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Sunday, August 07, 2022

Sunday In House Gists - Siblings And Friends With Entitlement Mentality...

 Do you have siblings or friends who fall into this category? Its so horrible for someone to think that you owe them something when you dont......





Sometimes it is not even your sibling or friends that have this mentality but people who think they are doing you a favour...

I have had contact with people who have this mentality of expecting that you MUST give them either your money, your time, your emotions or whatever else they seek of you.... Most times the entitlement mentality is attached to money alone but it goes deeper than that for some....


Ever met anyone with this mindset? Sibling? friend or lover? what was your reaction?

Lets gist!

72 comments:

  1. My God damn aunt, after all my late parents did 4 her and her family, she still feel entitled for everything without asking if I someone is doing well....

    My siblings are God sent, we do everything together, one person's problem is a problem 4 all.

    My maternal too dey try Even without entitlement

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    1. That’s how my dads last brother sent a message telling me that I’m living large and I don’t check up on him even though he’s passing through financial difficulty because they heard and thought I married a man that is well to do.

      I told him that dollars is 700 naira and we are all trying to survive.

      Rubbish!!
      You didn’t contribute one single thing to my existence. I recently re connected with you and all you know is to ask for money

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  2. The worst people on this table are those that added ingratitude to it. Even God dislikes ungrateful people.

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    1. I get your point but God loves everyone.

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    2. 18:31 that’s not biblical
      The Bible says and God said Jacob I have loved and Esau I have hated

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  3. Entitlement mentality reeks of ignorance and timidity.
    Back in Uni,I was shuffling between my studies and work,I wanted more money aside the monthly allowance my folks gave me.
    This employer got me an ushering job,which I did well and got paid.
    I didn't know he was expected me to give him commission out of my pay,Bruh like why??
    Weren't you paid for recruiting me?
    He gossiped me everywhere and even said some nasty things about me,finally I was banned from the ushering agency because of his false witnesses. I'd rather get banned than give him Shishi...Very ungrateful fellow.

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    1. Hmmm. If you want to move far in life remember to always appreciate people that helped you get to any level anywhere in your career or business. Entitlement or not.
      This is like oil to your engine in career or business. That’s why companies have referral bonuses, and business send hampers to even clients and businesses partners at the end of the year..
      appreciating him out of the little you earned would have opened more doors for you in that company but from what you narrated doing otherwise shut it.

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    2. Yvonne u said it all. The man acted right so u are the ungrateful and even tight fisted one here. As dem sack u who lose?

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    3. It would not have taken anything from you to show your appreciation.

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    4. Yvonne
      He got paid already, why should he want from her Little
      Money

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    5. The giveaway mentality is endemic in Nigeria. He most likely got a commission for recruiting you but believe me, to get people like this off your back, even a hamper at Christmas time will do nothing. They are ever desperate for money and that's why they never have enough. The fact that he took time out to tarnish your image shows he didn't do a favor in the first place. All he wanted was the money so set aside such commission for people who see themselves as brokers. It is left for your next connect to refuse money but , please always offer if you don't want such people on your back.

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    6. That she didn't give him doesn't justify him lying about her to the extent that she lost the opportunity. Is he God? People like him never end well

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    7. Yvonne O, you are part of the problem. The expectation to show gratitude via monetary gift because someone did a favour or something is wrong. This is part of why corruption is plenty.

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  4. My younger brother and sister are comfortably sitting on this table! My brother was sent away from university of Abuja after joining cult and fighting in the whole Gwagwalada. I got that admission for him through connections but he went there and wasted 4yrs of our money without nothing to show for it. After that he got a job in a paint company that he was been paid 20k, bros does not contribute in the house eating free and doesn't want to be responsible the next thing we saw bros brought a babe home saying she has accommodation problems. I was mad talked to him but for where he was always fighting me. He got married to the same lady no job, no handwork, no business, he feels entitled that we should always help him as per last born and only son. I tell him that for the fact that you are our last born and only son so you should just fold yourself and wait for us to be feeding you and your wife in this age? Bros is almost 40 yrs old ooo. I just face front i cannot come and kill myself over bros matter.

