Do you know that some men marry and change their names to their wives names?Are you shocked?If a woman can do it,so can a man!!!
Most of them do it for various reasons...some for love,some for financial reasons,some for status etc.....
Do you think any Nigerian man would agree to marry a wife and change his name to her last name?The cases I am talking about only refers to white men or Americans...
I know of a Nigerian Lady whose husband changed his name to hers because he had borrowed so much money with his....When she told me i told her something was not right and she became suspicious and found out when she came to the abroad that his old name was owing 'Igbese' upandan.
I read some days back about an American man who changed his last name to his Nigerian wife's last name and he explained that her last name refers to something blessed and he wanted their kids to have her name........
Is this normal to you`?would you Nigerian man do this?
It sounds so awkward and weird. From the days of john the Baptist till now, it has been women changing their names to their husbands. I can't fit.
ReplyDeleteIn the days of John the Baptist, women didn't change their names. In Igbo land, it was introduced by the colonist.
DeleteI didn't change my name. I married late and had built a career with my maiden name. Hubby actually suggested I retain my maiden name. 6years and counting.
DeletePlease stop this expensive joke!
ReplyDeleteThere is no men vs. women's war existing anywhere except in the heads
of depraved people
I don't think a Nigerian man can do that
ReplyDeleteWhy should any man every do that at all?
Delete@Kachi
Deleteare you the Kachi of LIB?
When did this name change thing start sef? lemme ask Adam and Eve
ReplyDeleteNigerian man so obsessed with majoring in minor and minoring in major will never let his smelly ego allow him do so. As if he is selling his soul even if he comes from a cused linage or bears a name laced with damnation.
ReplyDeleteIf your father changed his surname to answer your mother's maiden name and you found out later as an adult, would you be cool with him?
DeleteWill you advice your brothers (if you have any) to change the family surname to those of their wives?
Always easy to advice on this blog and condemn. What you can not do and afford, do not suggest or advice another to do.
This is 2019. People should do things that promote and advance them. If you bear cursed name why keep it when you can just change it? If you stand to reap a long term reward for marely changing a name that has not brought you peace, what would you gain by taking it to the grave?
DeleteWell my Proff in school said he and his wife adopted a whole new surname when they got married because he wanted nothing to do with his family cos he feels they are wicked.
If my brother's life is not mine and it's not my mission on earth to ensure a family name is engraved on the skies. No matter what you do, at some point a name is bound to go extinct.
It is really weird o. But I think the major reason why a Nigerian man would try such is because of financial gains from the lady's family
ReplyDeleteMy surname is my wife's name so she retained her name and every.
ReplyDeleteWeakling
DeleteI know you sir, your wife is Ebere my friend which is also your surname.
DeleteShame on any man who changes his name to his wife's name
ReplyDeleteThat thing is a piece of yam and not a man
DeleteNigerian men will someday,do they kneel to propose before?
ReplyDeleteDo they date before now?
Was surrogacy heard of before now?
Was IVF acceptable before now?.what was said of C's?now people voluntarily pick a date for C's,we are heading there.
Tenth!
DeleteTenth!!
Tenth!!!
wake up!
wake up nne , the sleep have do
It isn't cool sha. Men pay bride price and all. So I don't know
ReplyDeleteA Nigerian man will never change his last name to his wife’s own. The ‘man is the head of the house’ will always come to play in their heads
ReplyDeleteI doubt if any Nigerian man can do it except in the case you mentioned about using his name for gbese upandan. I know oyinbo can do it but Nigerian men....mba!
ReplyDeleteMost oyinbo doesn't care about change of name...
DeleteI think taking the name of your spouse (either way) is kind of antiquated. Scratch it altogether.
ReplyDeleteDon't know my stand on this... if the man wants to bear his wife surname, well his choice... but according to God's word is it right for the man to change his name to that of his wife? ANG please comman answer this question biko.
ReplyDeleteLol where is it written in the Bible that the woman changes her name to that of her husband?
DeleteWho the fuq is ANG that you're beckoning?
DeleteIf you want answers regarding the scriptures, look it up on Google and stop holding a mere mortal like that sicko in high esteem
@Grace
Deletethe bible actually says that both will leave their families and come together as one.
