STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
BROTHER IN LAWS BEGGY BEGGY WIFE
Hubby likes to give money for snacks to his brother's kids. This usually happens after first service on Sundays. He has been doing this for quite a while. Whenever he's not around and couldn't attend church, I give them the money to buy.
Two Sundays ago, hubby and I were not in church. So last week Sunday, after the first service, the brother's kids came as usual to collect money for snacks. Hubby gave them.
The next thing I heard from their mom is "what of the money for the snacks we ate last Sunday when you were not around. We bought the snacks on credit. Give us money to pay for them too"
Hubby was like " you ate snacks on credit for another person to pay? This woman shamelessly said yes.
Hubby brought out more money to cover for the one they bought on credit.
The kids are his elder brother's children. The elder brother is not doing too badly. At least they can afford the basics. I felt bad that the wife was trying to take advantage of hubby's gesture. I mean, you were given money for snacks, instead of being grateful and contented, you demanded for more money to pay for the one you took on credit the previous week
The whole thing made me feel somehow. Aside from this incident, I've noticed the kids mom (my mate) is always asking hubby for money for one thing or the other. This is something I have never done to her husband. He will be happy to give me if I ask him but I can never bring myself to do that.
Sometime ago, our church brought ankara for the women to buy for a uniform. This lady didn't call me to ask if I was interested or not. She called hubby to ask for the money to pay for mine and hers as well.
I've ignored her constant requests for money from hubby and other money related matters but this time around, I had to speak to hubby. Told him that whenever she asks for money, he should give it to me to forward to her instead of giving her directly any time she asks. Maybe she will stop when she sees that she has to collect the money from me. I don't want to talk to her cos she's my senior mate, (hubby's elder brother's wife). She will feel insulted ....
Hubby was like " you ate snacks on credit for another person to pay? This woman shamelessly said yes.
Hubby brought out more money to cover for the one they bought on credit.
The kids are his elder brother's children. The elder brother is not doing too badly. At least they can afford the basics. I felt bad that the wife was trying to take advantage of hubby's gesture. I mean, you were given money for snacks, instead of being grateful and contented, you demanded for more money to pay for the one you took on credit the previous week
The whole thing made me feel somehow. Aside from this incident, I've noticed the kids mom (my mate) is always asking hubby for money for one thing or the other. This is something I have never done to her husband. He will be happy to give me if I ask him but I can never bring myself to do that.
Sometime ago, our church brought ankara for the women to buy for a uniform. This lady didn't call me to ask if I was interested or not. She called hubby to ask for the money to pay for mine and hers as well.
I've ignored her constant requests for money from hubby and other money related matters but this time around, I had to speak to hubby. Told him that whenever she asks for money, he should give it to me to forward to her instead of giving her directly any time she asks. Maybe she will stop when she sees that she has to collect the money from me. I don't want to talk to her cos she's my senior mate, (hubby's elder brother's wife). She will feel insulted ....
Seriously?????Did she force your hubby to bring out money from his pocket?Did she scam him? why dont you leave your husband to tackle her if he is tired of giving her? why do you want to insert yourself in the issue and cause problems?
You sound jealous and angry and you have no right to gaslight your husband into how he is reacting.....He tells you everything does not mean you should spread your wickedness in his family.....Honestly wives like you cause havoc in the family you are married into.....
I dont even have bad advice for you.....Leave that woman alone!!!
I hate people who abuse people’s benevolence! That’s what your cowife is doing!
ReplyDeleteDon’t sha involve yourself before they will turn it to mean you don’t want him helping his family
Stella your use of gaslighting no follow for this case. Nobody likes people taking unnecessary advantage of who they love. I think the woman should speak to her husband. The earlier this is nipped in the bud the better. He can give to the kids, but them taking on credit? Can't the lady buy her own Ankara or snacks for her kids? And most times such people can never return the favour if the tables turn. They are also raising entitled kids already always expecting snacks, even when their uncle is absent. Train your kids to be content not begy begy. I enjoyed watching the movie Behind the Scenes by Funke Akindele. Usually the people that collect the most are the most stingy and entitled.
DeleteHuh!!!! "We bought the snacks on credit". She is shameless, and your husband is enabling her. What audacity.
ReplyDeleteYou want to foolishly cause problems for your self in that family.
