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SPIRITUALLY AND BIOLOGICALLY DISTURBED FAMILY
My husband is the best, his family is the best too, But if I knew what I know now, I wouldn’t have married him.
Lesson to young girls, always ask questions about family history before entering into marriage.
Modern life made me skip those traditional askings; now I have disabled kids. After marriage, I found out my brother In-law too was disabled, I never met him before marriage…
A lot is going on with the family, biologically and spiritually, but they are nice individuals. I drive luxury cars, have millions in my account but I’m not happy and because my hubby is very nice, I hide my sadness from him coz I don’t ever want him to feel bothered…
Ask the right questions before Marriage!
Ask the right questions before Marriage!
You say what???
Very true, both parties should try to know the other's history before venturing into something serious.
ReplyDeleteSame here, I wouldnt have married, I would have stayed single, PLEASE I REPEAT WHAT SHE SAID THERE, ASK QUESTIONS, SEND YOUR FAMILY, ASK FRIENDS TO GO, DO BACKGROUND CHECK. SEE THIS TEARS WEY DEY FALL FROM MY EYES, I TAKE BEG YOU. ASK GOD, JESUS, HOLY SPIRIT, MEN, WOMEN, CHILDREN!!!! ASK EVERYBODY!!! WATCH YOUR DREAM. I DREAMT OF UNRIPE ORANGE, IT IS NOW I KNOW THE MEANING. I FOR WAIT OR FORGET MARRIAGE AND LIVE MY LIFE. LOVE IS NEVER ENOUGH. BUT GOD WILL TURN MY BITTER WATER TO SWEET WATER BUT PRAYER NO EASY OOOO YOU BETTER STAY IN GOD'S WILL, AND PRAY NO ONE TAKES YOUR SOULMATE OR RIGHT PARTNER.
DeleteMay God help you to overcome the challenges.
ReplyDeleteWhich one is traditional askings?
ReplyDeleteI’m sorry about all that poster.
Were they disabled from birth or what?
Seems your in-laws family was cursed o.
Means go see a fetish priest to check
DeleteDidn’t get that part too.
Delete15:30
Deleteyou don't necessarily need to see a fetish priest, we do it in our family, we always check the family background of our inlaw-to-be whether there is madness in the lineage, generational curses, character of the person while growing up etc. we do this by travelling to their village or ask the neighbours around their family house.
@15:30, I think you are wrong it is not that kind of asking.
DeleteThe poster said she had never met her brother in law until after marriage..
When people were to get married in time past. Somone will be sent from the family to make inquiries about the family and what kind of people they are. I believe that's what she is talking about. Not fetish pls.
Yes
DeleteDats d fact
When my brother wanted to marry a lady then in PH. The lady's father na very rich man n higly placed. He chased my bros away.lol. Firstly, dat he couldn't release his only daughter to a Yoruba guy he didn't know from Adam.
The lady cried her eyes out
My bro just dey think otherwise say na cos he kno get money dats y d man chased him away
The lady said her dad didn't chase him away cos of money but cos of distance
Unknown to us dat d man don send few people to our village in Ondo to check our family background
He also send a CID officer to my family house in Ibadan to stay with my mum and dad, this CID officer pretended to be my bro's friend dat he came all the way from PH to have a seminar in Ibadan.
He spent 4days in.our house and saw how my parents used to relate like old schl Remeo and Juliet, how They would wake up and go morning Mass togeda et al
And saw how me and my sis behaved for d number of days he spent with us
It was on d day of introduction d man apologized to my family n bross dat he sent CID to investigate our family
Las las d man allowed my bro married d girl in a bigger way
Ps: this happened in 2000. I believe it would be difficult for d CID to stay in our house now cos my parents would have reached my bro on fone if truly he sent someone to come stay wit us.
Quite empathize with you lady.
ReplyDeletePlease treat your husband well, he is not the cause of the problems.
Are there believers in Christ in that family?
Gather them together to fast and pray on a daily basis until there is victory over the forces that are at work against the family.
Not gathering them for fasting n pray is the solution. Are the people involved know they have issues? There must be agreement before liberation will take place. "Unless 2 agree...."
DeleteIt’s likely that your kids disabilities are inherited but the traditional part..what are you alluding to?
ReplyDeleteU didn't meet his brother?? Na wah oo
ReplyDeleteU didn't know anything about the family and u married him??.is is because of the luxury cars and robust account balance???
Madam u open eyes enter abeg!
Some people come here to share half baked stories to sound naive, to excuse nonsense!
Abeg manage ur circumstances and take care of those kids!!!
Empathize. Not too hard to do so.
DeleteShe admitted her fault. Don't rub it in.
She is here to help, teach others and maybe seek help/advice.
Poster please pray for wisdom and deliverance
By the way, do you have other words for her?
