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Sunday, July 21, 2019

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative...

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STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
MARRYING INTO A FAMILY THAT IS DIVIDED



Pls I need advice.
I am about to wed into a family of 6 women and 3 men all from one woman.
Father and mother are still alive.
I and the first son's wife do flow...


But I heard the second son's wife is a snub.
I heard she communicates with just Fil once in a blue moon.
My sil's and mil to be has never spoken good of her.
I call the second son's several times he reciporcate alot but just once have i spoken to the wife and she seemed she wanted to get off the phone quickly.


Maybe kids or something I don't know.
For a while if I send the second son messages on what's app he rarely replies.
He is the only family member I have not seen.
My fiancee and he are the closest.
My fiancee calls him like four times in a day but I notice he rarely calls my fiancee but always gives my fiancee a listening ear even if it is in the middle night..


The wife has called my fiance once in my presence.
I have asked my fiancee why the family hates her.
He always dodges the question.
I called the second son last week to ask for his wife's number.
I notice if I ask the second son I want to speak with her when I call him he starts giving me excuses like he's at work...
She is not home etc...


They are doing financially well.
my fiancee only told me his brother has money but does not like to help him but he loves the brother unconditionally so he has learnt to look beyond that.
Last week I called the second son to ask for the wife's number..
He said am I not suppose to ask my fiancee if I truly want to speak with his wife?


That got me shocked cos we have no issues.
I don't know if I should just ignore or ask for her number from my fiancee and call her.
She blocked all his family members on social media including my fiancee.
She seems to give them all distance..
So what do u think I should do....
I sent her a friend request but she has not confirmed it.
I want a United family.


Again my fiancee took a long while to introduce me to his family members.
We did introduction without them.
Just the senior son and friends came..
After introduction I insisted.
He grudgly took me To them after much persuasion.
Wedding is in August ending...
Most times before he does anything he always calls the second son for his opinion.


He avoids me visiting his people...
The second son is the only kid to wed without first having a kid out of wedlock.
My fiancee is the last while the second son is the 7th but my fiancee said age wise he is senior to the brother's wife.


if she gives birth they never inform her my fiancee people.they hubby calls just my fiancee finish.if the kids are celebrating my fiancee say he is the only one his brother do tell.whilst the rest knows from pictures online from their brother.
The second son can go years and never call his people .
They have 2 boys now.





*Why exactly do you need the wife's number and why are you so insistent to be a part of their lives?The Nigerian mentality huh?Yes its good to want a united Family but face the immediate one you are about to start...

Get your nose off their business already and stay on your lane....REPEAT -STAYON YOUR LANE before you open a can of worms that you will wish you nver opened

96 comments:

  1. This poster you are annoying. I didn't even read up till the end. Are you idle? Or will you be living in the same house or room with them after marriage? What's all this notice me for really?

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    1. Why can't we sincerely drink water and mind our business? Just why???? This is totally uncalled for. Stop snooping around. Enjoy your husband and be courteous to all when the opportunity arises. Stop asking foolish questions everywhere, I don dey vex sef

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    2. I wish my family in-law would mind their business and leave me alone.
      They are always in my home, there's hardly any privacy at our home, no spontaneous sex, nothing.
      Poster, you don't know what God is protecting you from, just mind your fiancee and leave his family alone.

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    3. Stella I disagree with u and everyone saying the poster shd mind her business. I've been married for 2 years now and my husband's family are like the posters family too and I hate it sooo much. I LOVE family a lot and a United one at that. My hubby and his siblings hardly communicate (they don't have any quarrelooo) it's just their personality and I don't like it. I have a son now and will have more kids and I want my kids to know their uncles, aunts, cousins etc coz I personally come from a home where we relate extendedly a lot...can u believe my hubby hasn't even been to the village since his primary school. He doesn't even know his uncles and aunts...make person no go marry him relative in futureoooo.

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    4. If the woman decides to be on her own what's your wΓ hΓ‘lΓ  about that. If you get married into the family by August you should determine your own Relationship with them, stop trying too much to look good in sight of every family members. So gba sister.

