Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narratives...

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NARRATIVE NUMBER ONE

UNREPENTANT TOASTER .......

Good day Stella. I don't know where this article fits in (chronicles or IHN) but just post it. I'll just go straight to the point.

I met this guy (Mr. D). He asked me out and I turned him down though he didn't give up and then we lost contact for like 2 years. I ran into him again and we talked at length. 

 He told me he was getting married the next week and I was so happy for him. He collected my contact and we started communicating again (Normal communication oo nothing attached). After some months, I got a job with a company unknowing to me that he works there. I met him there the day I resumed and I was kind of happy that the whole environment isn't as strange as I thought (at least I know someone around).  

To cut long stories short, that was how this guy started professing love to me again o. He started showering me with expensive gifts that I stylishly turned down cos I knew it wasn't ordinary and I don't want to have anything doing with him. Mind you, he is now married.

 This guy was all over me and I was getting irritated. He even tried to harass me sexually in the office. I got so irritated and I had to find a job elsewhere. It's been almost 3yrs I left that company but this guy still calls me to say disgusting things and it's somehow disturbing my relationship. He now has a beautiful baby but still does not have any sense of responsibility. I wanted to call his wife to talk to her like a woman so she can beg her 'horseband' to leave me alone but on a second thought, it may affect their marriage and I don't want that. 

Please my fellow BV, advise me ooo especially the married ones.

Stella, I like how you use your red pen and still say "you're lucky I’m off commenting".  Please I need your red pen. Sorry for the long passage

God bless you Stella and everyone else who gives sound advice..

WTF are you talking about?he still calls you and you still picks his calls and listen?you sure say you no lead am on and ran?Are you a flirt?

You can block his number if you want or if you are as irritated as you profess,you should have changed your number.

You said you returned the supposedly expensive gifts? *YIMU*

You know if you said you took them you will be cussed out but i think you did take them (just summing up things)because i am wondering why the guy isnt giving up...Check yourself,you might have your green light!

Change your number if its so bad or report him to the police for sexual harrassment,if the yinvite him over for questioning,he will know you are serious,otherwise make we hear word....*tongue click*

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 NARRATIVE NUMBER TWO

ABOUT TO MARRY A SERIAL FLIRT.

Good day Stella,

Kindly hide my identity and post as anonymous. Thanks

Let me go straight to the point.

I have a boo that I’m so much in love with and we plan on getting married this year. He proposed and I accepted. 

I spent last weekend with him in his house and decided to snoop through his phone. I discovered leboo is a big flirt. He wakes up to chat three to four different girls up, asking them for a date and talking about sex. 

What amazes me is that he is the one choking these ladies with calls and text to say naughty things. Meanwhile, lately, I noticed some changes in him. When we lie together on the same bed, he doesn't touch me or even want to cuddle me. He only responds back when I try to touch, cuddle or play with him. I feel I’m not wanted or needed around and he detects very fast when I’m feeling bad and quickly would re-adjust to make me feel happy.

I actually don’t feel loved anymore. I only feel he is with me because he doesn't want to disappoint me and since he knows I do love him. He can’t risk that for some girls who ain’t his yet. He doesn't call me until he gets a missed call from me, then he would call apologizing for Africa and once I don’t call him for two days, he would choke me with calls till I eventually loosen up.

Honestly, I have made up my mind to break up with him as I intend not to ask him about anything, but my heart is failing me. I am so much in love with him but I can still handle my feelings and let him go if you also feel that’s the right thing to do now. And please, don’t ask me to talk it over with him first because all he does is to cry and plead for forgiveness and professes stupid love to me.

Stella, please I need your advice and BV's. My heart is bleeding as I can’t even concentrate in the office. I am so angry and depressed.

What are you waiting to hear?Advice that you should leave him or stay?You wear the shoe and you know best where it pinches..some Ladies are ready to marry someone like you just described just to get married...How desperate are you?How badly do you want to become Mrs and how long will your being in love status last after marriage?These are questions you need to ask yourself before you back out or go ahead.....If i was to be in your shoes and i had to make a choice,I would ask for some time out and see what NO COMMUNICATION will do to the relationship.

Take time out to steady your emotions before anything else.Make up your mind and stand by whatever you decide on....THE HANDWRITING IS ON THE WALL! *frowns at nothing*