HUBBY AND HIS CHILDHOOD ''FRIEND''
BVs, my husband has this childhood “friend “ that their families used to compare their success, intelligence and achievements from when they were kids. His family was very rich, as in, old money and this guy was a bully.
According to how my husband and his brothers told the gist, this guy used to be the academic star in his school till my husband changed school to his and over took him.
The unhealthy competition between them made them not like each other as much. They both got admission into medical school but the other guy got rusticated for cult activities. After that, the guy got admission far from Lagos a few years later to study something else so, out of shame never came home for a long time.
At some point they met again years later at his sister’s wedding. From what I understood, the guy didn’t feel comfortable because he wasn’t as successful as most of his mates who travelled down for that wedding so he avoided most of them. I think there was also a time he lost a babe he was toasting to my husband. So, the rivalry really wear agbada.
Fast forward after 20years later, 2 weeks ago, my husband was accompanying me to a conference in a South East Asian country, we were in first class, and I noticed someone that looked familiar seating a few rows in the front so when I wanted to stretch my legs, I walked to him. Lo and behold, he was a friend we were in the university together (different departments, different year).
Fast forward after 20years later, 2 weeks ago, my husband was accompanying me to a conference in a South East Asian country, we were in first class, and I noticed someone that looked familiar seating a few rows in the front so when I wanted to stretch my legs, I walked to him. Lo and behold, he was a friend we were in the university together (different departments, different year).
We were actually close at some point then. A very lively guy who had money and loved to throw parties. He was everybody’s friend. I called his name, surprised he stood up and hugged me. I told him I am going for so so conference and he said he was headed there too. We were so happy. I told him to come meet my husband and when my husband stood up to shake his hand, I noticed the smile dry up on his face. But my husband continued to smile even harder. It turned out he was that childhood rival of my husband’s.
We caught up on one another’s lives, he is in the same IT field as me while my husband has reached the pinnacle of his medical career in America.
Anyway, let me go straight to why I am writing this chronicle. We were all in the same hotel for the conference and my husband made good effort to hangout with him a few times but he always come back to say the guy hasn’t changed from the aggressive guy he used to be that he was still asking of his achievements and comparing his life with his.
Anyway, let me go straight to why I am writing this chronicle. We were all in the same hotel for the conference and my husband made good effort to hangout with him a few times but he always come back to say the guy hasn’t changed from the aggressive guy he used to be that he was still asking of his achievements and comparing his life with his.
One early morning I went to the gym, going back to our room. I used the stairs when I met this man and greeted him. We were talking as we walked up the long stairs while he lamented on how his wife left him and business not thriving in Nigeria, only for this man to just reach out and kissed me ON THE LIPS!!!
I pulled back in shock, and with reflex, my right hand smacked him across the face. I went for a second strike and he blocked my hand. But there was no remorse or apology in his expression!
He said he has always liked me in school but I was so young that he didn’t want to mess me up and now I am with “that guy”.
I ran to our room and told my husband with pure horror in my voice. People of God, my husband bursted out in laughter o. He laughed so hard he had tears running down his face. I didn’t know what to make of his reaction.
I ran to our room and told my husband with pure horror in my voice. People of God, my husband bursted out in laughter o. He laughed so hard he had tears running down his face. I didn’t know what to make of his reaction.
I was mortified to say the least. Instead, he begged me to forgive him that “he who is on the ground fears no fall”. He called his elder brother and both of them laughed and begged me. It was then I heard the extent of their life-long rivalry.
For the rest of the conference, whenever my husband saw him, he burst out in laughter. The reaction seemed to even infuriate the man more. He once tried to talk to me during lunch break and I threw a glass of juice at him to the shock of everyone.
I am still very angry because, for the life of me, what kind of stupid laughter has my husband been laughing? He never confronted him or allowed me report the goat to the authorities for misbehaving! I expected more from my husband.
I am still very angry because, for the life of me, what kind of stupid laughter has my husband been laughing? He never confronted him or allowed me report the goat to the authorities for misbehaving! I expected more from my husband.
I like how your husband handled it....Cool guy!!
There is no use taking a big stone to kill an ant,so the next time you people run into ''That guy'' again, please join your hubby in oaughing at him.....LAUGH WELL WELL that you didnt even end up with him...
