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Saturday, August 17, 2019

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative.....









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FRUSTRATED VIRGIN



Stella, nice content. Came to know about your blog from instagram and It has kept me company ever since. Help post this as a chronicle for I am desperate and tired. 

I hear women go through a lot just trying to find the "ONE". Does it have to be this hard? I've always wondered. Comments like... frequenting Shiloh, regular church services, going to the mall too and constant Evening strolls. Well I am now in the same dilemma, except...I am a man.

I was never one to mix business with pleasure and I strongly believed there's time for everything. Well, I still do. So while at the University, I was what you all would normally call " A nerd" or if you please, bookworm. From the library to church, to my apartment. I was fixated on my goal; which was to be the best graduating student and Alas! It happened at the expense of my social life. But I was not perturbed in the least. After all, I was still young and would meet someone pending when the need to settle, arise.


In all honesty, while furthering my studies, I met a few ladies but my timid self never approached anyone. A few never went past the friendship stage. The Friends I had too were like me. Overly engrossed in academic pursuit. How time flies!


I Became confused as I was approaching my thirties. What haven't I done? I went to the cinemas, alone! 

Went to four different churches on the Island. 
Changed location to another vicinity, Went down to a church on the mainland and It's still the same. Most churches don't even have singles and dating groups. 

I even went as far as going to the office on foot, with the hope of meeting someone on the way. I saw a few, some held eye contact with me, maybe that was my cue. Yet, I couldn't approach them.
Yes! I have been in a relationship before with a family friend, But it never went past eight months. Although it was strictly platonic, which she agreed but funny enough, I got to find out she wasn't abiding. 


I am a virgin. 


I have biblical values and I only want to share such an intimate part of me with just my wife. I also believe in the "two become one" statement in all its entirety. I go out and it seems there are no single ladies anymore that it's becoming tiring. I started checking my colleagues WhatsApp profile and showed an interest in a lady he had put up. Only for him to tell me she is engaged and even invited me to the wedding.


 Like what is happening here? Almost everyone I know within my age group is married. It seems they all got married straight out of the University. I feel like something is wrong with me. I have prayed and begged God to give me my bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh just as he did with Adam. I promised him I would be the best husband in the world and treat her well, but does she even exist? I know it's not every man that will get married but I desire marriage. 

Are there guys like me going through this, or am I the only one? Please, how did you find the one? Where and how did you go about it? It's frustrating and I am adding another year in a few months time.



*Oh wow!!!....I cannot contact you cos you dropped this in the comment section but your case nah moin moin for this Blog.We have plenty Ladies wiling to try with you...

WOW you are a Virgin?I am shocked and some what Impressed!!!
Please dont feel pressured,your wife will come at the right time....Trust the process!!..
Send me a mail and lets do you a special singles mingles post....

90 comments:

  1. I volunteer to disvirgin you

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    1. Mad child ....haq haq haq

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    2. I concur with Stella. What I see you need to adjust is
      1. Stop being fixated at finding the one. There ain't such a thing. Just be yourself and as you are living your life you will find someone meant for you.
      2. You don't sound like a social person. You have got to open up more, make friends and go out with them. Attend functions. Learn to politely ask ladies out on dates. Sha be more friendly.
      3. Pray and trust God most importantly.

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    3. 😂😂😂😂😂 @Sylvia you're not alright rara. Lol

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    4. Madam Stella, I have a friend who is the female version of the poster... very cool, reasonable, spiritual lady. She is also a virgin. Poster, I wish you can meet her, she is also resident in Lagos.

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  2. Nothing is wrong with you, it’s just your way of life.
    You need to socialize and meet people 💁🏿‍♂️
    Build up your self esteem and confidence.
    You are not smart, you’d know when a lady I’m interested in you.
    Ladies love wild crazy guys, you know.
    Please in all that you do while searching, don’t go for your type o...Mary amaka 🥴
    You need someone to pull you out of your comfort zone, do crazy stuff you know 🥴
    You read book so tey, book don tire for you.