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    5. I just went back to finish.
      Poster, you have started gossiping and you never enter.
      They said ... you heard...
      Kwakwakwa.
      They'll soon treat your fxk up with that your long mouth.
      Your fiancee is older than the the second sons wife yen yen yen.
      So what????.
      I know people like you.
      Obsessed with age and what not.
      I hope you dont do this nonsense to your own brothers wives oo.
      Better remove your nose from their business and face yours.
      I say this cos you sound like you have experience in this kind d of stuff.
      Leave your brothers and their wives alone to enjoy their marriage.
      I know why I'm saying this.
      Anyways, you'll soon walk in their shoes and know how far.

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    6. Poke nosing u r disgusting

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    7. Nigerian mentality!!!!! I said this before reading Stella’s comment. Why the need for attention and constant communication! Stay civil, amicable and approachable! Period!!

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    8. Poster in as much as understand where u coming from, u quite annoying. Allow them b 4 Heavens sake. If u insist on knowing ask ur man. Let ur curiosity and nosiness end with ut man. Stop calling people up and down. Na them dey feed u ni?

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    9. Stupid gum body attitude. Stay in ur house by ur self pls.

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    10. I just dnt kno y Nigerian girls are like this!
      Just y CAN'T u stay on ur lane? Y?
      Few months twas here we read abt a girl troubling her mother-in-law-to be with calls n d poor woman got irritated! N told her squarely dat she hated her.

      Just stay on ur lane n things will be fine. U dnt even kno what God has done for u! Some women are crying in their homes bcos of in law issues..visiting without even informing dem dat dey are coming, opening fridge n eating anything, n taking anything dey like in anoda person's home to their own houses just cos d woman is married to thier brother!

      Abeg stay on ur lane!
      D woman's husband has even given u warning, u still no wan hear! Mtchew!

      D day dey will show u pepper is coming,better stay on ur lane!

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  2. FACE YOUR FRONT!! Busy body inlaw to be

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    1. Poster, why can't you just mind your business? You don't have to live everyday with these people, so why get involved.
      New wife that Mrs is "shacking" abi? Ask your hubby what really transpired between them, if he doesn't want to tell you please face your front.
      Your hubby is kind of a kiss ass that's why he feels he needs to have a relationship with his elder brother who doesn't give a damn about him.
      You do not have a problem with your in-laws, so what's your own, why are you always disturbing the second son for his wifes number? She obviously doesn't want to be friends with you so just leave them be abeg.
      If you force any relationship with her, your mother-in-law will not be happy with you.

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  3. Poster, do you have a problem minding your business?
    You haven’t been married into that family yet, you are already trying to mediate πŸ’πŸΏ‍♂️
    Why are you asking your fiancee’s brother for his wife’s number? Busybody πŸ™„
    Is it friendship you are looking for or what exactly?
    Stay in your lane.

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  4. Thank You stella, you have said it all. poster has not even entired the house and has already made a villain out of her sister and brother inlaw. Mind your damn business. Not everyone likes the extended family together lifestyle. What is your problem sef.

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  5. stay in your lane and mind your immediate business

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  6. See your mouth like you want a united family! Lmao! If their mother and father the owners of the family haven’t united them, who the hell are you? My dear, stop doing more than yourself.

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    1. She is their messiah, their saving grace the glue that wants to bond the family together.

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  7. I cannot understand this kind of thing. You just portrayed yourself as a person who pokes her nose in everything. Sorry. Can you let them be? Concentrate on your husband to be and get married if you want to. That's my opinion. Greeter gbogbo aye. Sorry again. ��

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    1. I swear down kiks... she want to start doing all these community wives group thingy.
      If I call u once and u sound somehow, be u my mother inlaw, sister inlaw or whatever, it will take a very long time for u to see my call on ur phone.

      My sister inlaws always complain to my husband that I don’t call them. How will I call them? Even before the wedding if u see how these people where carrying faces as if I’ve offended them before. Now u want me to call u? Wetin wan happen make e happen abeg! I only call my father inlaw and I love him alot and I want to believe he likes me too kos of the way we do rapport.

      Poster Abeg mind ur business o, it will help u a lot. Focus on making money so that no one will see u finish Biko.

