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Thursday, March 05, 2020

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative....

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OSU PALAVA



Good day Stella
Pls hide my identity I seriously need advice from my fellow Bvs


I am 30 years old and I have been dating this guy for 4 years now.
we have been building and gathering for our future, his mum and siblings love me, they always want me to come around, so we fixed our wedding date and announced to the family and they were all happy for us.

 As the date drew close we started meeting uncles and in-laws for introduction and to tell them our date, and we got to one of his uncles and the man said they don't marry osu cos they are from the royal family, and he went to my village and found out the so called osu and called off the wedding (the man is standing as his father cos his Dad is late) 


My fiance said the wedding will still hold but the man called my fiance mum and his siblings and turned their hearts against me, that if I come into the family everybody will start dying one after the other and all my fiance property in the village will be confisticated and we will not be allowed to come into that community again, ...

my fiance said he will still go on with the wedding, but there's nobody to stand with him in paying the bride price, everybody from his side has withdrawn and the truth of the matter is that I am tired ...

I can't go into a family where I am not accepted and my fiance might turn against me in future for allowing him lose his inheritance and I want to call it quits...am I taking the right decision or should I stick to my man?.




*WHAT!!!!...I thought they said they have abolished this Osu thing?Please call it off and let him go...The wahala you will walk into if you marry him will not be worth it.....

82 comments:

  1. So this thing is still in existence in your place till date? Well, leave him





    *Larry was here*

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    1. Stella they only abolished it on social media oh. It is still strong in some parts of Igbo land. Poster I can easy guess where you and your husband to be are from. This happened to my friend too, better take a walk.

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    2. That his uncle is a very wicked man. How can you say no to a marriage but the guy has been sleeping and dining with same girl for four years without dying? Osu that I know is being avoided both in business, stream, friendship and marriage. But the hypocritical Igbos instead of accepting the abolishment of osu, still do business with them, friend them, collect their money and when it comes to marriage, they start talking trash. That is why I don't like Imo people because this Osu thing is too much in their state. I heard the Osu thing in Mbaise first when one guy proposed marriage to my younger sister. This my sister visits them, cooks for them, do all wifely duties, they didn't ask of osu thing but immediately their son proposes, they started asking about osu. When we told them we don't know what is Osu, they told us they will find out themselves, we that are royalty. My mum told them not to bother, that she won't even give her daughter out to marry people with such barbaric mentality. Thank God my sister got over the guy and moved on. Na wickedness, nothing like Osu again.

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    3. Your comment has said it all @ Chidinma Grace. Let them be deceiving themselves, the real practice of OSU, you should not trade, relate, marry or even be in the same space, but the people who take this foolishness to heart will not ask their prospective employers if they are OSU. Now that they canceled the marriage, what does it stop, if the two have already had sex. The most annoying thing is all the reasons they give for sustaining this balderdash is ludicrous. This is one of the reasons why Biafra may not work. Inside the same east there is segregation. I am not from the east but I have researched this obnoxious culture again and again but can't seem to wrap my head around it.

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    4. And instead of the youth in Igbo land and on this blog seek for abolishment of this barbaric and disgrace long age practice they will be here shouting Yoruba can greet too much, Yoruba demon as if they are the best.

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    5. In 2020? They shouldn't even waste their time dating igbos. Just look for a non Igbo or non Nigerian to avoid this unnecessary stress.

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  2. With all the exposure and education with religion, some people till choose to live in stone age.
    One minute they call Jesus, the next minute they call their neighbors outcast.
    I wonder the kind of god you all claim to worship.

    Girl, move on and never look back, that family is bad market.

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    1. Don they don't realize they are the worst among Nigeria ethnic groups but quick to hate on others.

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    2. You are a senseless anon btw I’m half bini

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  3. Dont do the mistake of marrying into a family that does'nt love you because they can go to any lenght to make you uncomfortable in that marriage. They can even kill your husband and hold you responsible for it.

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  4. Truth be told, its gonna be hard, his family wont accept you.

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    1. Exactly, poster please just move on, chai it's not easy o.
      I wonder why this Osu thing still exist.