Ahhh Shooter Gyal calm down. We all look forward to particular comments from particular people because we want to hear what they have to say, controversial or not.
DeleteThis blog is a learning ground and even if you don't agree with someone, you can still broaden your views from their comments.
absolutely cool. Some names have generational curse that needed urgent action. How can someone bear coffin as surname.
ReplyDeleteJust like your blog ID. Why make the wife's name? Are there no other names from his father's side? Let him bear or answer his father's first name then
DeleteThings that worries people nowadays... Changing name can be very draining in this part of the world that I live in.
ReplyDeleteI can add the name to my social media accounts but, I'm not sure about adding it to different documents especially when the new partner's name is already on the government system as my legally married husband.
A Nigerian man marrying Dangote or otedolas daughter can change his surname to his wife's 🤷🤷🤷😁😀😀
ReplyDeleteEven one Bv (Rowland), where is he sef? Said he will change his surname twice like this Dangote Rowland dangote 😁😀😀
Lol @ your last line
Deletehahahaha
DeleteAmanda okwa ndi eze nku, fa jikwa ego igwe..
Mind set and Choice
ReplyDeleteI really want to retain my surname. Then my children can bear the same surname with their father.
ReplyDeleteSomeone told me it would affect my getting a visa if are travelling as husband and wife . Does anyone know anything about this?
I'm newly married
You have no right to retain your surname!
DeleteIn your tiny brain, you don't know it'll hinder your chances of getting a visa as a couple
@shooter gyal... You are actually wrong.. I retained my surname after marriage. I have been married for 5years now, I have applied and obtained visas to over 7countries with hubby using my maiden name. USA, UK, NETHERLANDS, France, Germany etc.
DeleteMy marriage certificate have my maiden name on it. My kids birth certificates have my maiden name and hubby is not bothered by this..
It's a matter of choice really.. So do u and let others do their own. As long as they are in agreement. Chikina
It will not affect you getting a visa. Your marriage certificate should suffice.
DeleteI'm a Nigerian and I took my wife's name(she's a Swede).. My father has never been in my life even though he is alive and well. My wife's father has always been there for his children and has been there for me aswell. Why should I give my children a last name that they cannot relate to? A man who abandoned his family?
ReplyDeleteI'm happy with my decision
I hope you would have done that if you were living in Nigeria
DeleteEasier abroad than here, bro
Mtchewwww
Delete😳😳😳😳😳
DeleteWomen changing their last names after marriage is an ancienttradition that is based on the archaic idea that a woman becomes her husband's property after marriage.
ReplyDeleteIf we're offended by a woman not taking a man's last name, why is it not offensive for a man not to take a woman's name? Just think about that.
I believe that each individual has their own identity, is their own person, and a woman does not have to lose her identity because of marriage. Some women do not want to be known solely as "wife of Atutupuyoyo" or "Mrs Somebody", and that why is they choose to keep their own names.
A marriage should be an equalitarian partnership, not a domination of one party by the other. And the name should reflect that. A woman should find a way to represent herself that is unique and empowering to her and it should be her choice.
Even the name a woman has is not her own, are we not given our father's surname and then when we marry we take our husband's.
ReplyDeleteSome names are ugly or mocked so much I don't see anything wrong in a man changing to his wife's name in such an instance.
I know of a Nigerian pastor dat answers his wife's name.... different strokes for different folks
ReplyDeleteI don't support this idea at all..It's not biblical.
ReplyDeleteNa wa ooo, Nigerians can justify rubbish,even Michel change answers Obama, Ivanka Trump, Hillary Clinton all change to there husband name. If you like answer your mama name that's your cup of tea
ReplyDeleteIslam actually insists on no name change. Each child should be forever mapped to their father. If you even adopt a child and the father's name is known, you are not to change it. Only permissible to give the child yours if you have no way of knowing the name.
ReplyDeleteThat is one of the many priviledges a Muslim woman has in Islam. I continue to bear my father's name even in marriage and my kids took on their father's too. My daughter would also grow up to forever bear her name.
It is an archaic and unnecessary hassle if you ask me. A lot of women in the western world too no longer change their names solely on the basis of marriage.
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