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    1. Later such a lady will say he is boring. He needs a balanced chick. Not too boring, yet not too outgoing.

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    2. Exactly. I am a virgin too but not in this category. Poster with time you will meet the right one... Too lazy to type

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    3. Nice one dear. But wild crazy guy is a no no. Before my dear poster will enter street trying to ne crazy to get a girl's attention.

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    4. modella will you stoppit!!!! virgin ke. who dash monkey banana

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    5. My dear, look for your type.
      Someone that has similar values, focused, maybe a bit more outgoing but definitely not wild.

      That is how problems start in marriages,incompatibility. I know men who have issues with their wives because they must attend every party and same with men, some will keep running out of the house to go to God knows where as if their house is chasing them.

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    6. Is Slutty chic proposing to this guy?
      You want him to marry wild, sex-crazy girl like you?
      That is why he shouldn't go for his type

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    7. Your eyes are paining you anon 21:39, where is the proposal?
      You judge stupidly.

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    8. A lot of reasonable women appreciate gentlemen.

      I believe not all want to be known at their local police station, have the agberos in the area call her their colleagues wife,be married to a brewery , exchange STDs like complimentary cards or live a life of constant deliberate facing of children to avoid seeing heartache

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  3. Thank God I didn't marry a virgin.The virgin I f#vkd during my undergrad days was running around the bed line a hen wey wan lay egg.Poster, pray and God will get you a wife that will bring you favour.

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    1. That virgin is now a smack down professional with someone else. People grow and learn. You were once a virgin weren't you?

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  4. WARNING
    DEAR LADIES IF YOU KNOW IT'S JUST OUT OF DESPERATION YOU WANNA GET MARRIED PL2ASE DO NOT CONTACT THIS MAN WHEN STELLA DOES A POST ON HIS BEHALF ,
    THANK YOU .

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    1. Seconded 👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌

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    2. Exactly

      Desperate heifers leave the gentleman alone

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    3. Pls, we re waiting for the post, leave the guy to do the sorting, abeg....

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  5. I once stopped a relationship cause guy was a virgin and he wanted me to teach him sex when we get married. Omo I could not deal abeg.

    Guy please marry a virgin like you oh otherwise your wife might cheat on you. After marriage when you taste the thing dont start trying to experiment outside cause na una type dey bad pass.

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    1. Marry who God wants you to marry and who you are happy with, irrespective of if she is a virgin or not.

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    2. You just bring theory from no where, it is not true. Marry a good woman and she will teach you how to do Avengers style😁. And no she wont cheat on you.

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    3. Guys that are tigers in bed were once virgins you know,underestimate no one...if DAT virgin handle u, u will forget your pant n run.

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    4. That is a lie. I got married to a virgin and taught him everything about sex and I have never cheate, God forbid I cheat on him cos he is the best thing that happened to me. Guy man likes sex so much now, na me dey run.

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    5. i think your limitations is in your mind. stop thinking it is difficult or everyone is already in a relation. it is not true.
      you become what you think. be positive and active about it.

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  6. Desperate guy, be careful of wolves o. They can spot your desperation from miles. They will eat you and dump your carcass in the canal..
    Just go out more and have fun, free your mind and stop roaming around churches.

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    1. 👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌

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  7. See husband material 10000 yard.

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    1. Virgin and job doesnt mean husband material oh... his type will be very boring, not just in bed... he'd focus on work and leave u like a piece of furniture.

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    2. Anon 16:31
      You are very wrong. ..he might be a virgin and not bold enough to "toast" ladies but he doesn't come as boring to me...A boring person won't go to the cinema or attend church program

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    3. I tell you ooo... a whole ship load of husband material

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  8. God will give you your heart desires.....

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  9. I think you can contact stella to link you up with similar people. I know a lot have from time to time showed similar interests.

