Mercy
If paraventure I catch my husband Prince Odi Okojie cheating with a girl and I move out is that okay?
Liz Benson
Allow me to say God forbid.. No! If you catch your spouse committing something with a side chic , the answer or next step isn't to be out of it.. but you are going to draw that power that is inside of you and treat it in a wiser way. Mentally, emotionally and spiritually.
Mercy
You hear that? that's why when Omawumni came here, she said there's no way she's leaving her house for anybody to move in to. So even when I catch him doing the wrong thing we will work on it.
Mercy
Are you a feminist?
Liz Benson
I am not, sorry to say. I believe in the woman that I am, that God has made me to be. I believe I have an inner strength, inner mentally ability that the other doesn't have. And so I build on it , live with it and I progress in it.
Just be who God has called you to be and you won't need the word "feminism or feminist" and you would see a lot of things out there will open up for you.
Mercy
If paraventure I catch my husband Prince Odi Okojie cheating with a girl and I move out is that okay?
Liz Benson
Allow me to say God forbid.. No! If you catch your spouse committing something with a side chic , the answer or next step isn't to be out of it.. but you are going to draw that power that is inside of you and treat it in a wiser way. Mentally, emotionally and spiritually.
Mercy
You hear that? that's why when Omawumni came here, she said there's no way she's leaving her house for anybody to move in to. So even when I catch him doing the wrong thing we will work on it.
Mercy
Are you a feminist?
Liz Benson
I am not, sorry to say. I believe in the woman that I am, that God has made me to be. I believe I have an inner strength, inner mentally ability that the other doesn't have. And so I build on it , live with it and I progress in it.
Just be who God has called you to be and you won't need the word "feminism or feminist" and you would see a lot of things out there will open up for you.
Mercy
In marriage women sacrifice a lot, even when you don't want to admit it, financially and otherwise emotionally, women will always sacrifice. That sacrifice I don't believe you should override him because of that. Like some people would call you foolish for doing that, do you think it's wise to sacrifice so much in a relationship that you intend to make work.
Liz Benson
It is not unwise, The Bible already made reference to that, the wise woman builds her house and the foolish tears it down. Of course when you go back to Genesis you will find out that we are the help mate. We meet up with needs of the man, the family and of the home in general. It's only that sometimes we feel underappreciated, and there's a way to put that forth so there will be a balance and with God's help we will get to that place were we would be appreciated"
Fir some, cheating isn't a deal breaker. Stay until you get STDs or HIV
ReplyDeletewhat makes you feel the nexxt man wont be worse?
DeleteThis here is why women remain in toxic and abusive marriages. Cause of rain dey fall everywhere. Everyone with their opinion. Once is forgivable for me, but when it becomes recurrent, its a no
Delete@ queen roaster so because you don’t want to risk an std from husband #2 is why you should stay and risk std from husband #2
DeleteThe queen roaster..you all should stop this stupid talk of the next man blah blah blah. The reason God placed you on earth is just to be with a man abi.
DeleteThere are women who dont wish to remarry and dont get me started on loneliness at old age. Cos there are way more widows who didnt remarry out there, aging and managing the so called loneliness just fine.
There are still lots of couples who are married and extremely lonely and depressed.
Let people who can handle cheating stay with their cheat. But never you call a woman who is willing to walk because of it a weak woman.
Not everyone has the same threshold for emotional pain.
I think accountability is what some men and even women lack in these times.. Cheat once then maybe I would or could forgive and remain, cheat a second time, then it is an affair, I will forgive but quit the marriage, ain't nothing wrong in being a divorcee... Or single or a widow.. We keep it moving.. Ain't that serious really
Deleteif you wish not to be remarried that your problem but will all know that they most likely end up being side chicks to married men
DeleteWell said Davina
DeleteRoaster what makes you think she will want to move on to another man ? Stay if you may with a cheating spouse but dont knock those that choose to walk away
Thank you Davinarose
DeleteThat is why you see a lot of widows and divorcees refusing to get married, you think men don't ask for their hand?
My aunty got widowed at a young age and she never remarried. i asked her if she will remarry, she said no way in hell🤣🤣🤣🤣
this advice is rubbish
ReplyDeleteThank you Beebumble. Women how far now? Your daughters are watching. Suffering till the world ends. You still dey carry last. I for no have the lovely life wey I get now if my mother stayed with that cheating. 🤨
DeleteWatch them bash Liz Benson for having a contrary opinion. Someone cannot disagree in peace again 🤷♀️
ReplyDeletedont mind them waiting for a perfect man while they get run through by diffrent men like cars on highway
DeleteImagine sugar baaby like toke will later be looking for God Fearing Man lol
DeleteAs in ehn... most people that advice u to leave have had to entertain worse. Moreso who said u must sleep with him after u catch him cheating? There r other ways like going for a comprehensive tests and making him mend his wrongs as long as he is not a serial cheat
DeleteBut they didn’t insult her. People were quite disappointed but not surprised due to her age and because she’s a pastor. Not ONE person insulted her. But you guys are obsessed with feminists and the likes and imagine their outrage even when there’s none
Delete@10:58 Thank you .You have said it all.O am a Christian and have a relationship with God) but do not agree with her.She made a general statement.(It is her opinion) and we can all agree to disagree.To each his own.Heaven( if you believe in it like I do)is a personal race o not collabo.Work out your salvation with fear and trembling.