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    1. I’m expected to be taking care of not only my mom but, my 50 year old sister & her grown up children but she expects me to be giving them money. I send food & groceries through an online service. Never mind that I started taking care of all my siblings & parents over thirty years ago. She is wicked and is wishing me evil. I’m not one to write chronicles but I’m older and close to retirement with an extended family and in-laws that have been eating my labor without gratitude. I resent them for this though I will always love them but why enslave other people just because they are related to you? I asked her to leave Lagos for a less expensive city over a decade ago as I was tired of paying Lagos bills, having left Lagos myself. She & her supporters started saying I want to send her out of Lagos. I don’t feel anything, no emotion for them because they used thirty years of my life, my very good income, they have never even sent me a bowl of Garri or dry fish here! Then she is diabolical because I’m sending no money but groceries. They don’t even know how I have survived here for so long with no relatives but God! Nigerians can be transactional in relationships! Stop treating children & siblings as if they are ATMs & mean nothing if they dont give as much as when younger, you should care enough to understand. Not feel ungrateful & entitled. There is inflation everywhere! $12 per tuber of yam, $100 to fill car fuel tank, $10 for fish you slice into 4, a bag of 5kg Garri is about $10! πŸ‡ΊπŸ‡ΈIs not paradise for those who like burdens on their “abroad siblings”. Taxes & bills are huge in addition to the global recession.

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    2. Anon 14:34 your brother's name starts with capital "S" let me face front

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  5. Alot of people have this mentality both friends, colleagus and siblings forgetting you don't owe anyone anything in this life. Some will expect you to give them full gist about how you want to do things but they will never give you hint on what they plan to do for themselves.

    Once I notice you have such attitude I will just control shift from you and distance myself from you.

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    1. Don't mind them

      Always minding other people's business

      Their ear good to hear your own but their mouth heavy to share their own

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  6. I used to have a friend then,this guy can like to gist and he wants my full attention..I won't do anything else aside to sit and listen attentively to his gist about his babe and all..if he's talking and I don't pay attention,he will get offended and be miserable! He often call me at night when MTN night call was on then,I was enjoying it initially until one night he called and I didn't pick,guyman came to my house the next day to warn me oh! I told him my piece of mind and that was the end of the friendship

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    1. Say what?πŸ˜…πŸ˜…πŸ˜…πŸ€£πŸ€£

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    2. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

      He ain't normal biko

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    3. πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ€£πŸ€£πŸ€£

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    4. I think I am fine with everyone both families and friends.
      My circle is actually small and restricted.

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    5. Warn you ke? That one is a psychopath.

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  7. Chai,alert Dn showπŸ’ƒπŸ’ƒπŸ’ƒπŸ’ƒπŸ˜πŸ˜πŸ˜πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚, thank you Stella, Angel KOOF,God continue to bless and increase you,long life is your portion and prosperity,thank you so much😍😍
    All the angels here,God bless you
    Happy Sunday my people
    Good afternoon

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  8. I had a colleague like that when I was still teaching, who felt she must always be 'appreciated' by parents of pupils. She would nag and insult the pupils whose parents haven't given her anything before. You can't even argue that with her because you won't win. She believed the parents were all rich so why being 'stingy'. Entitled people always see others as stingy

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    1. Your last sentence nails it.

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  9. My younger ones,they feel cos am the eldest,I should send them money always.i sometimes avoid calls from them when am broke

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  10. My younger brother is like that, he feels we should be paying him salary every month while he gallants. No way, I 'm not going to do that. I removed my self and he received sense.

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    1. You are lucky he is not diabolical, envious & into jazz. Those are the worst ones to break free from.

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  11. I never feel entitled to my siblings or friend’s money. Same way I wouldn’t want anybody to feel entitled to my money.

    But my parents can feel entitled to my money any day, anytime. It’s their right. Na them suffer to train me in school, it’s my duty to return the favour.

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  12. My sister hubby are sitting on this table,Them nd their husband are shamless,the junior sis just gave birth,nd bill is 167k,hubby gave him 35k for discharging the baby,gave him another 50k,making 85k,yet the idiot said he only have 40k with him,I told hubby not to call him again nor give them any money he should sort him self out,his inlaw gave him money yet his not ashamed.stella,I went to the hospital on the day of discharge,the elder sis told me,she is lucky during her own time that her brother(my hubby) paid for her 1st nd 2nd baby which is CS too,that but now her brother now have( bukata)responsibility that,that y he cant pay all the full money for her sis,haaaa I was boiling inside,I told her back immediately,ur brother can't keep taking care of pipu responsibility for life,cos himself must take care of his own kid.....yeye sisters nd irresponsible husband

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    1. You said the same thing she said yet you are mad at her

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    2. His wife is his responsibility and his children