Yea, laugh at him,but be very weary, such people could go to extremes to feel the "winner" effect.
ReplyDelete🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Why am I also laughing? Sorry o, OP. Your husband should have gone to kick down his door and given him some blows in the eye for trespassing on his Achala Ugo🤣.
DeleteThat guy was obviously ready for a reaction from your husband. Thank God he got disappointed. That assault wasn’t for you, it was all to get at your husband. He was desperate to do him dirty in a foreign country.
Next time, when choosing a husband, choose a boxer. Nothing concern you with medical doctors. Inugo 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
DeleteThat guy is feeling terrible that after all his level back then in school, your husband married you as one of his top crush. Imagine after all his hard guy, rich kid and big boy back then in school, his wife left him and your husband is at the peek of his career.
ReplyDeleteYour husband did well by not picking up a fight with that useless guy who feels the world revolves around him. The guy is feeling bad that he is not doing well but yiur husband is doing so well with a beautiful wife who is also doing well. That guy is feeling intimidated by you both but do not allow this to create any fight between you and your husband.
Next time you run into him just make sure you laugh 😃 😀 😄 😁 🤣 😂 at him very well. He should go and hug 🫂 the transformer.
You people should stay far away from that guy. He is a ticking time bomb and a pathetic sore loser. If he keeps seeing you & your husband, jealousy might push him into committing a crime of passion.
ReplyDeleteYour husband handled it well though. There is no point kicking a guy who is already down.
THIS IS THE COMMENT I'M LOOKING FOR......POSTER STAY AWAY FROM A WOUNDED MAN, YOU GUYS WATCH YOUR BACKS AND BE VERY CAREFUL
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ReplyDeletePretty stupid game your husband is playing here or if he is playing at all. I don't imagine that any man should make light of assault on his wife. At the very least, he should have allowed OP make a report to the authorities.
ReplyDeleteI'll tell OP this though, that kiss, the raw primal energy behind it, is going to leave a strong imprint on you. Do very well to avoid your husband's rival. Your resolve won't be as strong the next time.
So, in essence, when a guy forcefully kisses a lady, he is assured of a “strong imprint “ on her? 🤣 So because of that, her resolve would melt the next time she sees him, inkwa? Amazing! You guys bother so little to study and understand women. Or maybe Go has just decided that womanhood should remain a mystery to most of your gender.
DeleteLol.. sorry but it's funny how Ur husband is laughing about the whole thing..
ReplyDeleteAnd that is the best way to handle someone like that....he's not mentally stable ..
My very candid advice to you will be please try as much as possible to AVOID that guy from everything and everywhere. Give him a cold shoulder n face front always. He wants to get to your husband through you. Don't allow that please
ReplyDeleteI love your husband's reaction, he knew the guy has not changed and can never change, please avoid him
ReplyDeleteYour husband should be extremely careful he doesn't plan bad towards him. Such a man holding grudges over these years can actually kill someone.
ReplyDeletePls don't be in a place with him alone. He could rape you if he can forcefully kissed you.
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That is the best way to treat the idiot which will make him more angry,like your husband said he is already on the ground and he fears no fall but you people are on top don't descend so low just laugh him to scorn.🤣🤣🤣🤣.Am also helping you to laugh
ReplyDeleteyour husband is not surprised at his action. that's why he didn't react. he understood the motive of the other guy. as they say, a chameleon cannot change.
ReplyDeleteIt’s likely he’s laughing because you slapped him and took off. Maybe your husband and even possibly the man had expected you to feel shock and upset but you not only felt upset, you slapped his dirty face. I would laugh too.
ReplyDeleteWow! It's a very good thing you told your husband immediately. Some women would have kept it to themselves and if the husband eventually finds out (even though the woman never allowed him to have his way) he will lose trust in her .
ReplyDeletePoster, I would write stay very far away from that guy. he is a sore loser
ReplyDeleteHe is really intimidated that's it.
That guy really needs help.He hasn't still forgiven himself and feels others are better than him which isn't true.Everyone can't be a medical doctor. He should accept reality and be kind to himself.