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  5. If after the marriage you two plan to relocate to the abroad for good then marry him but if you guys will stay in this 9ja my sister you can't fight and win that family battle with no one on your side. They will frustrate you d eventually turn their son against you. Four wasted years. It's painful sha but try and move on.

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    1. Don’t even bother about the abroad thing. My colleague in Canada and her fiancΓ©e have never been to Nigeria. When it was time for wedding, family digging started and they discovered sisters mom is osu and so she is too and rejected her. Long story short, wedding is on hold. Nobody is in support even the guys professor parents and plenty “enlightened” family members.
      Poster, forget that one. It won’t work. It’s not worth the stress. Osu isn’t something people joke with. You’ll be lucky if they only dislike and not regard you. Some people get killed, poisoned and your children nko? My dear, please cry all the tears you can now to avoid hotter tears and more regrets.
      God strengthen you in Jesus Name. Amen!!!

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    2. @18:30
      Since you ended that your yarns with Jesus' name, let us read his Word inugo?
      Galatians 3:28 So there is no difference between Jews and Gentiles, between slaves
      and free people, between men and women; you are all one in union with Christ Jesus.

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  6. That your fiance is just doing gra-gra, he will not marry you after all what his uncle said, hes just making you believe hes trying, no matter what.. na lie, his mind has left the marriage

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    1. which gra gra. I had similar issues although not osu but i damned all went straight for white wedding. Surprised i saw my mum at my wedding and she gave me her blessings. When you really want something, you work against all odds to have it especially a woman that builds with you.

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    2. Your case is not OSU o, Igbos dont joke with this OSU thing. Let her marry her same OSU, or a family who has outgrown it or a different tribe all togeda.

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  7. Poster it is better the relationship break now than later your husband hating you for making him lose his family and inheritance.

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  8. If your husband lives in the city, do quiet wedding and continue with your life.

    I heard you talk of inheritance?

    You and your husband should work on your OWN INHERITANCE. so that your children can have something to fall on.

    Let him leave whatever inheritance in the village, who inheritance help? Can you carry inheritance to heaven? Work and have your own inheritance.

    If your husband-to-be wants to go ahead, let him go ahead.

    Hope you pray alot, work and have enough wealth to fall back on..?

    Na person wey no get money, go dey receive spit for face..

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    1. Ola leave that thing. Igbo people don’t joke with that. I advise people to always ask before they start. It’s that serious. I don’t know anyone that has gone ahead

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  9. To think we are all God's creation. One thing is certain, marrying into a Family with no likeness for you, will be an uphill task. I pray God leads in your heart, the right decision.

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  10. Are you and fiance ready to be one?
    Do you have Jesus as your Savior and Lord?
    If the answer to the above two ajujus are Yes,
    then you are good to go.
    If God in heaven is your father, you will have families, you will have friends in God's Kingdom etc.

    I know people of God who called the bluff of this atrocity in Igboland and went ahead to live their abundant lives married and are in Christ. Nobody died, nobody got ill.
    Some of their families eventually turned around but some did not. So which family do you belong to; the heavenly or earthly?
    😘😘😘😘

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  11. That the problem with OSU, I am still angry with my parents, my mom , a free born, married an OSU, now we d kids are paying for it, nobody is marrying us except outsiders, I'm not happy, dont sacrifice d future of your children for love.

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    1. Your mom married the Love of her life and most importantly, God's child. Free yourself from this self hate and anger you carry. You even refer to God's creations as outsiders..smh. You are just as backward as the uncle in this Chronicle.

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    2. You are stupid see your useless mindset. You blame your parents indeed.

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    3. @Perxian, be kind with your words. You don't know the heartbreaks she and her siblings have faced because of this Osu thing. It's like asking a SS person to shut up because her parents chose to marry each other despite both being AS because they love each other.

      From what I hear, this Osu thing affects major aspects of their lives. I heard of one who wasn't allowed to go for a political position despite her high achievements and qualifications just because she's Osu. So don't judge.

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    4. @Perixan, I wish it was that easy. Not that I believe in the OSU crap.