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  10. Poster your case isn't a big deal, there are many good girls on this blog and I am sure they will flood your email once you contact stella.

    LEP😛

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    1. Dude I know someone that will be perfect for you. Wallahi you will be smiling every moment of your life. You will buy wine for me and Stella. I want to remain incognito to hook you two up but if you are interested, let me know. I will also tell her about you too. She is an amazing friend but too much of a bookworm like you, I'm trying to encourage her to enter the dating scene with you. Hope you no worwor oo cos na fine babe. How will I get your contact?

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  11. There's MANY ladies like you. Be patient. Widen out. Make sure your friends are people who share the same values with you and ask to be introduced to someone with similar values.

    I hope you're not one of those who claim to be looking for someone with similar values but place outward appearance as topmost in their heart.

    Knew someone like you who was introduced with ladies with similar values. He rejected claiming "not my type'. Eventually married a hottie who "don tear eye". Now he's looking for someone like the ladies he rejected to be his wife's friend and change her because he's not comfortable with her current friends who are like her. Go figure.

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  12. Bros I am not a virgin but I have been celibate for a long time oe letus mingle and see how it goes, remember when we eventually gree to take it to the next level we have to taste and see if we both are fit for it oh. I cannot shout or cheat on my husband after wedding night.

    Anyways, there is nothing to worry about, I think you have not just come across he one for you, you don't have feelings among the ladies you met. If you find the real one you will be able to express yourself o her. Read books on how to ask a girl out. Before forget hope you know how to dress, you don't have follow come mouth odor, body or armpits odor, smelling shoe or leg? These things turn ladies off, is hard to believe that a guy like you doing so well for him self is begging for wife or gf. Try harder o check mate your sense of dressing Nd reasoning, there must be something you are not doing right.

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    1. Aunty no tasting , abeg shift

      No be soup!

      NEXT!!!!!

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  13. There are too many ladies roaming the streets but how many wives?
    A man has just but one wife and the person who knows that lady is God the Savior -Jesus.
    I read you've been "going to churches...on the Island and mainland..." but I've not read
    that you went to Jesus. Do you really know Jesus as Lord and personal Savior?
    Why do some folks keep personal things away from him -things as intimate as life partner?
    I've shared my personal life here (in as much as I'm not perfect) and what I have always
    known is that a lot of "believers" do not have (a time) "when they fast..." like Jesus
    taught in Matthew 6:17, Luke 5:35. This kind of "fire brigade" approach of fasting just
    to get a life partner isn't going to sail through in the Kingdom of God. Do you only
    interact with your daddy when you need something e.g. school fees -is that the only time you humble yourself
    before him? If God is your "father in heaven," how do you hallow him?
    Pitiably, this principles are not taught in those "churches" where you frequent to find that
    "church girl" who may not even know Jesus, who may just like you have come to same church to
    find a husband. It finally crystallizes as a case of "two masquerades" meeting themselves
    unmasked in the place called "matrimony". What a pity. When last did you have a personal retreat
    just to know and learn from God? Imagine the way you left every other things to seek/devote yourself
    to your academics? Have you ever left every other things to seek/devote yourself to God in such a manner?
    When I got to know who my husband will be (six years before meeting him), I wasn't seeking for a husband.
    I was only seeking to know and understand my Lord. Now that I've been in a blissful marriage for more than
    a decade, I still leave every other pursuit at certain times to seek to know him. That is what he taught in his word. But
    a lot of you pitiably leave his word to seek out "pastors"/churches.

    Hope I've communicated to you.
    My yarn for you don finish o.. 🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹😊

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    1. Your own too much shall, as e dey do you for body so, calm down small preacher

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    2. Wooow... I totally enjoyed this piece. Thank you!

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    3. Matthew 6:33 But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.