So mean! No human empathy
DeleteYou can’t always meet sibs before marriage
DeletePeople live apart these days and they won’t fly down just to meet you
SMH
DeleteEmotional intelligence is considered a form of strength rather than a weakness. You need some of it.
Some of you always act here like you have the perfect life out there.
DeleteSometimes, just walk away without typing. You won't die.
Why so mean?
I also didn't meet my ex's siblings before marriage simply because i didn't know they exist. He introduced strangers to me as his relatives. He gave them money and provided the logistics for them to attend our wedding. He was Akwaibom while i'm from Anambra. Please don't judge the chronicle writer! it happens!!!!
Deleteyou really need to learn how to communicate, as in pass your message across without being judgmental...you dont know her and just assume she is sharing half baked stories? very rude comment
DeleteVery true.pple don't investigate anymore and it's wrong.poster u mean u haven't told ur hubby how u feel? He should be d one bothered oh! Since he kept all dis from u.
ReplyDeleteThat is why marriages are as if they are made from pap these days.
DeleteI also know a family that does not lack a mad person in every generation.
ReplyDeleteIt got so bad that even the females became extra burdens; no marriage.
It took one of them to be dumped on her wedding day to wake up. She became a believer in Christ and began fasting and prayer. She was soon joined by the wife of one of her brothers, then the daughter and on and on. She never stopped until every girl in that family was married off and everyone saved.
What she found out among other things, when she began to pray was that their great grand mother slept outside of marriage with a rich man who was an occultist.
Dear, for the sake of your kids, and grand kids, fight this battle now.
Your kids are not disabled. They're kids with special needs/kids with disabilities. I hope young ladies learn from your chronicles. Being nice alone doesn't do it, one need to shine his/her eyes so as not to allow "niceness" block his/her sense of reasoning and being objective.
ReplyDeleteIn Igboland, we do that but some that called themselves "township" people will just marry thereby neglecting some vital things. Atimes, its not fasting and prayer o, practical is needed like investigation which is important.
DeletePoster, may God give you happiness through it all.
When I began praying for my family for a similar issue, I was fighting in the dream every night with all kinds of monsters. At some point they wanted me to stop fasting and calling on "that name" or else... I did not relent. The more I was attacked, the more I persisted. It took me 8 months, that was during one of the ASUU strikes in the early 90s. Thank God for our family today. We have preachers, doctors, Engineers and above all, everyone is saved, married, have kids and calling upon "that name;" Jesus Christ. Life is spiritual people. And in Christ is victory.
ReplyDeleteHonestly this should have been me but don no free me focus on Christ. God has shown me that I will be the one to always intercede for my family.
DeleteIn this day and age, were most people's advice is "take it to your grave" or "dont tell your partner everything about yourself, so that they won't use the information against you later" ... even if you ask a million and one questions, if the person subscribes to the above-mentioned advice, you still won't know the whole truth!!
ReplyDeleteTrue
DeleteThat’s why she’s talking about “asking” the trad way or you find prophet
Where*
DeleteI am not rulling the spiritual aspect out but at times some of this disabilities are in the genes.some times,they are recessive in some individuals while dominant in others.my mum have a distant cousin,they are not super rich but comfortable.Some of this woman's children were deaf and they did all they could do but they still remained deaf.
ReplyDeleteThe deaf ones went ahead to marry and none of their kids were deaf while one of those that could hear gave birth to another deaf child.
Just like the case of the popular blind musician,that still gave birth to a blind child.
I hope you've checked if it's medical,so you can deal with before your kids transfer to their offspring.
God did not create any "disabled gene"
DeleteRead Genesis chapter 1 and see after creation, he saw all he created and they were "VERY GOOD"
God gave himself that score. So please how did the disabled gene come in?
Anon, no na, the baby decided to burst his ear drums from the womb before coming out
Delete@Eka Joy
DeleteDid you open Genesis 1 and read at all?
Let me give you one you will read here;
1 Cor. 2:14 The person without the Spirit does not accept the things that come from the Spirit of God but considers them foolishness, and cannot understand them because they are discerned only through the Spirit.
Hahahaha Eka why nau.
DeleteI see the anti-God committee here. Hmm
DeleteAnon 19.01, she's not a believer so it's probably pointless using the Bible as a reference point of discussion. Many church goers are actually not true believers.
DeleteAre you guys saying that a deaf or blind child is bad? So because on the day of creation God said all he made, before he made man, was good, then anything that doesn't meet your standards is bad? The same bible says we shouldn't call anyone good because only God is good. There are disabilities in genes, just like sickle cell and height. Doesn't mean the people with such things are bad or spiritually afflicted. God allows these things for a purpose. Stop condemning what you don't understand on God's behalf. The stigma is enough already.