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  8. Madam busy body face your front ooh before you put yourself inside gbege

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  9. What I can deduce from your mail is that your bride price has been paid
    which means that you are married; congrats.
    But it looks like the "usual"; no detailed discussions and planning during courtship. Now, you are being faced with a sharp "dividing" sword you have to contend with without even beginning the marital journey?
    Do not throw yourself on people, for you will only earn despise. Concentrate on your new husband; ask to know anything you need to know about his former family. Yes FORMER because, a man shall leave his father and mother and be united to his wife and the two will become
    one flesh.
    He has left, you too should leave.
    the process of cleaving together is what should concern you and not this
    "gather for selfie" you are doing.
    So what happened during courtship; fork styles?
    Ajuju n' ese okwu
    😊😊😊

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    1. My dear me while I agree you should mind your business too but, I believe your fears are genuine. You see that kind of family big wahala dey for you too after you enter finish, just tight your ojar well. There is something seriously wrong in that family and that's is evident in their disunity. I saw the same in my ex before I married him and today my marriage is no more. The unity in the family you Marry into is very important. In my case my ex mother had married twice, left her 1st husband after 8 kids and birthed 2 outside of which my husband is of the second marriage and the last 2. I was told from the get go to keep away from the step siblings plus she did not stay in the second marriage still. You can't call them, we can't go to their village where he is from because, his dad died after visiting years ago his own village fa so they are witches. My first siblings are jealous cos my mom left them and married my dad a lot of nonsense. I prayed to unite them. In the end I should have walked. After marriage I noticed my ex lacked the character of a husband, cos of how he grew up without a father. His mom was all he had, his eldest step brother is a pastor, a lot of times I wanted to reach out to him to please intervene and speak with him, but nay I could not due to the manual of rules I was given until my marriage hit the rocks. My ex also had that unstable character of his mom and an alter disregard for marriage as something you can just walk out of when you are tired. They travel to his mothers village as theirs all this I kept hidden from my family, when they asked I visit them, they also had this fetish fear of one another. I don't want them to know what is happening in my business, my marriage, that I just bought a car. The truth is that family is not a good 1, family says a lot about a person and sometimes it can be a warning sign for things to come. I can see you are someone who loves peace based on ur understanding of family which is actually what it should be, regardless of what people are writing as though you have bo reason to be worried. My dear what you have seen are signs of what will also be your fate after marriage. Just prepare your mind and hope for the best my dear. If you are marrying him be prepared to mind your business and be ready to be infested with some of their hates. Thanks.

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  10. Busy body dey worry you o. What do you want from them? Are you there mother or father who are still alive? What's your business with how they relate? Must they come to you? If they dont communicate with you, is that an offence. If you want a United family, change fiance na.
    What does a grown ass man about to marry need from his family? Is he not working? Begi begi spirit dey your body.
    Let me calm down, my own too much sef.

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  11. Marry your guy and face front. Where you looking for the whole family for, wetin be your own sef?!

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  12. Why you just dey find friendship upandan?

    Face who you are getting married to.

    If you're not comfortable the way things are, leave the family and marry someone else.

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  13. Poster why are you looking for problem where there's none. You're looking for a perfect family and there's no such thing as that more so in large families but that doesn't mean they don't show love where it matters the most. Focus on yourself and future hubby. I don't really think you have any problem.

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  14. Instead of wasting your energy on wanting to be friends with her, why not use that same energy to re-check the colour of your asoebi or start counting if your souvenir is complete. Nonsense and efulefu!

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  15. What's your problem poster, stay on your lane. Mind your business and stop trying to start what you cannot finish.

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  16. Madam what exactly are you looking for? Must you be bestie with everyone in your fiances family. You havnt even entered the family and you are looking for trouble already. Be friends with who wants to be ur friend and leave whoever is not interested.
    What you owe eachother is being civil when you meet at family functions. Every wife or family must not be your friend. So far you have mutual respect for eachother. Face your marriage pls.

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  17. Madam what exactly are you looking for? Must you be bestie with everyone in your fiances family. You havnt even entered the family and you are looking for trouble already. Be friends with who wants to be ur friend and leave whoever is not interested.
    What you owe eachother is being civil when you meet at family functions. Every wife or family must not be your friend. So far you have mutual respect for eachother. Face your marriage pls.

