Narrating her journey to motherhood, she stated that she hid the pregnancy for fear of being stigmatized....
"You know things aren’t what they used to be at that time. Getting pregnant at the age of 20 was a bit dramatic, because you just feel like the world is coming against you. You might probably want to die at a point, and you wouldn’t be able to get married again because of the stigma.
You would want to hide it from your parents and the public because it was considered a thing of shame at that time. Not that it was a thing of shame for me, but it was considered to be early.
Omotola got married at 18, lot of people married at 17, but where I come from, they want you to graduate, and do a couple of things. I was already in Yabatech when I got pregnant. I was hiding it. It’s just close friends and family members knew about it. Thinking that you may not get married, somebody calling you a baby mama, and you don’t
want to get stigmatised”.
Interview on Talk to B podcast.
You would want to hide it from your parents and the public because it was considered a thing of shame at that time. Not that it was a thing of shame for me, but it was considered to be early.
Omotola got married at 18, lot of people married at 17, but where I come from, they want you to graduate, and do a couple of things. I was already in Yabatech when I got pregnant. I was hiding it. It’s just close friends and family members knew about it. Thinking that you may not get married, somebody calling you a baby mama, and you don’t
want to get stigmatised”.
Interview on Talk to B podcast.
It's well.
ReplyDeleteLord, please have mercy on our kids and all the young people out there to turn out right.
This woman is not just okay, omotola got MARRIED, how can she use omotola as a reference... eniola you got pregnant, you carry belle, totally different, and yes you are a baby mama, embrace the title. As for people who thought you would not get married,they are right, at least for now because you are not yet married. Trying to use omotola to make yourself feel better. Person when them pay her bride price.
DeleteWhere is the child today?
ReplyDeleteI can imagine how grown and fine he or she may be now
You were a bit older when yours happened.
ReplyDeleteA lot of my classmates got pregnant very early. One got pregnant at 13 and delivered the baby, got pregnant again at 15 and delivered the baby then got pregnant again at 19. She is a grandma now.
Her elder sister was always aborting hers but my classmate always kept hers.
My 12 years olds and 13 years old classmates already had boyfriends back then and boys as young as 14 were sleeping around.
I was done with school at age 15 so I went to visit my classmate who was also 15 but met her pregnant. Her younger sister was extremely promiscuous in school back then so I was surprised it was my friend who was pregnant. I later learnt they took her to the guys house for him to marry her.
The next year, I saw another friend from school backing her baby when She came to our estate.
The issue isn't the pregnancy, the issue is engaging in sex outside marriage and that is the underlying cause.
I don't see how using omotola as an example fit into this her narrative though.
What are their parents doing in all these?
Deleteomo, things dey happen
DeleteI thought it's only Igbo people that used to stigmatize women that got pregnant out of wedlock then.
ReplyDeleteNow it's a new norm even though some families still frown at it.
Children are blessings from God people.
Just Amy, they are blessings from God, but should not be allowed to suffer because of our carelessness. Some can’t even feed themselves properly, yet they are having kids to suffer with them. What of the stigmatization that goes with it, or you think they don’t want a family with their own mother and father.
DeleteYes stigmatising is really but in all it's better to keep the child and nurture him. You as the parent will be glad in the future cos most children born into the scenario grow up to be great ones if they are well nurtured by God's grace. It's a great thing of joy.. light at the end of the tunnel. Fter the mistake close your legs and face God for help but No, most single parents now condon immorality to extent of breaking homes. That one I hate and that is what is common. She had/has a stint with Odunlade not good at all. It is well, I wish her all the best just noticed she's really trying hard to belong anyway it's good to be hardworking but dont compare yourself with another just cut your cloth according to your material.
ReplyDeleteReal* after*
DeleteThe Baby Would Have Been A Grown Beautiful Lady o..
ReplyDeleteMay God Help Us Mothers To Train Our Kids Right..
Hello iya Boys
That was then oh, they are proudly getting pregnant out of wedlock now.
ReplyDeleteIt is well!
ReplyDeleteWhile it's wise to be mindful of our actions to avoid mistakes, I believe people shouldn't be stigmatized for making wrong choices. After all, mistakes are an inevitable part of growth and learning.