TUESDAY IN HOUSE NEWS....

Hailings Ooooooh....

TUESDAY MEMO

LOL.... I know what you came here to read me say but I am like the proverbial Tortoise right from time.......Your drama is yours not mine.....

I hope that you are having a good day...?Like i said yesterday, I am under the weather and feeling like a last born...lol

Make una enjoy the day.....I am trying to create words for my memes for spontaneous morning post and na pidgin words, to bless the soul and give a positive push.....I create my own aura,i can decide to be negative or positive, depending on what i perceive from you...

If i come to your house to eat and you put poison in my food and i eat it, I will go to the toilet and sheet it out before i leave your house.......LOL

Enjoy the day.......

Ah who i dey hear say dem arrest?aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaargh

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WHY DO WOMEN CRY WHEN THEIR PARTNER CHEATS?

I don’t believe in crying, wailing, or blowing tumarum when a partner cheats. Not because it doesn’t hurt but because pain handled wrongly will destroy you.

Many years ago, when my to-be husband cheated on me, I did five things.....
 I didn’t cry or confront him immediately.
I stayed calm. I watched. I listened.
Because emotions cloud judgment and I needed clarity, not drama.

-I gathered solid evidence. I didn’t rely on stories or instincts alone.
I got her names. Addresses. Pictures. Proof. Their locations of meeting place.Truth doesn’t fear investigation.

- I allowed him to come for introduction with his people.
Right there, no shouting, no insults, I presented my evidence: voice notes, pictures, facts.
I had him sign an undertaking, witnessed by officers of the law, that if anything happened to me in the next 50 years, he would be held responsible. I chose wisdom over noise.

-I called off the marriage. No negotiation. No begging. I refused to build a future on betrayal.

- I told him clearly, I do not condone cheating no matter the excuse. Because cheating is not just emotional violence, it is a health risk.
You don’t get to gamble with my life and call it a mistake.

NOW WHY DO WOMEN CRY WHEN THEIR PARTNER CHEATS?

-Women cry because they have been betrayed. Not by a stranger, but by the one who promised safety.

-They cry because they trusted deeply.
They gave love without suspicion, loyalty without fear.

-They cry because they feel replaced.
Like they were not enough. Like their sacrifices meant nothing.

-They cry because cheating kills self-esteem.
It makes a woman question her beauty, her worth, her value.

-They cry because they invested time, emotions, dreams, and years. And suddenly everything feels wasted.

-They cry because society taught them to endure silently, to fix what they didn’t break,
to stay even when they are bleeding.

-They cry because they are mourning the relationship they thought they had.
Crying doesn’t mean weakness. But staying without boundaries does.
Cheating is a choice. It is not a mistake.
It is not caused by stress. It is not justified by neglect.
A man who cheats didn’t trip and fall into another woman he decided to disrespect you.
-Stop crying and start thinking
-Protect your emotional and physical health
-Gather facts before confrontation
-Set clear boundaries,and consequences
-Choose dignity over desperation
-Love yourself enough to walk away if needed

Dear sis, stop romanticising endurance.
Stop suffering in silence.
Stop bleeding for people who won’t bandage their wounds.
If he cheats and feels no remorse choose yourself.
Because the day a woman stops crying
and starts choosing herself, is the day she becomes unstoppable.
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The Ready Man is A Man Who Shows Up Whole

Ladies, the right man for you is one who leads with love and kindness.
He is mature, understands boundaries, and respects not only you but also your children. 

If a man cannot honor your family, he has no business in your home and no place in your life.

Marriage is a unique relationship , a sacred union between two individuals who choose to share their lives as a united team. Love, mutual respect, honesty, and faith should be at the forefront. 

A healthy marriage offers financial stability, emotional security, compassion, and mature communication supported by safe, consistent boundaries. 

A loving marriage includes affection, quality time, romance, and both mental and physical intimacy.

It may sound like a lot, but it is possible.
We often acknowledge the impossible and remind ourselves that “no man is perfect.” While that may be true, it is time to expect men to show up ready.
Not “ready‑made,” but ready to make himself available to love and be loved — offering the best version of himself, not the unfinished version that drains you.

It is time to stop making exceptions and compromises for men who show up as “works in progress.” Potential is not partnership. An idea is not a man. A wanna‑be is not a leader. An imposter is not a husband.
Ladies, when we move hastily, ignore red flags, settle for potential, and make decisions based on promises instead of patterns, we set ourselves up for disappointment.
The Ready Man isn’t perfect; he’s willing. And without willingness, he’s just a man who isn’t ready.
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WEIRD FACT

-Earth has traveled more than 5,000 miles in the past 5 minutes
-What you wear affects how you behave
It’s called “enclothed cognition”

-Smelling your partner’s clothes can help reduce stress and loneliness

-The word 'nice' used to mean 'stupid' in the early 1300s

-When sliced bread was first sold in 1928, it was marketed as, “the greatest forward step in the baking industry since bread was wrapped”

-Ceraunophile (noun):
A person who loves thunder and lightning

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DO YOU FEEL LOVE OR LUST?

"It feels like love... until it fades after pleasure."
She smiles at your jokes. She calls you "my man."
Her voice softens when she says your name
You start to think, "Maybe this is love."
But then one night of pleasure changes everything.

The calls slow down.
The excitement fades and suddenly, the girl who once made you feel wanted now leaves you feeling empty.

That's the trap of lust, it looks like love, sounds like love, but never lasts like love.
Lust is selfish.
It wants the moment, not the mission.
Love is selfless.
It builds the future, not just the fantasy.

Lust says, "Take what you can now."
Love says, "Wait, because you're worth more than this."
Lust burns fast,wild and bright, then gone.
Love burns steady: deep, pure, and unshakable.
So many young men fall for lust because it feels powerful, the attention, the thrill, the chase.
But when it’s over, it leaves you drained, guilty, and more confused than before.

Here's how to know the difference
If it weakens your walk with God, it’s lust.
If it pressures you to cross boundaries, it’s lust.
If it steals your peace, its lust.
Real love builds you.
Lust breaks you,Don't sell your destiny for a few moments of pleasure.

The same person who hypes you today can ghost you tomorrow but your worth was never in their hands.
True love waits.
Lust rushes.
Be the man who chooses what lasts.
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