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  18. Iya Oshoronga of Blogosphere21 July 2019 at 15:25

    Your desperation for a united family will bring insult and trouble upon your head. Some of you need spiritual eyes to see and nose to smell. Poster, mind your damn business and face your own issues. That sister in law you want to be close to ‘by fire, by force’ will be your downfall. You’ll see. You are just entering a family and you are calling people all over the place, acting like voltron defender of the universe! You are the type of wife that is dealt with seriously within a few years of marriage and you will be calm and quiet. Watch the wives in front of you when you are just entering a family and align yourself because they have seen things you have not yet seen. You turned yourself to a frog, jumping up and down until you eventually jump inside fire. Shior !

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  19. "Face the immediate one you are about to start...


    Get your nose off their business already and stay on your lane....REPEAT -STAY ON YOUR LANE"....

    NEED I SAY MORE?

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  20. Who did this to Nigerian women? You sound like my SILs. Jesus Christ! Are you marrying the whole family? You want a family that's united nyen nyen nyen. If you like, don't face the family you're about to build with your fiance, you hear? Madam community builder!

    Listen, let me tell you - the fact that you married someone's brother, son or brother-in-law does NOT mean you must be friends! All you're owed is courtesy. How can you be friends, you have nothing in common apart from marrying men from the same bloodline, oh! What's wrong with you? How can you be chasing a grown woman around for friendship? Why won't she be worried about your intentions? Is your self-esteem that low? If I were her, I'd block you on social media as soon as I see your request. I'm not talking to you on the phone, we don't visit each other but you're stalking me on social media? Ra ra, oh! The others don't like that particular one cos she doesn't have their time and she hasn't allowed them close enough to see a weakness to exploit; that's why they're angry.

    Your fiance calls his brother four times a day? For what, fgs? Grown men?! Is your fiance's brother owing your fiance, anything? Are they Siamese twins? You that he's marrying, how many times does your fiance call you in a day?

    You did introduction without them, so? I did full traditional marriage without any of my husband's sisters, brothers or their wives knowing or attending, oh! Heaven didn't fall. Na from their village people dem hear; yes!

    Some of you, when your husband is trying to protect you from the already existing madness in his families that has been there for years, you that arrived yesterday will refuse. Repairer of the breech that God didn't send you. Go and put your head inside your MIL's mouth, so they can call you good wife that will help them diss SIL that doesn't have your time. Shior!

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    1. I pity you. When your husband start misbehaving you will gba fun olorun. Your mouth sharp well well.

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    2. Anon 16:47 Why are you angry with Anon 15:26? Maybe her husband is your brother, that's why you're vexed? Manage and face your own life, you hear

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    3. Anon 16:47 If you're bitter and resentful because men misbehave in your family, don't use it to judge others you don't even know. Go and pray for favour, so that the thing others say is a weakness is why you will rise.

      My "sharp mouth" is part of the reason my husband's kinsmen and town elders ran to pay my brideprice and did all they were asked to do, as soon as my husband told them I'm the one. If I was your average Nigerian desperado like the poster, I wouldn't be married.

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  21. I honestly do not like people like you who try to force a friendship. you will hear people sing"friendship isn't by force" but deep down they don't really understand the meaning of that word. You can't even read between the lines or is it that you don't understand body language or none verbal cues? She doesn't want to be friends with you let it rest.
    And you all need to stop that word "snub". Simply because someone doesn't accept your hand of friendship you put forward doesn't make them a snub, it simply means they aren't interested. I remember when back then in school everyone I never had a rapport with started calling me a snub. " like must I talk to you"? Where is it written I owe you, friendship? I had just two friends then and I was okay with it but no, she is proud she is this and that. Nigerians always feeling entitled to everything. Be it money, time, assistance, money and now by force friendship has been added to the mix. You want a united family, must she want what you want? She is staying in her lane because she doesn't want wahala. Leave her alone and stop making a molehill out of nothing.

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    1. Poster, you probably were brought up in a close-knitted family but learn to understand that people and many others were brought up differently. That woman wasn't born to see things your way, she wasn't born to please you or do things as you deem fit. She wasn't born to like what you like and reason like you. As long as she isn't hurting anyone one, Biko let her rest. Same goes for you anon 16.01. You could have backed out when you noticed just like the poster the kind of family you were marrying into, but you went ahead and come here to complain that you support the poster.

      What is it with some humans that when someone's minds their business, it becomes a crime?
      You must have really disturbed their peace that the elder brother had to ask you; if you couldn't ask of his wife's number from your soon to be husband. That should tell you he has had enough. You must be a naturally suffocating person in real life. I am sure 80% of the friends you have in real life you enforced your presence in their lives. Learn to respect yourself.

