This is a teary post alert oh.............
At about 8pm, I received an order from a guy that required me to drop his girlfriend at home. He was all over her and they kissed multiple times before he let go of her since she would be travelling back to school the next morning. In my mind, I was just saying love is a sweet thing o.
One thing I noticed about this girl who is in her early twenties is that she was really cheerful and in high spirits. I saw that she was sweating when she got into the car and as I put on the AC, she asked me to turn it off saying it’s not good for her health. This stirred my curiosity.
We got talking and I teased her that she’d really miss her boyfriend. I was dazed when she told me that he is not her boyfriend. The first thought that came to me was that she had multiple boyfriends and that was one of her flings.
I was still concerned and on pressing further, she told me though they love each other, they can never marry because she is suffering from Sickle Cell Disease and the guy is AS, so she doesn’t want to bring a child to this world to suffer considering all that she is going through. Moreover, the doctors have told her that her chance of giving birth successfully is very thin.
She said her case is so bad that apart from being on daily medications and regular injections, she ends up being admitted in the hospital very regularly and her parents have spent so much on her. She also said that she just started walking normally having been on a walking aid for over 3 months.
Another shocking thing she said to me was that knowing she has a very short time left, she has made up her mind to live life to the fullest. She regularly has her therapy sessions with her doctor, physiotherapist and psychologist and is prepared for death whenever that will happen.
When I asked her if she believed a miracle could still happen and her health status could change, she said unfortunately, she doesn’t believe in miracles.
It was in the course of our conversation that I opened up to her about the one and only girl I ever loved who died from this disease. I didn’t know when the tears dropped as I spoke glowingly about her. It has been over 12 years since she passed on but it still seems like yesterday. Maybe this is one of the reasons I have not opened up my heart to love again. I hope to tell this story someday ...
I am yet to recover from the pain.....
Let me stop here before i start crying again....
*Me looking at Oko Ashawo crying*
Stella o you be case.
ReplyDeleteM*and you looking at Oko Ashawo crying*
Awwwwwn. This story made me almost shed a tear. I have also lost loved ones to this disease.
ReplyDeleteI don't think love is enough to make one marry especially when it relates to health issues as per AS marrying AS.
I beg to ask this question... Has medicine not advanced enough to cure this ailment? Life...
There is a cure for it.....Bone marrow transplant from a close relative. But it's very expensive and the risk is high both for donor and recipient.
DeleteThe best cute is to know your genotype and marry accordingly
You only live once.
DeleteMay God make her case easy.
I'm curious ,why is it only women oko ashawo always carries? Na only women dey enter taxi or uber?
Having a sibling who has this condition and living with the pain of seeing her in pains is heartbreaking. People in relationships should check out their genotype and get a 3rd or 4th opinion if they can afford it, Nigerian labs are not trustworthy.
DeleteAnd yes, there's a cure, bone marrow transplant, stem cell transplant, and the most recent promising procedure - Gene therapy. But these are expensive and not available in our clime. And for families like mine, it is not an option in the near future unless, there's a drastic positive change in our finances.
We are yet to do the hip replacement surgery for my sister due to lack of funds even though it is can be done here at UPTH and Kelsy Harrison hospital.
SCD is an expensive condition, intending couples should avoid it at all cost cos LOVE is never enough.
13.13..
DeleteBone marrow transplant can also be used to cure hiv.. but the risk involved no be here.. I guess it's why it's rarely spoken of
@Brown Sucre, he talks about the guys he encounters too
DeleteAwwwww open your heart to love again.
ReplyDeleteTell her not to lose trust in God. It's not in her place to decide her time on earth.
ReplyDeleteMy brother is married with 3kids.
Testimony abound
Eyaa...oko ashawo it is well
ReplyDeleteLol 😂🤣😂, why did I find your love story funny instead of empathizing with you?
ReplyDeleteIn my head, you seem to me as a 'player' incapable of truly loving someone.
I feel for the lady though. She may end up living for a long time.
My dear, na players dey love pass o especially when they find true love 😁
DeleteHe'll be posing as a player till one starry eyed chic collects his mumu button.
DeleteSickle Cell anaemia sucks.
There's this family in church, mum a doctor and father a supreme court judge. If you see this children, beautiful girls but all sicklers. One even contacted tuberculosis from their Nanny and became paralyzed, they still bring her to church and it breaks my heart
ReplyDeletePlease if you're AS, please stay away from AS please. I had an experience with a roommate ones, this girl was almost breathing her last. The sight hunt me till today
I always wish there was something that could be done to change their genotype
In my University days, there was this Prof that had 5 children out of which 4 were SS. It was really tough for that family because the children were always on and out of hospital. Eventually, they lost 2 of the children. Very wonderful family.
DeleteTo me, the best thing is that AS and AS should not just marry me matter how much in love they might be. My 2 cents
Some of them can be so stubborn, they still go ahead to marry🙄
DeleteI am ss. It's not a death sentence. Pls did not be discouraged. We are warriors. We will fight till the end. I am 45 years old female ss. I hv 4 lovely and healthy children. My first daughter is abt to get married. I don't fall sick always. I fall sick at least once in a year. So people living with sickle cell can live long and also hv kids of their own. I will soon carry my grandchildren. Sickle cell is not a death sentence. Many ppl with the disease are doing fine. Yes...she can have her own kids
ReplyDeleteI thank God for you Ma'm
DeleteThank God for you, and congrats to your first daughter.
DeleteThank God for you ma'am, may he continue to protect you amen.
DeleteAko Ashawo take heart, it is well.
Congrats ma'am. Indeed, you're a warrior. God will keep you safe and strong🙏🏿
DeleteThis just warmed my heart.
DeleteYou are a strong lady.
Congratulations on being a grand ma.
May God continue to keep you strong, Amen.
Let your heart heal man, your lady would want that for you.
ReplyDeleteIt's okay if you're not ready yet. But please don't shut your heart to love.
I pray you know your heart's true content when you find one 😉😃😌😃😌
It is well with you oko ashawo. Open your heart to love again.
ReplyDeleteOko sorryoooh, it's well, it's too painful to forget some loved ones exit, my dad's own still hunts me till date. I have a friend I want to reconnect back with her, I have been searching for her on fcbk and other source but not successful. She is ss too, she was my bestie in primary school.
ReplyDeleteThat is how i was chatting with a guy here on single and mingle because i stated clearly that am an ss.... This guy called me stupid just because i missed a day call conversation! I was mad, he went as far as saying as an ss i will life earth soon. Infact he does not know we are the strongest on earth. Knowing pains since birth and being on drugs and suppliments every damn day is no joke. I know i will find true love this year but i want my man to see me for who i am and not for empathy sake. Na God get life and death!!!
ReplyDeleteOh dear, that guy is mean. God will send your true love your way 🙏🏿
DeleteSorry dear, don't mind the insensitive dunce.
DeleteSo sorry dear.
DeleteSome people are just evil and wicked waiting for opportunity to unleash their bitterness on people.
Please cut off such evil man.
True love you will have soonest.
E-hugs.
Wicked soul he is.
DeletePosterity will judge him.
It is well with oko ashawo..give love a chance again.
ReplyDeleteThis SS thing is so sad. The love of my life and I are both AS. I have friends that are SS and I've seen what they've been through, and so I told myself that I woulhh't put my kids in that kind of danger. We have since moved on, buy what I've come to realize is that AS and AS or SS and AS love can be too sweet. It's the trick of devil. Run away so that your kids wouldn't become victims
ReplyDeleteNo be lie dear. The sweetness no be here o. I am presently in that predicament
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