      Not entitled foolish relatives

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  13. Many of The people that call abroad people for money
    They can never understand things are sometimes tight for you too. Then worse is they start selecting jobs and businesses. I won’t do this of that
    You can’t even make suggestions for fear that they’ll thinking you think less of them

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    1. I usually block those ones oooo. Some of them don't understand they are enjoying more than person wey dey abroad.
      At least you can beg someone for money, who person wey dey abroad won beg πŸ₯΄πŸ€·πŸ½‍♀️

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    2. 20:33 thank you
      I only have my credit card to beg
      Some once they hear you can get card, will call and ask you to get one and use for them 🀣🀣🀣🀣

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    3. Anon 16:21 God bless you! I resent my relatives in Nigeria. They don’t care if you die getting their wants! No feelings for those of us here. If it’s easy come here & work now! The worst ones are those who start visiting jazz houses to hurt someone just because they said they don’t have what they don’t have! Those ones deserve Tinubu as their president. Wicked lots. This is for my wicked heartless sister that I’m just 3 years older than but have shouldered her bills for over 20 years since I was a teenager who is still so entitled ungrateful & diabolical. May her evil fall on her own head in Jesus Name as God knows what I have & what I cannot afford again!

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  14. I belong to a Whatsapp group for Secondary School classmates. There exists a subtle wealth competition and then there are obligate victims. Any little challenge is a cry for help and emotional blackmail for financial assistance. After this year, I go just dey on read-only mode.

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  15. I needed this to vent,I have one annoying and self centered sibling, all he knows is to collect but never gives even from his little.He comes to our apartment claiming to be visiting but end up staying for weeks and contributes absolutely nothing for feeding, saving his own income.The most annoying thing is that he’s older than the rest of us oo. There was a time he came to our apartment with bread he bought, he told everyone not to touch the bread that it’s for him alone,I was so disgusted it would have turned into a full blown argument,but no one wants to confront him to avoid his problems.

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    1. Hmmm

      You are all are enabling foolishness that is growing wings, continue

      A crafty person acts like you all are fools and you are allowing him to get away with it?

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  16. My husband's uncle,who hadn't spent 1 naira on him,and doesn't even know if my husband have children now or not,he's never called to ask of his welfare suddenly sent a text " hi my dear, please I'm not asking you to buy a new car for ne,all I need is for you to help me repair this rickety one, I know you can afford to change it,but I'm not asking for that" no call for years prior the text,hubby thought the text is not for him, only for my mother in law to call,and say uncle lagbaja said he sent him text,and he ignored it,when hubby told his mum about the text she was shocked,since the he hasn't called o,but busy telling everyone hubby is not responsible,we at we dey manage our lives, I still dey hustle giveaway here to help my life sef o

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  17. Those who have the right to feel entitled do not. Those who have no right whatsoever, are the ones who feel entitled. Story of my life.

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  18. For every sense of entitlement, na you dey promote it. Shut people out. Shut people down. They will always find ways to survive. God forbid a Nigerian takes responsibility for any action. The ones that screw up wait for bail out from friends, families or acquaintances. Leave them alone to sink or swim

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  19. My mother's brother.When my father died,no one contributed to his burial even his own only brother his senior.This shameless uncle demanded that our first daughter who is in charge of the burial arrangements because she was the only one around should pack all the money we the children and our husbands contributed and give him to handle the arrangements.So shameless,my sister finished him.Since that day,he has been going round aimlessly talking ill of my sister.To think that my sister is training one of his children.Forget, don't kill yourself for anyone o in this life.

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    1. Let her train the child then return the child to sender

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  20. I’m grateful for my family. No pressure whatsoever. Every little thing you do for them is well appreciated(as it should be).

    Sunshine BV

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  21. My Elder sister is sitting on this table. I met a man she was working for thru her who promised to marry me. Since last year she has done everything possible for the marriage not to hold telling my parents all sort of things against the relationship. Saying how can her younger sister get married before her. in fact she doesn't speak to me or the man for a year now. We have pleaded with her for peace to reign yet she refused. I've left her with her conscience. Make I no go develop BP

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    1. Haba, what kind of wickedness is that? Is it not a good thing that your sibling is getting married.