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    4. My thoughts exactly!!!
      Maybe this is God's avenue to draw you closer to Him, you've always pursued your dreams and aspirations and it looks like everything has been working out well for you. I think it's high time to just calm down tell yourself some truth, know God for who He is, trust His process, he wants you to be balanced, just draw nearer, even the minutest adjustments you need to make to be better, He'd tell you. Be alert and be willing to open up.

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    5. Sidey

      The guy is her type of person
      She actually gave good suggestions
      Allow her give her tips to him

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  14. Pls give more information....I have a babe for u .lol

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  15. If i didnt know better,I would have said my colleague at work sent this..same thing happening with him too..bookworm and also a virgin..i think you should loosen up more,and please dont be so desperate so u wont meet d wrong one,and regret later.remember,d world isnt fair..i pray you meet a Godly woman soon..

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  16. Whilst I highly commend you for the values you have set for yourself, you may need to work on other areas. What exactly are you looking for, i.e what are the qualities you desire most in the woman who is going to bear your children? Are you looking for a Godly, spirit filled lady? Does appearance matter to you? Would you date a fellow nerd or are you attracted to slay queens? What about education, sense of humour and ability to hold a conversation? On paper you seem like a catch. However you may have qualities that some might find off putting. Are you Godly? Are you generous? Are you kind? Do you have empathy? Do you strongly believe in different roles for men and women? Are you willing to admit when you are wrong? All these things matter. Do not marry just for marrying sake or it is time sake. Seek God in spirit and in truth in ALL things and he will direct you.

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  17. Welcome to the singles club. Nothing to do you bros, my mates are married with kids too. It's not the end of the world and I don't think anything is wrong with you. Our time will come when baba God is ready for us. We are all running different races, there's no competition whatsoever, relax and don't be desperate if not you'll have waited this long to end up with the wrong person. Enjoy your singl life, be prayerful and stop attending different churches because of woman, do fun things and God will come through like he always does 👌

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  18. Poster search no further, I'm here for you but I'm not a virgin oh!

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  19. Make virgin???
    That's nice.
    How does one even know a man is a virgin???

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    1. Hehehehehehehehe very funny ways o 💅🏿

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  20. Please I'm interested but I'm not a virgin but I'm celibate at the moment. I don't know how I'll contact you but we should start as friends first. You can reply this message if you wish.

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  21. Serious plot twist.
    I saw the headline and I was ready to type an epistle addressed to Nigerian women. I became humble as soon as I saw it's a man. What do I even say? Well, i will type the same thing except that i will tailor it to you.
    One thing about life is that things will be much harder for you to get the more entitled you are. Many virgins fall into this category. Listen, marriage is not a reward for virginity. A God fearing spouse too is not a reward for virginity. Again, if you decide to sleep with someone now and you think that it will happen because of that, it won't. I also noticed that you graduated with first class. Most people in this group are perfectionists and I have a feeling that you are choosy. You may also have the immaturity to process rejection. My friend who was a straight A student was criticised by our bosses recently. See her crying like a baby and saying that she will resign. Some straight A students go into paralysis at the point of rejection. Could this be your case?
    Try and loosen up. Sign up at a gym. Go to a trade fare and chat up the retailers. Learn a new skill like photography or a musical instrument. Find something to do that will make you approach people first. It won't be like you're approaching strangers like a creep if you are inviting them to an event. Please take this seriously and I know that your stubborn first class coconut head will not want to listen but forget about meeting women in church seminars for now. Don't start up a conversation with a woman just because you want to toast her. Just start gisting. Learn the art of listening, asking questions and trying to pick a person's brain. Don't be reading academic and religious books only. Broaden your knowledge so that you can gist about almost anything with people. There are religious guys like Devon, Russel and Tim Tebow who remained chaste and ended up with beautiful women. Pretend you are not any of those guys and get to work.

    One last thing as regards SnM on this blog: SHINE YOUR EYES.