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    2. Who knows sef if the elder brother's wife was formerly like her before when she just enters the family back then and recently calmed down when her cleared. You better stay on your lane, with your too eager too please, extremely friendly over the top self.

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  22. The wife does not want family friendship respect her space so you don't stir up old wounds.

    she probably is disciplined and does not take nonsense from her inlaws. Stay on your lane to get your respect.

    That, the second son is the only one that got married without kid out of wedlock is discipline from their part and should tell you about the family you want to enter.

    Keep to yourself and don't gum body to mother and sister in law for your own good, you will soon be part of them so wait; shine your eyes and OBSERVE so they don't have anything to say about you when you do not agree with them.


    Pray pray and continue to pray for healing and love genuinely with your heart if you decide to still marry your fiancee, but I repeat stay on your lane!

    See, because you are marrying one of them does not mean you will be friends with all of them. Even if you lick their feet some will still find a problem with you. Your respect is necessary so see finish does not enter.

    Your fiancee should also let his brother be and focus on his own home without everytime not making decisions without asking him.

    If you feel you cant abide by the things your eyes are seeing and ears are hearing then please leave and don't further cause issues. If a United family is truly what you seek in marriage to make the marriage work then leave before it is too late.

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  23. You are too noisy for my liking and busy body. What is your problem with them? It has been like that for years in their family, why do you want to make yourself the CHIEF PEACE MAKER to what end exactly? Stay on your own and leave their family the way it is as long as it is not affecting you. Why are you busy calling them? Why are you calling the wife who have succeeded in living her life that way reason best known to them? Mind your business woman! Stop forcing yourself into people family, they have women in that family and if they are minding their business, so do you! I don't think you want a united family, because the united family you should want is yours, your husband and you! Stop calling them unnecessarily unless you say hi when your husband is on the phone with the brother. Leave that lady alone, stop trying to be friend with someone who the family knows she is like that, don't create unnecessary enemy by being irritating and noisy. LEAVE THEM ALONE AND CONCENTRATE ON YOUR MARRIAGE!

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  24. As in Stella you said my mind!! Mind your business!! I don't have my hubby's siblings numbers let alone their wives and husbands. I don't call them or talk to them except need be via hubby's phone. Please nne mind your business.

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  25. Busy body in law to be,i beg mind your business,i can see why the second son wife is staying away,na because of people like you������

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  26. Please, just mind your business. Stella's advise is enough for you.

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  27. Just focus on the new family you are about to start. It is not compulsory to be close to every inlaw. Besides, they don't want to be close to anyone. I would be glad to have in laws who stay away and not bother me. I love my space

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  28. I'll advise you to just face your front and don't go poking your nose into issues that does not concern you in any way. It's their family, their life, their way. It may not align with your upbringing but not in your place to put mouth. I'm speaking from personal experience o.

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  29. Madam what is your business with who to call and who not to call? Don't you know how to mind your business? why do you want to create trouble for yourself? I beg focus on your marriage and leave their family issue.

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  30. madam ur pepper body is too much, nothing is my force in this world, mind your business!

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  31. Or maybe the second son and wife have money and poster wants to attach. Because I don’t understand

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    1. She said that the brother has money. Poster is just an entitled person. United family, ko. Arsenal group, ni.

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  32. Only someone with Dependent Personality Disorder behaves the way you do. Stop playing the unsolicited role of a family fixer because you're not.

    This thing you're looking for, no go find maggot inside salt ooo.

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  33. Radio without battery, telephone wire... Mind ur business before den go open business centre untop ur head

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  34. You no get work?
    Abi you don make all the money for life finish wey you put person matter for head like this.
    You better face front,drink water and mind your business(I.e your fiance and yourself)
    dey your dey make them dey their own.

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  35. I hardly comment but I have to comment this:

    YOU ARE ONE HELL OF A BUSY BODY!!!!

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  36. And very soon the second son will stop telling your fiancΓ©e things and he will join other family members to start seeing updates via pictures. And this will be because of your busy body. Madam aproko.

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  37. This poster sure has a problem, poking nose and looking for trouble up and down. Drink water and mind your business...