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    5. My sister too. She just got married to an osu. I pray that by twenty years later when she must have given birth and her kids grow to marriagable age tthat all these must have stopped. I wouldn't like to see her regretting why she didn't listen.

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    6. So if your mum didnt marry your dad, the suppose 'osu', how would you have been born, leave that trash for lawma hare, yeye talk

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  12. Poster , I know it's not easy breaking up with someone you thought you'll spend the rest of your life with, but for you sanity call off the engagement. His family will never accept you, if you marry him against their will, they mighty turn this against you making you look like you brought bad luck into his life.
    Marriage is meant to be enjoyed not endured.
    God will definitely provide another

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  13. Same region clamouring for Biafra. I have always said that even among the Igbos, there is segregation. Same people fighting to protect the rights of their region are still the same looking down on people from same region.

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    1. Shut it! How many Igbos are actually clamoring for Biafra? I am Igbo and there is nothing like Osu in my place.

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    2. My dear you are right am Igbo but we are better of with Nigeria. I can imagine what putting us together in 1 Biafra will look like. Osu 1 side, the so freeborn 1 side lol stupid tribe. Nna! We die in this Nigeria.

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    3. Osu isn’t everywhere in Igbo land. Many places abolished it long ago!
      Many popular Igbo families now sef are letting their kids marry other popular families who are “Osu”. We don’t name names but dem dey!

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    4. Biko, I'm not among those clamouring for BIAFRA.
      The OSU thing is so annoying. Although there are some areas they don't practice OSU but Ohu.

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  14. My dear poster, pls call it off and take a walk. If you go ahead be ready to fight battles until you get exhausted. His people will so frustrate you that you will end up running away from that marriage.
    Sdk they've abolished OSU by mouth only. Once you're not OSU and you wanna marry one all hell will break lose. OSU people that I know all married Yorubas and non Igbos so poster next time consider going outside your tribe. Yorubas,Hausas and other tribes are not concerned with OSU caste system.

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  15. This is tough. Did you know about the osu thing cos i feel like you should have brought it up even before you guys got engaged. Would ve saved you a lot of stress.

    Deep down you know this is dead on arrival, i think you should talk to your fiance about mutually calling things off but if he is still willing to fight for you then stick with yo man and ask God for guidance.

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  16. Oh dear! I tot they have abolished this OSU law really.. So sorry about your ordeal, it's better to walk away now cos those people will never accept you

    It's painful tho but it's best this way,no avoid stories that touch later on..if you guys decide to forge ahead,that uncle of His might even do jazz against both of you! God forbids

    All the best in your decision making

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  17. Oh dear! Best you let go and move on. I really don't see what other choice you have as holding on would eventually lead to a lot of frustration, resentment and bitterness.
    I wish you the best. It might not seem like it right now but truth is, with time,you will heal and there is always someone better. For you and for him. A union that would cause neither of you heartache.
    πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—

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    1. So true.There is always someone better.

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  18. My dear a marriage the whole family is against you. My sister waka. I know is difficult but you go regret am later. My mom was not osu oo but up till now she regretted it.

    A time will come your husband to be might hate you and regret it too and blame you for it

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  19. Very wicked tradition, in my village the animosity got so bad that the Ohu and Amadi started killing each other. Bishops and Governors have tried to settle the issue all to no avail. Even my learned uncle said that the fire his grandfathers put in his hand will not be quenched by him. Once a suitor comes that will be the first inquiry to find out whether he belongs to 'the other side' It is better you leave because the family will ostracise you.

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  20. My dear take a walk. This is not a fight that even your fiance can win. Since his dad is not alive, it will be hard to gather any form of support. Since you are tired from the beginning, my dear I suggest you take a walk. Because it will get terrible as you progress.

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  21. Nothing has been abolished.
    To all the OSU's out there pls marry from a non igbo tribe. Or marry your fellow Osu.
    Its really sad but that's what it is.
    Poster dont marry him. Except you are ready to live in a marriage of isolation.
    This love that is shacking him now might turn to hate when he begins to have a rethink.

