SIBLING WITH ENTITLEMENT MENTALITY
The entitlement mentality from my younger sister is alarming. She called me recently around 7:00 p.m. that her son was down with a fever, that I should send her some money to take him to the hospital. I said okay, no problem. I'll do a transfer immediately.
I tried sending the money but unfortunately there was no network, so I could not do the transfer till 2:00 a.m. the next morning.
I sent her a text message that I had sent the money, and she should keep me updated about my nephew's health, that I'm praying for him. I didn't hear from her the whole day. I called her again she didnt pick. I sent her a WhatsApp message, she read the message but refused to respond.
I called our mum to get an update on her son's health, my mum said, they didn't go to the hospital again, she got him some drugs from the pharmacy. He's okay. It's being about 2 days since I sent her 30K to take her son to the hospital.
I called our mum to get an update on her son's health, my mum said, they didn't go to the hospital again, she got him some drugs from the pharmacy. He's okay. It's being about 2 days since I sent her 30K to take her son to the hospital.
I am yet to get a thank you from her. I want to send her a text message to send me back my money. I will no longer tolerate her ungrateful behavior. Should I let go or take back my money??
She should send you back the 30k? Abeg dont become a comedian inside your Chronicle....
You should have messaged her when you could not do the transfer.I dont think that she is entitled, she is just upset that you did not respond to what you could have been an emergency...Just ignore her, she will come around
She is entitled please, which Kain yeye behaviour be that???
ReplyDeleteGive her a piece of your mind, yes ask her to send back the money. I am sure she will not, atleast her brain will reset
Rubbish
Poster you are not a kind person at all. How could you? Your sister needed urgent support from you but you delayed. I am aware that the reason for the delay in compliance is as a result of circumstances beyond your control. It wouldn't have cost you up to 100naira airtme for you to call and inform her why it wasn't coming through as fast as possible. Do you know what it means to put high hopes on someone and the person disappoints you? Not just ordinary disappoint. We are talking about coming through for a sick person. You stayed comfortable till 2pm, knowing that all your sisters hope was on you? Na wa for you. How do you expect her not to get angry when you didn't let her know that network was the problem?
DeleteIn your mind now you are more privileged than your sister. E dey sweet you say them dey depend on you.
Anon you dey yeye oo. Why she herself no fit raise the money?. Last last it wasn’t an emergency if not she would have gone to the hospital either way. Peter close eye mind your business. You sef ignore her call until when you’re ready
DeleteI know your sister owes you no money and you can choose to help her or not but auntie you can do better. You should have called your sister immediately to inform her about the network issue. She feels bad because she would have moved the earth for you if you were the one that needed help.
ReplyDeletePlease do as you please; ask her to refund you the money.
Then she should pick up and air her opinion. I have sisters and that's exactly what I'll do.
Delete@anon 17:12, She should air her opinion to someone who already think she's entitled? "Call a spade a spade not a big spoon."
DeleteYes she should. The entitlement perspective came into play when she kept ignoring her calls and refused to acknowledge the money. If you have an issue with someone communicate instead of ignoring them.
DeleteFollow Stella's advice.
ReplyDeleteYou should have informed her via chat/text/call immediately you noticed that you couldn't send the money. What if the child was in a critical situation, 7pm to 2am is a long and risky delay. If you had informed her, then she would look for another option if it's an emergency.
I believe she is just upset about the risky delay since you didn't tell her anything. However, she is supposed to still thank you even if she was upset. A whole 30k, no thank you - no nah.
Just give her small space for now. She will come around.
Poster, sorry about your sister's behavior, maybe she's scared of talking to you since she did not take her son to the hospital again after sending money.please forgive her.
ReplyDeleteYou can decide not to send another money in future;it’s your personal choice if you have the heart to do so..
ReplyDeleteBut asking for a refund? Doesn’t make much sense even tho she is ungrateful from what we read so far,because God forbid anything happened to your sweet cousin and you knew deep down your heart that you had/have the money which could have saved his life;you won’t be able to live with it forever..
In my opinion;send her a text pouring out your whole heart and exactly how you feel;her response will determine if you should forgive and move on;or cut out future billings from her..
Nobody enjoys being used;but when life is involved;you treat the situation on ground as your spirit leads,cos how I will react can never be same with you in situations like this.
@MARTINS
She has no right to be angry please! Is her sister her husband? Or did she work in her sister's pocket? It's a privilege that her sister is able to assist her in times like this abeg.
ReplyDeletePoster asking her to send back the money is being petty. Let it go but ensure you don't pick her calls till further notice. Whatever she has to say should be sent via text and ignored. I h8 nonsense 🙄
Poster follow this
DeleteGod bless you my dear.
DeleteThank you..poster go with this.