Delete@20:07
DeleteI did not see church mentioned church there. If the Bible is "pointless" to you, it is not pointless to every other person on this blog or cyber space. Supposing this commenter quoted Socrates or Plato, will you have written that she is 'not a Socrates or Plato follower" or used that word "pointless?" Please some of us love Scriptures and love to learn it okay? It is not difficult, if you see Bible mentioned or quoted, scroll past. Hiaa!
@21:13
DeleteI did not say that they are bad, neither did I condemn anyone in my comments. I said God made everything very good, that is if you take time to read the Scripture under reference. That does not mean that there is nothing unwholesome in the world. In the next two chapters, we saw the enemy of God and mankind in the Garden of Eden and the sufferings began. But Jesus was made manifest to destroy the devil's works 1 John 3:8. Please try to understand and not attack.
22.12 my point is someone who is not a true believer will not accept the Bible's stance, thus her comment that the baby burst its ear drums.
DeletePlease let's go into relationships with our eyes open. Too many heart breaking news. Haba, is it impossible to not meet at least the immediate family first ? Most times we are blinded by too many irrelevant things.
ReplyDeletehmmmmmmm
ReplyDeleteIt's well dear poster
God will continue to strengthen and empower for your kids and I pray for the divine healing, deliverance and total restoration upon your family (Especially your children)in Jesus name, Amen.
Are your kids disabled bcoz your in-law is disabled?
ReplyDeleteIs your husband disabled?
How many of your in-laws are disabled?
Why not share the full story with us so we know how to advise you
If the brother has it and the kids now have the same thing, then it probably runs in the family
DeleteHave you checked if it has to do with their genetic makeup,if that's the case let your female child/daughter in law do prenatal diagnosis to check for this disabilities.May the Lord grant you peace.
ReplyDeleteTaking care of disabled children can be torturous. If you have the strength and if you can forgive yourself, snuff the life out of them and adopt healthy kids. Take it from a medical practitioner, those kids are never gonna get better and you'll spend your whole life in sadness just taking care of them. This is a very merciful advice that I'm not supposed to give. Sometimes there may not be spiritual issues like you allude it. But something is wrong somewhere if you have more than a disabled kid.
ReplyDeleteWHAT! Snuff life out of the kids?
DeleteWhat sort of evil medical doctor are you? Gosh!!! I am so dazed reading what you just wrote. Is it the children's fault that they were born disabled? Why would you advise a woman to kill the children she gave birth to? No wonder our society is rottened so many psychopaths.
Delete15:45
DeleteYou must be a Eugenicist or you believe in Euthanasia, smh, can't believe there are so many murderers here cause this won't be my first time to see such humans display their evil intent.
won't be surprised if you've murdered several disabled kids under your care, medical practitioner isonu.
DeleteMay God have mercy on your troubled soul
You're an evil person
DeleteJeesu!😱
DeleteReminds me of that chronicle "Stella should I suffocate him using pillow?"
How can a mother kill her own child? That peace you are telling her about, she will not have it if she kills any of them, in fact, the sadness of taking care of them for the rest of her life is far better than the sadness and turmoil that will come with murder. Poster pls don't harm any of them
Whatever happened to “do no harm”???? Medical practitioner indeed. May I never encounter a ‘medical practitioner’ like you! Tueh
DeleteJesus Christ!
DeleteThing is that some people believe in and practice Euthanasia. They'd rather kill the person than allow them to be suffering. But this commenter eee, I only know Euthanasia to be common when a person has a terminal disease and suffering so much. Then either he/she or the family may decide to exercise Euthanasia and end the suffering than waiting for the person to die.
DeleteThis one you are advising is pure murder.
Advocating for murder of an innocent child is the worst. People who deserve to be killed are criminals such as pedophiles, rapists, troublemakers and other vices practised by these demonic elements but not a child please!
DeleteI tell you. I have learnt a lot here.
ReplyDeleteThe disability of the brother wouldn't have stopped you from marrying him. It is unfortunate your kids have physical disabilities. Since money is available you can give the very best life have to offer
ReplyDeleteIt could have. Bipolar disease like Kanye has is inherited. If you marry Kanye’s brother, your kids might get it even if their father didn’t. Some of those things are in the blood or genes even if not dominant
DeleteShe may have still gone ahead to marry him if he ticked her boxes of her dream man
DeleteSo sorry about the issues you re facing, as for the spiritual aspects, you can still do your diggings about the family and take your kids for deliverance so they won't be part of what have been following the family.
ReplyDeleteThere's no family that doesn't have history of one sickness or the other. Manage your cross like that. Even if you asked, you may not have taken it seriously. Sick and disabled people are everywhere.
ReplyDeleteWait poster! Are you saying if you had met the disabled brother before you got married to your husband , you wouldn't have married him or you are insinuating that his disability is spiritual? I don't understand this your chronicle to be honest.