ReplyDeleteShe's protecting her man
DeleteStella your red pen is terrible. Why would you support such greed and lack of contentment on the part of the in-law, and then turn around to reprimand the poster
ReplyDeletePoster no mind Stella , I don’t know the frame of mind she usually is in when she makes some of these her comments
SUPPORTED @15:33
DeleteThis Sunday, as your husband hands over money to her, forcefully snatch it from his hand
Turn to your Senior mate (aka Co-wife, Sister-in-law, etc.)
Ask her in love with a smiling voice: Nwanyi Nne, why don't you go ask your husband for snack money, did he not follow you come church?
If her husband cannot control his home and your co-wife, please help them control themselves.
What her co-wives for if they cannot help themselves to behave well.
The man wey say a learned person solves problems; a wise person avoids them talk empty turenchi.
Agwu wife! Two hands in the air for you
Please do not forget to come back with update after one month
#TheOfficiousYimu-nitte
Lol
ReplyDeleteYou just want to create problems where there is none..
Is Ur hubby complaining?those are also his kids and u don't know the relationship they have before you came,she ask for money for Ur unform and hers,she hasn't done anything wrong madam..
Face your marriage, allow children to play with their uncle..
This your advice is too harsh on the poster na @Stella.
ReplyDeletePoster, please talk to your husband, let him know you're not totally comfortable with the way your co-wife demands money from him, it's not proper, that should be done by his brother not the wife.
I am sure the husband (elder brother) may not be aware of the nonsense going on.
Bv God's Favor (formerly Anne K)
Poster, your hubby is the type that doesn't know how to say know even when it's inconvenient for them. There are people like that. My dad is like that. He doesn't know how to tell you 'NO' outrightly. You should come in and do the work for him. You don't need to be rude to the woman before you can pass a message to her. Do everything stylishly. I buy the idea of your husband giving you the money to had it over to the woman directly. Also, your husband should sometimes direct her to meet you for money anytime she asks him for money. By the time she collects money from your hand up to 10times she will have common sense .
ReplyDeleteYou are a very petty person. The next thing now you will say she is trying to collect your husband. Causing problem where there is none.
ReplyDeleteStella, leave which woman alone? Greedy woman that is not content with what her husband gives her and is disturbing another person's husband? This your red pen no follow abeg. Poster is not stopping her husband from giving which is very noble of her. As a woman, it's even disrespectful to your husband asking another man money. What impression are you giving people? That your husband is not taking care of you? Poster you sound like a sensible woman. I like the way you're handling this matter.
ReplyDeleteStella, leave which woman alone? Greedy woman that is not content with what her husband gives her and is disturbing another person's husband? This your red pen no follow abeg. Poster is not stopping her husband from giving which is very noble of her. As a woman, it's even disrespectful to your husband asking another man money. What impression are you giving people? That your husband is not taking care of you? Poster you sound like a sensible woman. I like the way you're handling this matter.
ReplyDeleteYour type enters a peaceful and loving home then turn it into a war zone. Did your husband complain to you? Don't turn your husband against his newphews and nieces with the way you are going. How much is snack? If if we dig very well now, those kids father probably paid your husband's school fees for him become a husband material for you to marry.
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ReplyDeletePoster,you are justified to feel that way. Talk to your husband and if he doesn't see it the way you see it,press ignore button.
His eyes will soon clear. I personally don't call my husband's siblings wives, my mates nor do I encourage brother's wives to call themselves mates as it brings unnecessary familiarity and see finish. Most African marriage issues,AFI suru
Madam remove your eye from that money
ReplyDeleteThat money doesn’t stop your feeding allowance or anything else the man does at home
If we torchlight that money now e fit no reach 5k
The man has been doing anyday he is tired he will stop it himself
Wicked woman
That’s how you will come from loveless home into a love filled home to cause discord
Did your husband complain to you?
That money sef your husband will spend pass on side chick
Pursue them when you pursue them finish you stand alone
Do you if your children will need help tomorrow and this small kindness will open door for them
Me myself and I
In your mind you have arrived
God forbid bad thing
You dey suspect them. Abeg talk true.
ReplyDeleteIf tomorrow those kids are in a position to help you or your children, you would not ask abi?
Softly, Madam we do not pray that cousins beg from each other. But life humbles sometimes.
If person no get sense, you wan follow her show sense?
So long as your husband has never complained to you, let matters be.
No learn the hard way O.
Your co wife is shameless sha.
ReplyDeleteEven if her husband was doing badly it's still not an excuse for this level of shamelessness. That's how they'll end up raising kids with loose morals. Tufiakwa!