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SERIOUS ADVICE NEEDED

This thing has been on my mind. 
 I'm in love with a guy I met on social media. We met in 2019. He is black American. He has been good to me emotionally and financially.

 I tried to get a US visa but got rejected twice. He on the other side doesn't want to come to Nigeria because his family doesn't support our relationship.

 I feel like he doesn't love me enough else he would have been with me already.

Now he is from an influential family, he is their last born and his elder siblings are against online relationships, they are really influential and way richer than him. He said he made many mistakes in life and they feel like he is about to make another mistake by being with me.

 Everyone in his family knows about me. He makes videos talking to them about me, and I hear and can see how they feel about me, even if they try to hide it. He respects their opinion a lot to the point that they never encouraged him to be with me, sometimes I speak to his mom on the phone and she is like why do I want to be with her son, do I truly love him, and I answer affirmative. She is an old woman. And she loves this my bf so much.

We have broken up our online relationship many times and after few days we are back talking again. These days when we argue we can't even stay angry long, we are already apologising to each other.

Ok now for me I have had failed relationships and age is not on my side as they used to say once a woman has reached 30 something she is no longer in the market. Thing is I have tried getting to know other men back in naija, but they all turned out to be unserious, one doctor guy almost raped me cos i didnt want s#x before marriage, like i didnt trust his intentions. 

Thank God he didnt succeed 

The last guy that tried to date me was cool but we met just a month to my relocating.
Note I have been celibate since 2018 June.
So I decided to relocate and had to enter Canada on a student visa, I resigned and gathered my small business money and I'm now in Canada. 

Hoping all goes well on the long run.
Reason for this Chronicle is that there is a friend of mine I have known for almost 15yrs. He likes me crazy, in fact he tried to date me several times back in naija,but I I refused cos at those times I was with other guy whom I though we were going to settle down.

So this guy has been a good friend all these years, and he relocated to Canada with his family last year. And they have 2 daughters. This friend of mine told me when he married his wife that its because I gave him no chance that he had to find an alternative.

Now he has been having issues in his marriage since 2yrs and hoping they will resolve it but his wife doesnt seem to want to continue. He said she jokingly told one of his sisters that it's like they will find another wife for their brother o, as she doesn't know how she will do him.

He said his wife starves him of s#x and never initiates s#x. She told him they are not compatible. That she is done, that she is only still with him because they are still new here in Canada and their kids are bellow 4yrs.
She doesn't cook or clean the house, he does it by himself when he has time from work.

Now he told me all these things not just cos he is interested in me, but we are really close friends, he always confides in me even when the going was good with his wife and business back in Nigeria.
Now he seriously asking me to be with him again. Although we are not in the same Province, but he is willing to have a serious relationship with me, he says he is waiting for a change of job, he might be moving to work in the US. He wants to be much stable financially before he goes for a divorce.

Now my issue is this , I feel like it's because I'm on the side, not like we are cheating o, but I feel like it's because of me he is gingering to leave his wife, even if his wife has clearly shown she isn't interested. Can't type everything here.
But I don't wanna feel guilty for anything.

Then the most important thing now is I'm still in love with the other guy in the US. Like he got my heart. Can't imagine not communicating with him or not even seeing him, like we have plans for this year. He plans to visit me here in Canada, and I also wanna re-apply for a US visa, I might be lucky this time. Like I just want a taste of him.

Now my issue is I don't want to miss out on any opportunity to get married this year. Omo I want to have my own baby. I want to have a family. So it's a lot I'm dealing with currently.
I'm planning that among these two guys whoever I first to meet in this land like this, I'm definitely getting my eggs baked. And I'm hoping and praying it will be the other guy. I can't wait for my summer holiday. Even my sister has advised that I quickly get pregnant, but she doesn't know about this naija guy here. Can't tell my siblings about this naija guy cos he is married. 

Na wa o. I'm scared of people tagging me husband snatcher when I was never there o. 

As for the other guy in naija whom I met just before traveling, we still communicate, he got a good job in Nigeria, he is saying he wants to relocate to Canada so he can be close to me, I'm telling him not to leave his job cos if he comes here he will start from scratch and he won't like it. I feel like he is not serious cos I told him to come with a tourist visa and we can see and he can be visiting.
Guys advice is needed, don't cause me out pls be kind. Thanks in advance. But I don't want to miss out of someone I truly love and care about. And I want a child.

Ah my dear you sound too desperate and might make a mistake...Three men and only you...Rule out the married one abeg, he should go and sort out things with his wife......That black American guy, if his family doesnt want you , my dear you are in for a long thing and if he still listens to them he can walk away from you if his marrying you hurts his family, so that is another wahala...The one in Naija you said is not serious, you should know better...Maybe none of these guys is yours...

If you have been celebate for so long, then you can be a little patient......Dont act so desperate cos no need having a child that the father will not be available....