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  22. The OSU thing doesn't seem to have come as a surprise to you...so its evident you have known all along! A lot of people on here are found of encouraging men and women to take heavy-laden secrets to their grave...
    Well this is usually the outcome of deception by omission.
    Had you mentioned this to the man and his family at the onset, a solution may have been found. Instead, you've probably wasted 4 years of your life!

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  23. My dear report this matter to the igwe of your finace village and the igwe of your village or if you are a catholic report him to your presit or archbishop in your state a mass was celebrated when osu was abolished in the entire igboland. As far as we Ndi igbo is concise osu has been abolished in the entire igboland. The uncle is evil and wicked he has seen a better future coming to you and your finace he doesn't want that i bet you his children are not doing better he is jealous and be ready to fight him both physically and spiritually or better still you walk away.

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    1. Exactly, is just wicked and envious people that talk about this osu thing.

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  24. My dear my sister was in your shoes, same thing he was from a royal family but in her he withdrew the moment his family told him to back off. This journey is not an one. If you can take a walk.

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  25. Somebody should enlighten me what is the meaning of OSU .

    Thank you in advance.

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    1. Osu or Ohu in our side are settlers that migrated a long time ago to settle in a place and start living , farming and having Children. It is like Americans calling the black Americans outcasts. Some communities also have families dedicated to the shrine a long time ago, they call them Osu too

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    2. That's not the meaning of it.

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    3. Chilove, why don't you give the anon a better meaning? Mtcheeeew

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    4. @Chilove whats the meaning then

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    5. Osu means those people who are slaves in the spirit world.

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    6. Anon 19:37. Your ignorance stinks.

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  26. Poster he won't marry you. Please just leave.

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  27. My dear we don't have Osu in my place so when my sister brought home a suitor that was an Osu, it wasn't a big deal. She got married and had a very very unhappy marriage. Her husband's family hated her. In the last 7years they have buried 6persons including my sister. I wish she didn't marry into that family.

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    1. Sorry about your sister, but this had nothing to do with being Osu. The family was just wicked. Period

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  28. Nne, gone are the days of looking for who to stand as family. Just go to Lagos Island and rent papa, mama, relations and anything rentable. Do your trado and relocate to Europe or the Americas. Are you aware that there are losts of osus abroad who have naturalized. They are both handsome and beautiful, wealthy and living great lives. Stop wasting your time on tears or better still find another man from another tribe or something.

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    1. Anon chop knuckle even in uk we dey rent anything rentable no time for iranu

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  29. Hmmm.

    Better to walk away. The heartbreak if he turns away from you after marriage because of his people is far worse than the one you will experience if you break up.

    Beside, didn't you know about your being Osu? I advise you date a fellow Osu or non Igbo in future. Forget this abolish thing, na for mouth. They forget Christ once this issue comes up.

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    1. He will turn against you in future. That was how my uncle was told not to marry his wife because she's an osu. He insisted,but letter turned against her. The woman left after four children. In fact the family was not the same again. Their children turned against their mother.

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    2. Wicked children!

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  30. Its over poster. They will frustrate you.

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  31. Nnem take a walk this journey and battle is not a small one

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  32. Anonymous 15:40, which igwe should she report to?it's like you don't know the weight of being an outcast in igbo land especially if the people you are dealing with are non outcast which in this case the igwe is a non outcast, cos they can never make an osu a king.. So as the king is the custodian of the tradition of the land its his duty to uphold it.. And as for the priest you mentioned they can do absolutely nothing about it, osu was only banished on social media not in real life. So dear sender the onus lies on your fiance to call the bluff of his family and marry you, or you just lick your wound and move on.

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  33. Yes call it off but if you can, go and report that man. Sue him in court for calling you osu and causing you emotional breakdown and stress. Then watch him plead with you to withdraw the case by telling you he did mistake in his investigation.

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    1. And after the whole brouhaha, will the marriage still hold?

      Please poster, it is going to be hard, as in extremely hard and difficult but biko take a walk NOW!