ReplyDeleteYour husband is not a tout,the sore loser wanted to use you as a bait to infuriate your husband. But he has been smarter than him for a long time. Try to avoid the man,so he won't use you to score cheap points.
ReplyDeleteI honestly don’t know if I believe this chronicle.
ReplyDeleteBut if it is true, I get your angst, you wanted to be defended in some way. You probably wondering if he had groped you or tried more your husband would have still just laughed. Erase the whole awful incident from your mind and pray for that lost soul who decided to kiss another man’s wife. Have pity for him because the worst type of man to see is the one who is still living in his glory days, forgetting that age and time has handled him and nobody is chasing him. There will always be those stuck in time.
Genuinely speaking, the said "Sore loser," is hurting badly. He is not doing that intentionally, but can't seem to forgive himself or properly move on. I think in his best interest, he should move on, put his affairs in order and realize that life happens to us all.
ReplyDeleteYour husband is very smart poster, the confused guy wanted to use you and get your husband's attention so he can start another fight/rivalry with him but gentle man handled it well..Shame on the silly boy.
ReplyDeleteThat man didn’t have a crush on you, he just covets what your husband has! I’m happy you slapped him, I’m happy you told your husband and I’m happy he didn’t confront him because he may just be looking for a reason to do something to ur husband physically.
ReplyDeleteThat being said, you and ur husband need to be careful and thread very carefully around him. That guy is an ex cultist and those people are not normal. If possible sef, change hotels and reduce interactions to little or none!
Your husband handled it well, at least better than most men would so you shouldn't be angry at him. That man needs to be avoided at all cost by both of you. He seems to have deep rooted issues,he's very bitter and jealous too, hence very dangerous. His type can go any length to hurt you and your husband so please stay far away from him.
ReplyDeletePOS don't laugh when you see him. Men are weird and can accuse you later that you enjoyed the kiss.
ReplyDeleteI think your husband should have allowed you lodge a formal complaint at the police station.
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DeleteBia, poster, you must understand that this isn’t just a petty old rivalry - it’s a deeply broken/fractured man still clinging to the past, clawing for relevance by trying to bruise your husband's pride through humiliating you. This isn’t ordinary jealousy, but one driven by pitiful pride that looks like a tragic cocktail of unresolved inferiority, bitter obsession, and decayed masculinity served ice-cold after decades of festering.
ReplyDeleteThat kiss wasn’t anything about a crude attraction, it was assault masked as mischief - a pathetic attempt to rattle your husband by disrespecting you. And your husband? His laughter wasn’t carelessness as you still assume - it was him refusing to let an old wound become a fresh war. A strategic, mature emotional warfare; he refused to dignify a desperate man’s bait. Which you should appreciate.
But while he may have reclaimed control in his own way, he failed to protect what mattered most, so your anger is valid. You need to understand that it also came as a shock to him that decades after the fool is still drunk with deeper-rooted insecurities that age hasn't been able to cure. Your safety is his priority, he just might not have envisaged you in the mix-up of the other man's foolery.
Let your husband know how disrespected you felt, made worse by his laughter, and listen to understand that it wasn’t him beside the sidelines but with you. Going forward, see that insecure man as a venomous snake: admire from afar if you must, but never get close enough to be bitten again.
Both of you should avoid him. One can't tell to what extent such a man can go.
ReplyDeleteI honestly don't know what you women want. Your hubby could've had a number of, relatively justified, reactions but he chose to stand on trust and ignore the 'ass'.
ReplyDeleteAs for the fellow, he is typical of the general mentality most of the cult affiliated guys had on campus hen... aggressive and extremely self serving, petty and cowardly.
I think your husband had the best reaction to the situation -laugh him to scorn. Bourgeois have no business with plebs
Lmao. I'm even laughing with your husband honestly. This narration should be made into a movie. That guy is so competitive, it can eat him alivev
ReplyDeleteHe never had a crush on you. He wants to mock your husband that he has finally messed up his wife.
ReplyDeleteYour husband inachi ochi iberibe is not good at all. Maybe your husband snatched his girlfriend once upon a time that is why he is not reacting. It makes no sense that a man is constantly harassing your wife and you think it is funny. Something has to give. There is more to their story, time to dig.
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Please stay away from him.
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