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  38. Mind your business madam ,focus on your man

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  39. You wanna be a friend to every one even to the ones who aren't interested? Is it too hard to be on your own and face your new phase of life;o GA o. Look for a united family if truly that is what you desire WHOLEHEARTEDLY

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  40. how somebody will want to marry a busy body like you is beyond me. I hope none of my relatives bring in a wife like you. we are at peace the way we are. what's your problem with people's lives? why can't you focus on the family you are about to start?

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  41. Lady T/worth more than a thousand dollars21 July 2019 at 16:08

    Dear poster,I think you are from a family that is functional. Where everyone is there for everyone hence your desire to hook up with your in-laws.
    Look at it this way, if they wanted a cosy relationship with you they won't make it so difficult and would go the extra mile to make you feel welcome, which I think is what you want.

    Since what you expect is not happening, let it go. You've made your moves enough. Stay out of their lives as much as you can help before they make you and your fiance miserable. If they talk to you, you respond nicely. If not, still act cool at all times.

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    1. This is one of the most sensible comments I've read here ,
      I totally understand her but she is going about it the wrong way . I'm from a closely knit family and I've already told my homie that I'd like to have a good relationship with his family, I want us all to be a happy family, I'm not going to be all up in their business but I'd just like to have a healthy relationship with everyone of them .

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  42. So, because you heard that they are happy and rich, you want to kill them with famzing abi?

    You are either delusional or into witchcraft.

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    1. No be small witchcraft. Woman that is minding her own business is being called a snob by the yeye girl who wants to famz by force.

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  43. What's your own sis.....haba face your husband and leave his family. I mean all of them. Don't bother getting close to any. That woman married to the second son has a reason for avoiding them. Hope you wont learn the hard way. Use this your energy for something constructive and productive. I don't go looking for anyone o....I stay my lane but if there is a celebration, I do my quota. If you call me I will also call you. If not sorry o...simple

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  44. Poster all I will say is that u are a gossip!! I pity ur husband. Something that has nothing to do with u is what u are beefing for?? Haaa women like u are the reason why marriages fail

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  45. I'm annoyed, voetsekkkkk @ poster!! This one is a Chronicle too? Mtschewwww

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  46. I know you are a good person, but I'll advise you to mind your business. Just start planning for your self, fiance and baby on the way (deduced from your write up).
    Everyone must not be in good terms ok, learn that. Don't force anything, allow things flow naturally so you won't become the enemy tomorrow.
    I don't even know most of my cousins from my father's side but you know what?, I don't really care to know because they aren't feeding us.
    I have already told myself that I will disassociate myself from my mum's people (cousins included) immediately I start making cool money or get married, they're not worth it. This is to show you that sometimes family is not every thing. Sometimes you become family with people you never expected. Outsiders.
    That your brother in-law and his wife probably have people they regard and are free with outside. Youu do not know what there reasons are so don't try too hard ok. Honey, you are a good person I know but take a chill pill and mind your business.

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  47. I dislike people like the poster, they don’t mind their business, putting eye in business and matters that doesn’t concern them. Get busy abeg. Issh

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    1. Me too. After love bombing people and forming united family they become the biggest enemy. Yes, poster should get busy.

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  48. Poster it's obvious something happened and the wife decided to stay in her lane. Please leave them alone,they don't want she said that you said... It may not necessarily mean that the lady is bad like they made you believe. Just be very careful with your new family,don't go there and forget yourself. Just don't overdo or try to do better wife things,be yourself. Respect everyone and mind your business. Don't gossip with anyone in the family about any other person in the family.

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  49. Hmmmm. Poster nothing is wrong with you. You look like a very friendly person but you must know that not everybody will be like you nor act like your immediate family members.

    What you need now is to dey your dey. They don't mix from your husband's side. Let them be and don't mix with them. That's how you will earn their respect. They will reach out when they see that you don't send. Don't let them detest you nor pull down your self esteem. If you need any friendship, make your husband one. Call your own people when you need people around you. I wish you best of luck. Happy married life in advance.

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  50. She's forming good wife. Poster mind your business.

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  51. Are you jobless? Face your front and marriage to be. What's your business and with their family wahala. Every family has theirs and how they cope with it. You are not even married sed you dey gum bodyπŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„

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  52. hi service, u can't please everyone

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  53. This poster is a busy body. Mschew! Better mind your own husband and leave others alone.