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  34. I am from the south east.....this OSU thing is still strong.
    What I tell people around me is......make sure you can handle the wahala before you marry from OSU family.



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  35. E hugs to you dear. You have heard it all. Please walk away. It will not be easy but my dear that is a better option for now. Those people will never change their mind. As per your husband. Its just for a moment and he will join them. Take your own share of whatever you have invested with him. God will hear you soon and give you a man that will be proud of you despite what anyone says.

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  36. Every enemy standing in the way of my joy and peace die by fire of the Holy Ghost in Jesus name, Amen.
    God forbid bad thing. If they succeed in making this guy not to marry you they will all regret it in future. Just be strong and move on. Leave the man, the stress and problem ahead won't be worth it. I would have said you should carry on with the marriage if his mother and siblings were in support, but he is standing alone and its not wise nor good.

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  37. What a barbaric tradition. Nne just take a walk. I understand it is not easy. Igbo people go outside and marry people from other race,ethnic &culture without asking question,back home reverse is the case. I keep telling people that there is no true Christian in Nigeria. It is even practice in the church.

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  38. Please walk and make him understand why you did.

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  39. You call someone OSU and you sleep with the person, eat with the person, do business with person, do omodo for the person. Who is fooling who?
    There is nothing like 'Osu'.
    If any man be in Christ, he is a new creation. Please let's stop deceiving ourselves.
    Also note some uncles can go.to any length to stop a marriage just because they have seen the potentials...No be today e start...
    @Poster, please stay away from them. Your own man will locate you.

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  40. Poster, the bitter truth is that they won't allow that guy to marry you. They will frustrate you..
    Forget about him and move on.
    Look out for men from Nnobi. Most of them are OSU and marry one.

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  41. You better quit this relationship that is already stressing you. You are not yet married but you already have plenty of problems to handle.

    Allow the man go, it will be hard for you to survive in a marriage that everyone dislikes you.

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  42. Take a long walk and Never look back,faced a similar situation,where the man family alledged that women from my tribe dont last in marriage and one was bold to say it to my face,i was called uprintable names and body shamed at the same time,i walked and never looked back,they came begging,i slammed the door against them,dont want my life to be used as a moral lesson for family folklore,go where your celebrated not where your being endured.

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  43. The lesson I would like to state now is that to those dating Igbos, the disgusting and bigoted discriminatory qualification called OSU EXISTS AND YOU SHOULD KNOW YOUR STATUS AND THAT OF THE FAMILY YOU WANT TO MARRY INTO. Know their names and take it as seriously as genotype so you don't waste time.

    Poster, I am so sorry but your man goofed. For it to be this serious, he must have heard it being discussed by his family while growing up. I'm sure he was also warned but he knew there would be an Nkiru Sylvanus crying everyday for his family to accept her.

    I don't think such a man would be able to give up all the the things listed for you as he has not taken issues seriously enough from the beginning. Is he truly willing to be disinherited from patches of dirt in the village with no economic value but STRONG SENTIMENTAL VALUE? You know him and can answer truthfully to yourself. This is like an interracial marriage 80 years ago- possible but harder than most because it's about what others would be doing to you and not how you treat each other. If this is a man that loves going to his hometown, is the first to raise his hands at ummuna meetings and his top 20 WhatsApp conversations are with people he went to grammar school and village stream with, you may need to rethink the decision to go forward so you both don't post ways due to frustration and being unfulfilled. How traditional and/ or spiritual is he? Has he ever seriously dated outside our race or tribe? Can you bear the burden of being seen as the reason someone's son or brother left his traditional post? Spending holidays away and not being able to attend weddings and funerals? I would especially appreciate this as I no get time but would your man? Count the cost before jumping in.

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  44. One thing is certain, no one who believe in this osu caste system will escape hell fire. Am an Igbo lady from a so called free born family. I hv preached and talked against this, their response is always: I should be the first to give my kids to osu to marry. Igbos, please let's come together and abolish this evil our forefathers put on us. My own village in Imo state is the worst. My niece just lost a very handsome and we'll to do suitor all becos of osu.The young girl is still mourning.

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