      I've told my younger ones to go ahead and get married when they meet the right person, no one should wait for elder sis

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    2. That’s not entitled but interesting story
      Have you really asked her why she’s against the marriage
      What if she knows something you don’t know
      If at the end, you want to marry him, both of you go to court and marry

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    3. Yes I've asked her if there is something she wants to tell about the man that I dnt knw... She said NO. Different people hv asked her what d problem is, yet she keeps saying she is not against the marriage but her words and actions says different

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    4. Ask her well and be sure. This one is not entitlement

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    5. 20:57 if that’s the case, that’s he wahala then. Check him well and move on with your life

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    6. Anon 19:06, your elder sister is wicked & competitive. Competitive siblings become jealous after a while and some go diabolical. Be prayerful. My older sister hates me from high school till now because I caught up since primary, graduated college first. I couldn’t do things right. I was only good as an ATM. When I stopped the atm they all stopped speaking to me. It’s jealousy. This is going in that direction.

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  22. Na my breast get that entitlement mentality, can u imagine,normally I supposed dey wear sz 12,but because of breast I no fit,breast go dey tell me say make I buy sz 14 so e fit rest wella,I saw one fine cloth I nor fit buy,cos breast no greeπŸ˜ͺ

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  23. I know a 47 year old bros sitting gididigba on this table.

    A layabout who doesn't want to work or do anything. If he gets a job of 100 to 120k, he will reject it and say the salary is meagre. He will rather beg or go to people and talk to them into investing in a non existent business. After collecting your money, he will tell you the non existent business is struggling.

    His siblings pay his rent and feed him. He rented a 4 bedroom apartment, no wife, no children. Oga is still having relationship issues, he wants a perfect woman.

    All his younger siblings live abroad, their mom has made it difficult for them to reset him, once they decide to reset him, she starts causing trouble and giving everyone headache. He will still insult them and tell them off as per I am your senior.

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    1. This one is not entitlement alone, it's Ise Aye

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    2. Miss Abroadian he should pray not for the mother to die otherwise na from the burial ceremony he go understand. Nonsense

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    3. SimplyTonia, it’s entitlement and see this mother she mentioned, they are actually at the root
      Busy guilt tripping the siblings for not helping the one that refuses to try

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  24. My extended family including my own mom & younger sister are on this table! Sometimes I wish God will tell them to leave me alone to face my life for once! “Kenimani”, “Dabimotida”…plus lack of gratitude for every sacrificed vacation, forfeited land etc.
    I paid School fees of 2 generations, fed 3 generations but when it was time for me to send my own kids to college here & I didn’t give as much as I did for decades, jazzing started. Thank God for Jesus. Some Yoruba families are very occultic & wicked ingrates. The most annoying thing is that they are entitled. Nobody owes you anything, it’s parents that brought kids into the world that owe them. Stop breeding more than you can take care of. Westerners have max of 3 kids per household on the average! Kids don’t owe parents anything but honor & love, appreciate a kid that works hard early in life & relieves your burdens, your siblings don’t owe you a dime especially if you all had equal opportunities! Appreciate them if they help you but don’t become entitled & wicked!

    It’s upside down as a culture to have the number of kids you feel like & expect a sibling to spend their lifetime struggling to foot bills they did not incur. May God punish all workers of evil in my family. I have paid for other people’s kids private schools when mine attended public schools, opened clothing boutiques with brand names spending thousands of $ on inventory I bought & shipped with my hard earned money yet they now hate me they don’t even speak to me again! I sacrificed a lot in life for parents & siblings but mine are wicked & God will judge them! Except for my dad, God bless his soul!

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  25. Let’s say it’s only in Nigeria that people with entitlement problems. I would love to write an epistle of my own immediate family but I’ll just keep it short n classy. I recently blocked my brothers from sending me messages on all platforms. They actually think cuz one is abroad money do grow on trees. What I do is I get across to them through my mom/sister but they don’t v access to me anymore cuz it’s always about money nothing else. One thing I’ll tell you people having same problem is to cut this people off for your own mental health. I love them still but I love my sanity better.

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  26. Have you noticed one thing? All those shouting "entitlement" are those with low self-esteem who don't know how to say NO!

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  27. It’s not low self esteem to have a kind heart! Speak for yourself. I took care of others for thirty years not due to low self esteem but to pull them up in life as I knew Nigeria will become worse. It turned into entitlement. You need to actually study psychology to begin to diagnose low self esteem correctly. Yes. Some actually study it and provide therapy when it’s accurately diagnosed

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  28. If you are deemed successful or wealthy, whether you believe it or not, saying “No” all the time can make some siblings & relatives go diabolical or begin to wish you evil. I heard of a woman who submits all her siblings names to her jazzman to ask which of them has large money at any point in time. That one will not just know how the money disappears or spend it on sickness if they refuse to give her what she asks for. There are deep, crazy things going on out of desperation & wickedness in Nigeria.

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