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  22. Adding to what I typed up there. Here's an exercise:
    Learn how to start asking for people's opinions of you. Do it. When you dress up to go out, ask your sister/cousin/neighbour if the shirt matches the trousers. When you are done for the day and heading home, say it briefly to a trusted friend that you need to have a long shower and ask if you are beginning to smell like sweat. After having lunch, tell your co worker that the cafeteria woman's egusi tastes good but you think that the locust beans is still smelling in your mouth. You get it. Learn to receive feedback gracefully. Take a good look at your self in the mirror. Do you have any flaws that you can fix? When last did you go for scaling and polishing? Do you need dental braces? Maybe you can change your barber. Do you have pimples? At least you can afford a moderately priced perfume, can't you? (don't buy from a mallam or cheap duplicates). Again, it is better you wear a 15k legit casio than a 50 fake Rolex. How are your nails? Hope you're not "training" one nail that is longer than the other ones? How's your skin care? Hopefully, there's nothing like "toning" in your regimen. Look sharp and still maintain your masculinity.
    Once you've adequately addressed and taken care of what is inside as well as what is outside, I don't think that you will be in the market for long, virgin or not.

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    1. Hilarious!! I enjoyed reading your comment. The Truth about personal grooming, feedback, and a healthy self-esteem. I hope Poster is "on point" himself because chicks will sniff out correct guys like a police dog.

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    2. Your head is there, the poster didn't tell us if he is good n those things you mentioned up there.

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  23. I wish I can even find someone like you. Same thing but I'm female

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  24. poster I think I am kinda in your shoes. I am 27, my last relationship was 10-11 years ago which was mainly a teenage love affair. I wonder sometimes why I am they way I am. truth be told I am an introvert. even when I try to become an "extrovert" it just feels odd like I am doing this because I want to get married, what is I attract the wrong person. Now that my sister is married everyone is now throwing shot at me directly or indirectly.
    God knows I want to get married and live happily ever after with hubby.

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  25. Ajebo Confidential and nK, una head dey there. I don't know why I couldn't reply under your comments.

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  26. If he is reading, let's get to know each other ....I am also concerned as they are no eligible bachelors.

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  27. I am in the same boat except that I am a female and younger. Maybe I will try S&M this time around.

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  28. Dear brother,
    First things first, God loves you and He hasn't forgotten nor forsaken you.
    Your feelings are valid, trust me I've been there.
    Don't think God hasn't answered your prayers, He has. You only need to keep calm in the midst of all your worries and frustrations and listen to what He's said.
    Has he said No?, Yes? or Wait?
    The waiting period is the hardest part, but it's worth it. Focus on other things and watch it happen when you least expect it.
    Remember, His ways are not our ways.
    Is your desire for marriage born out of loneliness? Societal pressure? Family obligations? Age factor? or has God laid it in your heart that it is time for you to marry? If it's the latter, trust God and wait until He accomplishes that which He has said. Otherwise, you may end up making the worst mistake of your life.
    If you get to read this, you can get in touch with me via mail; I have some Christian messages I'd like to share with you. This goes for any other person who might be going through the same thing.

    I said a prayer for you...
    May you not in your desperation marry outside God's will. Amen.
    The alternative is better imagined than experienced.

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  29. Nothing is wrong with you, I think you are just being shy, if a lady stares at you, that’s a green light, I think you should work on your social skills. PS; am single and I like nerds��

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  31. Just be patient the right one will definitely come don't be scared to walk up-to any lady OK😉😉 wish you all the best

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  32. Wow guys with such strong biblical values still exist.....woooooow I never tot I would see this in my life time.

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  33. So guy wey be virgin still dey for this life?