DeleteJust ignore her there will be another time,she will come beg you money
ReplyDeleteYour emotions are extreme for this incident. It’s not that serious. Let her attend to her child as he continues to heal. You are overly dramatic and a very poor communicator. I know the 30k may be a huge sum to you, as it’s based on your own financial capacity, but it is not big money in the grand scheme of things. She still has to buy some special kind of foods and maybe drinks for him and medicine is not cheap.
ReplyDeleteGo sit your dramatic arse down somewhere and go visit them this holiday season and see your nephew up close and reconnect with your sister. While you’re at it, tone down your emotionalism and learn to view things with logic.
You forget your ungrateful twin
Delete18:55, and you the triplet. When you give from your heart, especially in the case of illness you do not sit around expecting thank yous. Ridiculous. If the only reason you are contributing in an emergency is to have your ego stroked then do not give anything. And the poster is even contemplating requesting the amount back because they didn’t get their accolades for sending a whopping $20.
DeleteMy sister send me texts all the time to pay a bill for her or to send her funds, I send it and forget it. I’m not watching the clock to see if she sends me thanks, what the heck for? What am I to do with her thanks? It is neither expected nor required. And 9 times out of 10 I cook up some reason why she shouldn’t pay me back. End of story! Mtsscchhwww
There probably was no emergency. Most Nigerians know sometimes network can fall hand. You won't be able to text much less send money. If you sent money at 2am and the sis saw it, she should know it was then network allowed it to go through.
ReplyDeleteJust wave it. There will be a next time.
Just ignore her. Sending her message and explaining to her,won't make sense again. God is the one,that sees the heart and intentions.
ReplyDeleteEven though she didn't get the money on time, she should have acknowledged it. Also nothing stops her from calling to find out why poster hadn’t sent the money. How many of you would let things slide when someone fails to acknowledge your financial support? To make matters worse she's ignoring her. Why are y'all supporting bad behavior?
ReplyDeleteI expect limited communication from someone dealing with a child who was sick enough to contemplate going to the hospital. If I hadn’t heard from them I would just assume that their time is taken up with caring for the sick child.
Delete17:39 except that’s not what happened here
DeleteSo what stops her from responding after reading yhe message? Yeye behaviour.
DeleteThe sister has a bad attitude. What stopped her from acknowledging the 30k even if it came late? Did she return it? She still used it and didn’t even take her child to the hospital,yet couldn’t speak to her sister to explain and say thanks for the help. She’s a user pls
ReplyDeleteShe’s your sister so you should ask what’s the meaning of this nonsense
ReplyDeleteIf she’s such a good sister and said you’ll do something immediately and took a while she could have called you back to ask what’s happening
Rubbish. Her child was not that sick and she used the opportunity to bill you
If not for the delay you wouldn’t have known her plan
She can’t call you back to say he didn’t go to the hospital as she said he would
You can call her and talk things with her so there won't be any bad blood between the both of you but please, don't ask for your money back. You nephew is still getting better and will need that money for upkeep.
ReplyDeleteGod bless you.
The child doesn't have a father?most of you are supporting bad behaviour. The poster doesn't owe her.poster ignore her there will always be a next time.
ReplyDeleteAs in..it's shocking people are defending this.
DeleteNext time be Mia...I dont deal well with ungrateful people too
ReplyDeleteHello poster
ReplyDeleteYour sis is entitled jare, and not acknowledging the money is wrong, if 30k is too small, make she steal am first
Rubbish
If someone gives you 1000, say thank you even if they are billionaires, it is their money, they work for it
Just let it go, Jo ma binu, on her behalf
Imagine the nonsense!
DeleteSome people sef. She knows you would not leave her hanging like that for no reason. The least she could have done was reply. Na wa
ReplyDeleteWhen it comes to immediate family, you dont assume the worst. You give the benefit of the doubt over and over and over.
ReplyDeleteEven if it turns out they were being nasty,you forgive even before they ask for forgiveness. Thats how i was raised.
Call your sister and ask about your nephew. Then ask why she did that. Her network may have been down too
She called her already
DeletePlus sister had enough energy to inform their mum
Your sister’s behavior is very bad. And she feels she is entitled to your money. Ignore her and don’t pick her calls. Someone advised that you can reply her when she texts you, which I agree.
ReplyDeleteShe will get the message when you don’t pick up her calls. Don’t ask for your money, if she calls next time tell her you don’t have. Simple
Seriously, Stella, I completely disagree. The delay was due to network issues, and the money was eventually sent. Calls and texts were made but ignored—that’s where the entitlement lies. If you’re upset with me, return my money first. Keeping the money while ignoring communication isn’t right. If the money truly doesn’t matter, send it back and then be upset. She can’t say the money was useless Afterall. Radarada
ReplyDeleteDo y’all understand that she owes her sister nothing!
ReplyDeleteShe owes her no money.
She owes no explanation as to why she couldn’t spend the money on time.
She owes her freaking nothing.
Well, poster…since you’ve already sent her the money…no need asking for it back.
Just leave her…make she Dey vex Dey go.