DeleteBiko no one insulted Liz Benson. Expressing a different opinion is quite different from insulting.
DeleteAyaoba,cheats don't change, they cheat till they die or become old, sickly and weak.
DeleteRun comprehensive tests you say?run tests this month, next month he will cheat again, then you will run another comprehensive test? I am in the medical line and I can tell you that women married to cheats are suffering. They treat STDs every month. As long as you remain in house, he will sleep with you either willingly or he rapes you and he won't agree to use condoms
Mercy mercy...
ReplyDeleteJust do what your predecessor did.
You were the side chick, correct?
This advise is bull dung though!
So you feel women are sometimes underappreciated in the home and you want to get to the point where you are appreciated for your contributions in the home? Yet you say you are not a feminist? So what is feminism?
ReplyDeleteMost of you novices do not know what feminism mean . just be typing what you like
DeleteGood one ma, intelligent answers. Mercy, your questions are somehow sha.
ReplyDeleteNobody cares. Very expected advice. But if only most people knew that the reason many wives don’t leave is not even because of the children but because of the diseases they are treating. And because they know how they view and discuss single women/divorcees. Some even judge widows and underaged girls. Anyway, to each his own. Men are really enjoying
ReplyDeleteIt is a man's world really, hence no accountability on their part... But check this out, their life span is shorter than the female species... Haha, digging into different holes with not a care in the world seeps your strength and kills before your time
Delete.. Go figure!
11:33 you are right about the life span of wayward men. They die earlier than their wives. We have more widows than widowers.
DeleteMen will go to work, close, instead of going home and rest, they will either proceed to a beer parlour or meet up with a side chick.
Hmm but this questions are somehow o.
ReplyDeleteMa'am Stella Liz Benson is still acting,she's back to the screen.
If my husband cheats carefully,if he's a good man,takes good care of me,loves me deeply,adore the kids and in a moment of weakness he slipped,if he covers up his mess pretty well and just maybe i still find out,I will forgive and sort it out,if he does it repeatedly,disrespectfully and rubs it on my face,I am taking myself out of such marriage.Long story short,Liz is partly right, it's for better for worst right? So just before you quit,please make an effort especially if the man is worth the effort..most side chicks recognises a good man so if you leave your man for a side chick that knows what to do,she will marry him,fix his weakness and they'll live happily ever after and God will still love and honour her.I have said my mind,some of you come here to lie about not tolerating nonsense meanwhile you are chopin shit and pretending.
ReplyDeleteMy name is KUKU..
Chop kisses 😘😘😘
DeleteThank you; this is my mindset too. Work on a marriage that is worth working on and i dont mean just the woman. The man must do d work too, acknowledge his mistake and be willing to change and not keep repeating it.
DeleteA serial cheat is a NO NO in my books though, HIV is real and not our portion.
He can get HIV from the first and only side chick.
DeleteBtw, how do you work on a cheat?
Do they change?
You cant work on a cheat, its why i said the man MUST work on himself. You work together on forgiving him,cos its hardwork....I hope you know women also cheat, and husbands too forgive them. We shld stop behaving like only mem cheat. Affairs btw married people happen even in offices alot.
DeleteI know a woman dat her affair went as far as she got pregnant for her junior colleague. husband found out and still forgave her and she resigned. This guy confided his past to me. Things happen, even wives bring HIV home. The thing is a double edged sword.....you have to hope a partners indiscretion doesnt come to dat.
You make sense die. If he is a good man, work on your marriage but if he is a deadbeat serial cheat that you gain nothing from, then checkout. People make mistakes
DeleteLeave my marriage say wetin happen, my husband is my husband EOD
ReplyDelete@Kuku, good analogy, one thing though, nobody can fix a weakness, only the individual who has the weakness and God.. This mindset of getting married to 'fix' or 'change' someone else is totally wrong!
ReplyDeleteYou can fix someone and you can change someone.
DeleteGive me an example of a cheating man who changed before old age or before a terminal disease hits him
DeleteTbh,she made a lot of sense but you guys are not ready for this conversation.
ReplyDeleteThis particular issue will always spring up controvesy. Some women don't pack out Physically but mentally, emotionally they are out and only concentrate on their children. I have seen too many cases of living together but mentally divorced.
ReplyDeleteWe all know what we can handle, I believe the basic foundation of marriage is to marry your friend. Marry someone you can talk to. A man that feels your pain and will always adjust to see you happy.
This is sooo true. Alot of women have checked out of their marriages emotionally and mentally and you are right as well, men should make efforts to listen to their wife's complaints and do better.
DeleteTwo side chics dishing out advices. Mercy got her man as a side chic and Liz Benson runs no be for here in the 90's. When they are tired they turn dormant and give advice.
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