ReplyDeleteMummy pp i dey tell you! Wetin i don learn for this blog ehn, momey no fit buy. I don initiate all my friends and sisters enter SDK cult. For every chronicle, lesson must dey
ReplyDeletePlease BVs, let's try and use the right terminologies when referring to disabilities. We never can tell, a PWD ( Person With Disability) might be reading this blog. Please don't let us use discriminatory terms.
ReplyDeleteThey are not DISABLED. Let us stop saying "Disabled children/Disabled people/Disabled Inlaw" but Children with Disabilities. In my field, we call them Persons With Disabilities (PWDs) and not "disabled".
They also have clusters and different terminologies we use;
1. Physical Disabilities ( what people call lame and/or without limbs-hands and legs including the amputees)
2. Polio Survivor
3. Virtually Impaired ( instead of using Blind. Although most of them won't mind calling them blind but some might find it offensive)
4. Auditory Impaired (Deaf and dumb)
5. Spinal Cord Injury
6. Albinism etc.
Abegi, no be everything we go dey come do political correctness ontop. Leave all these terminologies for hospital people. No be quarrel but make we no dey pamper sicknesses.
Delete18:37, oya read what you wrote, can you make any sense out of it? No be quarrel oh
DeletePrudent Tabitha 👌👌
DeleteAnon, there is something called empathy, addressing people in a way that doesn't demean them is a core value of any sound society.
I agree.
DeleteNGO madam.
DeleteIn my family, it is madness. This is why I married another tribe so they don't even know what is going on in my family.
ReplyDeleteThere is no generation that doesn't have at least one mad person in my family. One of my female cousins died mad, she ran mad while in nursing school . Oh how we wept, very beautiful and brilliant lady,died in her 30s almost 20 yrs ago. One of my uncles also died few years ago, he was raving mad till he died. He was living in one of the abandoned family houses.
Another of my late mad uncle beheaded one his brother's wives back in those days when I was still small. It usually starts like mental problem and degenerates as the years go by. I pray that none of my kids have it as none of my siblings has it. I am too lazy to pray abeg.
My mum was a strong prayer warrior, she used most of her life to pray, now old and weary. My dad died with mental illness. His own started small small, he was working and looked normal but would always fight everyone around him, he would flare up at a little misunderstanding and go on and on, shouting. We all knew whats up. It got serious in old age.
Background check is good. It saves the future. My mum and dad are from the same state but her people did not do background check, they just saw my well dressed dad and his people and handed their daughter to them. It is well. Dad lived in the city while mum was a naive village girl. Jesus is Lord.
It's well with your family. I believe your mum interceded on behalf of you guys her kids. So the generational curse is broken. Just continue to live a holy life so the enemy will not see a loophole to strike.
DeleteDid you read the comments in 15:24 and 15:30? I could have concluded that you wrote both if not that you wrote that "lazy to pray."
DeleteNobody is "too lazy to pray." Nobody is born praying. It is something we all learn by doing and by perseverance. If your mom did it, why not continue it? Do you think of your grand and great grand kids and their generations or you are just thinking only about yourself? Besides, Jesus taught that there is reward in prayer, see Matthew chapter 6.
This is why I don’t like inter tribal marriage because most may be running from some stigma people in their state know very well about their family. Now you have introduced serious madness into that boys lineage.
DeleteI hope he’s not Yoruba because, if any of your children show traces his whole family will become ostracized and people will talk. Then they will perform investigation, find out it’s you and you will see hell my dear. If you have such violent history of mental illness running in your family, please don’t procreate. Adopt and live in peace. Don’t go and bring trouble on another family or innocent children. I was shocked the whole time I was reading this.
18:41 if your dad had seek psychiatric help and medication plus prayers of course, it would have helped a lot. Too bad the kids might carry his gene so you all hopefully will know what to do. Medication really helps balance the brain chemistry. Good luck.
DeleteIt is well dear 🤗🤗🤗🤗
DeleteLord have mercy
ReplyDeleteAnd you're too lazy to pray?
ReplyDeleteWho else should be a prayer warrior if not you.
Summary of Abuja type marriages.
ReplyDeleteNa so my client go marry, didn't know the guy and his sister had hereditary madness ooo. Also she was.his.2nd.mar4iag3, the 1st ran away from abuse and zero sperm count.
Always do background check on any person that you want to marry.
A medical Fictor Advisibg killing of disabled children??? Unbelievable.You need deliverance ooo
ReplyDeleteNo matter how rich and clean the guy is, if he's talking marriage, tell your parents or bros to do village investigation first before township investigation on the guy's. Some ladies can even run away from home as a result of one thing or d other and go stay with their aunties, guys make una do thorough homework, classwork and assignment o. Vice versa shah.
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