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  34. Thank You stella. I think I sent this last week, so I am surprised seeing this. Thanks Stella and thanks guys for your comments and suggestions. I appreciate. I have gone through it all and I must say it's all appreciated. Sylvia" thanks for the hilarious offer, you funny I must commend. I have a good fashion sense that most of my friends do plead to let them know of the clothing site I shop from. So I don't think it's my appearance. I am quite a metrosexual so I'll rule out hygiene also. Yes, I have a standard, but I don't believe it's unrealistic. I don't ask for what I can't give in a person.
    I mentioned I was all about academics but I also mentioned church. It may be hard to believe, but has I focused on my books I also focused on Christ, since I was 16. So it was church, school and home. About talking to God and letting closer to him, trust me I have done that through all my teenage years till my thirties, so I honestly know who I am in Christ. I have lived for him in words, thoughts, deeds and action. I have done evangelism all through, on the bus, even on the street when in Nigeria. I am just an introvert who doesn't keep much friends and I develop anxiety when I try to interact with women since I am not that used to it.
    Thanks again for your advice, I will consider most.

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    1. Send e something to post for you for singles mingles nau.......Wife full this blog oh.....u hear?

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    2. You will meet your wife very soon.
      A good partner is a Gift from God....And He will give you yours before the end of Next month.
      Remember to share the testimony with us 😁

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    3. You sound like a nice man, I would love to start something with you and hope it leads to the right direction.

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    4. Oh poster, you really sound like a good man i just wish i can meet you.

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  35. Awwwwn, poster sounds educated and calm. I wish you well.

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  36. Awwwwn, poster sounds educated and calm. I wish you well.

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  37. Wow,the poster sounds like a good man that I have been waiting for.i wish I can chat with him.

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  38. I believe God will always make a way for u.. And the woman of your dreams is closer than you think.. Am in same shoe as well, done several S/M that I got tired sometimes. Right now I put all trust in God because I don't want to stress it anymore. So poster continue your work with God.. His never late! Am a female in my thirties.

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  39. Great day, Ma'am. Just seeing your reply to my comment. I was actually confused because I had no idea something of the sort could be arranged and sorted out on your blog since I am new here. Still, I saw that you gave the same reply under my remark for the second time and that showed you meant every bit of it. I am really dazzled and grateful.

    If only I had known from the start then I wouldn't have bothered sending my struggle in that aspect in, but rather, just hit the bullseye.

    About your suggestion, I would love to go along with it, but not in the way you suggested.
    If you wouldn't mind, kindly allow me the choice of participating in the forthcoming single and mingle edition that takes place here, if there is any underway, or whatever point that may be. All things considered, thanks to you now, I have gotten a solution now, so at this present time, my mind is at peace.
    The first time this year, last Sunday, I went to church and heard the preacher's messages audibly. No distractions whatsoever and I suddenly realised that I have been thinking about myself and marriage too much that I have overlooked the only essence of my existence on earth, which is Christ.

    Someone mentioned the SnM in the comment section, I googled it and I think it's better for me while I get back on track with my God.

    Firstly, doing it this way, I believe, autonomy, for I would be able to interact with whoever wants to interact with me, while they interact with others too, and this hereby prevents giving undivided attention to just one object of interest..but a few others as well, not just on my side but on both sides. This allows ample time to get to know one another without any pressure.

    Secondly, I feel I have revealed much more than its necessary or needed when starting out at the earliest stage of friendship with someone new. And how will I know if the lady I am getting to know is being her true self with me or just following the trajectory of what the post I sent in revealed about me, in term of the kind of woman I might go for? Due to this, I do not want to be known as the guy who sent his post in, till I am sure the woman I am interacting with is the one. I truly hope you understand. Someone said "shine your eyes", so I guess that is simply what I am trying to do.

    I want a good woman and I would rather stay in the background during the single's edition while getting to know her. When it eventually happens, I will definitely let you in on how it goes and tell you who she is, as we progress by posting it here.

    Thanks to all the ladies who gave compliments and showed interest, I am humbled. Who knows! I might end up being the lucky one to be graced with one of you. Thanks, to the person who commented at 15,40 and thanks once again to you Stella, for my heart, is no longer troubled and may God bless you immensely.

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