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  54. I do respect your courage for forcing yourself on people who don't care about you, why wake a sleeping dog. l once called my sister in-law and she felt so entitled that she spoke rudely to me, I tried calling her for the second time and she acted as if it was a wrong number. My sister nobody told me to borrow sense, I stopped calling her, afterall I am married to her brother not her. I will advise that you do the same. Please mind your business and relate with those who care, you can't unite a dysfunctional family.

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  55. Are u sure u want to enjoy ur marital life? If yes then stay off..face ur front and don't try to be a peace maker

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  56. See some people prefer to be left alone. What's your own? Na by force? Why keep asking for phone number if the person has made it clear they're not interested? Friendship na by force? Please get busy.

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  57. Am I the only one seeing calling the BRother four times????

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    1. That the poster doesn't see anything wrong with that is amazing! The only brother that has agreed to have enough sense to "leave and cleave" is who they want to drag back into nonsense. An adult is calling his brother four times DAILY - not that they work together, anybody is ill, any debt is owed - but hanty doesn't see anything wrong. Instead, she has started stalking the man's wife.

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  58. Madam famzer leave them alone, i hate nosy people like you. On your wedding day if you see her collect her number directly from her.or tell ur fiancee to take u for a visit in their house then you can satisfy ur inquisitiveness.

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  59. @BeeVee I just love how u said voetsekkkkk hehe reminds me of my days in South Africa

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  60. Learn to mind your business.

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  61. You want a united family, you're not getting married into one, better learn to deal with it madam friend by force.
    You can spend time learning how to write English better instead of forcing a relationship that's not wanted by the other party

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  62. Darling, your priority should be the new home you are about to build with your man and not his extended family. Be cordial but not overly friendly with your in-laws. Certain issues existed before you knew your fiance, you aren't the one to fix the issues that plague the family because you don't know the genesis. You are a member by marriage, not by blood, allow them sort it out themselves.

    You are a tad nosey and quite extravagant with your time, I must say. Honey, why would you want to force a friendship on a lady who has clearly shown you she's not interested? She has been in that family longer than you have, you are yet to be a member, don't you think she has her reasons for acting the way she does? So her mother-in-law and sisters-in-law don't like her and say uncomplimentary things about her but it appears her hubby isn't complaining, no?

    Sweetie, your " hyperactivity" may end up being counterproductive. As a new wife, you should be calm and observant. Know the family well before wanting to form alliances. Follow your hubby's lead, if he doesn't want you to be too familiar with any family member, respect his wishes. You had no business asking for the number of your sister-in-law in the first place, but since you decided not to respect her "space", the person you should have asked for her number is your hubby. Stop blowing up the phones of your in-laws with unnecessary calls.

    Allow your in-laws set the pace, you are way too forward. You may be a nuisance to them but they may be tolerating you for now. Sweetheart, there's respect in scarcity, there's this air of mystery when you aren't always seen or heard. Being too familiar actually depreciates your value. They speak ill of your sister-in-law, what exactly do you think they say about you when you aren't there? Are you trying to be the most beloved in-law? You are more of an irritant. For all you know, deep down they respect, admire and even crave the company of your sister-in-law but they wouldn't admit it. So they trash- talk her. Textbook case of "sour grapes" mentality. Calm down, darling, you are doing the most, which is so unnecessary. Good luck on your coming nuptials.
    e-hugs and kisses.

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  63. You just asked for that number to prove a point that she is a snub not like you really care. Mind your husband, don't be forming family uniter. Mind your business

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  64. Madam face your front and mind your own business. You are doing busy body,I must associate with my sil, mind yourself and concentrate on your marriage. Soon you will hear all the gist, relax your body is hot

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  65. Be observant
    Enter rest mode
    Pray and listen to what GOD will tell you

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  66. Inasmuch as i would advice you to mind your business and face your family, I will not marry into such family.

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  67. She wants to be doing sister-in love, mum-inlove things, family whatsapp group, bestie etc if not why will you not take a hint from the other wives in the family? Their eyes have seen and ears have heard so leave it. There is a reason why they are not close and you will get burnt if you pokenose into what is not your business. You are not the saviour of the world, just be courteous and polite to everyone young and old. Thats all. Ogbeni you will just receive insult from your fiance that he no kuku send you.

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