood. Same scenario played out in my family and the couple has 5 healthy kids,the eldest just got admission into the University.
ReplyDeleteWhatever decision you guys make,please don't abort the innocent baby.
Congratulations in advance.
Babe don't abort that baby. You both have found yourselves marriage partners.
ReplyDeleteYou are not related by blood. Its just a tricky something. Like people will view u all as family. But its no taboo. Please don't allow people bully you concerning this. As long as he stands by you in all,you both will be fine.
please why don't u ask ur parent if u are related
ReplyDeletemy dad's sister married my mum's dad. my mum married my dad who is her step mum's brother. we have something called 'ikwu' in my village. irrespective of how close you think you're related, as long as you're not from the same ikwu, you're good to go. you guys are actually not related, dunno why you're hiding your relationship
ReplyDeleteJaz are you from Abiriba?
DeleteMe sef no know oo, my sister and her husband share a common first cousin. It's very normal in my place. I am from Delta. All my parents brothers and sisters married all this kind of shared cousin things. Abeg you people are not related.
DeleteStaff of the biggest bank in Nigeria
Na wa ooo
DeleteYou guys are not blood related
ReplyDeleteI know someone that’s getting married to her step Cousin ..I.e her half sisters cousin .
You do not have any blood relations with this guy, both of you could get married. But do the honourable thing and bring your mother into the picture. She will give you more clarifications. Wish you the very best on this journey.
ReplyDeleteI don't see any blood ties here but it will be best if you can do findings from your mum.
ReplyDeleteYou are in no way related but not sure your peeps will buy it oo. As far as I am concerned you guys should go ahead already. Not being tribalistic o but imagine your original cousin is Yoruba and the cousin-cousin (your man) is Igbo, are you related? Even if they are both from same community, una lineage cross path? I wish you luck sha and i think you should have a one on one with you mom, sister, dad, brother or anyone who would not broadcast matter if you know what i mean. and dont tell them you are pregnant ooooo until you decide what to do.
ReplyDeleteAll the best!
This one na pure blackmail you bring come here , the fact that you have a child growing in there , what were your expectations from us to you? Madame I ll suggest that you stylishly ask an elder in your family or extended family , because we all are of different cultural background. Wish you the best. 'Make una dey try find out some things no be say una go dey do medicine after death oooooo'
ReplyDeleteDon't mind her. She knew what she was getting into before opening her legs
DeleteBased on thos explanation you're not blood related so why were you people hiding your relationship? Is one of you known to be useless and not wanting the other to know or something? You're not at all related biologically.
ReplyDeleteYou guys are not related Jor,My dads step sister is my mums cousin reason that out
ReplyDeleteMbano.....the assignment on this chronicle is enough.....
DeleteI don't know so I'll read comments.
ReplyDeletePlease do not get rid of that baby. I beg you in the name of Jesus. As a matter of fact, you guys are not related at all. Forget what people will say. You cannot kill a baby because that child might be a blessing to you.
ReplyDeleteYou guys aren't related by blood, three Cousins (3 brothers) mine married three Cousins, the eldest brother got married first and the wife introduced her Cousins to her hubby's brothers and it wasn't a topic for discussion sef not.
ReplyDeleteCongrats in advance, but next time no use abortion threaten us eh.
You are not related, you are free to marry.Even in Igbo land where traditions plays important role, you can marry.You guys did nothing wrong and please don't abort that child.
ReplyDeleteYou guys aren't related by blood so nothing at all stops you. My mum and her sister(my aunt) are married into the same family. So her children are my cousins back and fort.
ReplyDeleteWedding bells ringing. Get up and start planing already😄
In Yorubaland, once you marry into a family. All your family members become members of that family! Hmm! This would have been resisted. My sister in law is actually our cousin on a female side. We did not know because you know how Yoruba men can born and women go on to change their name. People die and families forget the link. My SIL is a 5th cousin. By that time she and my brother don marry Gbensh well well. Otherwise that marriage would not have held.
ReplyDeleteAt some point we will marry someone related unknowingly
ReplyDeletePoster you know the truth about what you did but come here looking for people to urge you to go ahead..
ReplyDeleteWhy didn't you ask this same question long before now, until you are now pregnant, seens it dawn on you that you have done a shameful thing..
A cousin is a cousin, forget if it's fifth generation..
I think you should confide in an Elder in the family and open up.Am sure he / she would advise you appropriately .
ReplyDeleteYou are not related at all,go ahead and Marry him...please don't remove that baby,i once did and am still regretting till today..please leave the baby out of this....Go ahead and marry him, no blood relationship ...Goodluck
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