Nollywood actress Mariam Ogbonna took to the X platform to share that she doesn't think it's wise to have a child during the first year of marriage because the early months of marriage should be spent getting to know your partner better
She tweeted;
"I don't think it's wise to have a child during the first year of marriage though
I feel that's the time to get to know your partner better
Bringing a child into the mix could stall that process and might be overwhelming for the new union
Just my opinion though"
I feel that's the time to get to know your partner better
Bringing a child into the mix could stall that process and might be overwhelming for the new union
Just my opinion though"
To each their own. If it's an arranged marriage then her opinion is valid but if it's someone you dated and chose as a spouse, then there's nothing to learn at this point because you did that already. Unless you want to wait, settle financially and explore the world together before bringing in children.
ReplyDeleteSo what happens to pregnancies that comes inbetween?. This idea has killed many marriges. My cousin wasted two years getting to know each other by the time she was ready for procreation no way. All types of artificial insimination failed them , the marriage has scattered.
Delete11:51 did you read in there that to each their own before replying to my comment? Or you just want to gossip about your cousin?
DeleteAll the know yaself plus meet and greet before marriage is not enough abi. I disagree
Delete@11:51 That your cousin waited for 2 years before having kids is not the cause of her fertility challenges. Getting pregnant immediately after marriage does not erase a fertility issue that is already there. Stop gossiping about your cousin and wish her well cos everyone will face their own fertility journey when it's their time.
DeleteYour opinion beautiful 🙄🙄🙄
ReplyDeleteI quite agree with her only if the couple are still very young and at their prime. You don't say this to a woman already in her 40's.
ReplyDelete© TEEJAY
Exactly...
DeleteAnd a man in their 40s and 50s like yourself?
DeleteGbam
Delete12:18 🤣🤣🤣🤣
DeleteSame goes to men in their 40s too. Andropause is real !
DeleteI agree. However, there are those who need to because of age and diminished fertility.
ReplyDeleteTo each his own. There is no manual to these things. Just do what works for you
ReplyDeleteExactly
DeleteIt's good that it's just your opinion.
ReplyDeleteOne of my colleagues at work said he’ll be spending 3 years with his wife alone before considering any kids. I asked about his parents and his in laws, and he said their opinion doesn’t matter.
ReplyDeleteI told him even if his wife accepts, Nigerians are serious gossips and busy bodies. She’ll eventually fold before the agreed time.
Getting to know your partner in the first year of marriage also involves sex and sex leads to only one thing pregnancy.
ReplyDeleteGbam!!😂😂😂 easier said than done
DeletePregnancy must not always be the result of sex
DeleteOfon
ReplyDeleteTo each his own... Do what works for you
ReplyDeleteNa inside marriage una wan dey know eachother, what happened to dating days?
ReplyDeleteNobody shows all of themselves during dating. Nobody! It is in marriage that you will know who you truly married.
DeletePlease forgive me, is she married. Cos i am not understanding. So, you will go on pregnancy pills, wear a condoN during intercourse or something. No pressure but children are beautiful so, therefore. Make timetable no follow extracurricular activity
ReplyDeleteInternet is free but not fair
ReplyDeleteIf you've spent a good number of years courting or dating, I don't think it's necessary to wait except if the wait is due to financial instability.
ReplyDeleteI agree with her. I found out a lot in the first year of marriage that if I was not pregnant I would have walked away! I got pregnant the day we got married as God will do it. Maybe God knows I would have ran.
ReplyDeleteHowever, we are working on our marriage daily! It has been bad and good! We are hoping for the best but the battles I have had to fight is so much. My child will not let me go, he’s so smart he put pressure on his dad and I to remain together.
It’s not easy marrying someone whose parents like to have a say in every aspect of their lives. To all those trying to enter, please ensure your spouse has a mind of their own and you are not entering community marriage. Your marriage is to be about decisions that are the best for you two. His family members involve themselves and make sure they turn his mind and twist things in a way that, the advice they give him must cause problem and suspicion between us. Always! The advice is never good!!! And they know how to convince him o! Jesus
My husband loves me, I no go lie. That is what is holding this marriage. His habits and how he was raised is so invasive, divisive and problematic. Wow! We were friends and knew each other so well before marriage but some families and people know how to hide very well oooo. We were even family friends. Hahaha. Indeed.
You know no one till you enter their family. Meanwhile my own family are lane minders. Na you go find them to even involve themselves in your matter.