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Friday, June 04, 2021

Ex Baby Mama Omawunmi Says No One Has A Right To Question A Woman's Decision To Have Kids Out Of Wedlock

Nigerian singer Omawumi has revealed in an interview with TVC that she doesn't see anything morally wrong for a woman to decide to just have kids without being married.








”I did it. I was a baby mama for four years before Papa Kamila decided to marry me (referring to her husband). I was a baby mama for four years and I decided and said I don’t want to marry until we are good and ready.” she said


Omawumi added that nobody has the right to question a woman’s decision to have kids outside wedlock ....




*I dont see anything wrong with being a baby mama or being called one... Marriage doesnt happen for everyone and some want kids, what do they do?

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  1. She is former baby mama not Ex baby mama, she is still in active service.

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    1. I thought former boyfriend & ex-boyfriend means same thing?

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    2. She is married to her babys father now so she is simply a wife and mother.
      Let each person live their lives so far they arent harming anyone. Not everyone will get married and not everyone married will stay married; so if as a woman u want to be a mother,by all means make it happen so far u are financially and mentally ready becos its not an easy journey. And if d father is still in ur life u can co-parent. In my opinion a child is better in a stable loving and financial secure single parent household than being in a toxic, unhealthy and lacking 2 parent home.

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    3. By all means do anything you want as long as no one is getting hurt, but don't get offended when you are called certain names e.g babymama.

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  2. Doing the right thing is heavenly.

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    1. Its because of people like you who don't know other peoples stories and pains that this has been said. I'm not even a mother as I can't have children naturally and I know the stigma I've faced because of your kind of comment hence my talking to you.

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    2. Anonymous 12.57 why not adopt. Or do you mean you can love an adopted child like your own.

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    3. God's word is the same yesterday, today and always. It doesn't bend to 'ppl's stories'. Just ask him for grace to do right.

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    4. Define RIGHT THINGπŸ˜’?
      I like u , I love u , pay bride price marry u , chronicle begins ?
      Or I will keep ' praying' until God ans me, 38yrs, 45yr, 50yrs 55yrs u marry a washed up man u feed then go kidnap, buy, children all to b seen as DOING THE RIGHT THING?
      Putting unnecessary pressure on pple there by making some live a life to fit into d status quo of 'Doing the right thing' a Mirage.
      Pls ans, Do not poke mouth eye nose in what a person decide to do with dir lives! If it's was fantastic u won't b so judgmental on here.
      A World where sinners Judge Sinners for sinning differently.🀦‍♀

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    5. "Peoples stories"..... if you weren't r*ped then park one side

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    6. 14:23 God bless you.
      There is NO LIE IN TRUTH.

      Some people have so vexed their souls to compromise that they want God to conform to their human erroneous ways.

      If you fall, ask for grace to rise and stand steadfast. DON'T JUSTIFY sin.

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    7. Thank you anon.

      There is nothing God can't do.

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    8. Q.S, God's word is the 'right thing'. In Christianity, there's the 'cross' and there's the 'crown'. Just ask Almighty God to help u shoulder ur own.

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  3. That almost everyone is believes something and is doing it, doesn't make it right.

    I think it's wrong, spiritually and morally

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  4. Please, let's not descend to the depraved level of seeing "wrongs and rights" in people.
    No one knows anyone's full story.
    I am not going to judge anyone for being "baby mama"
    I will rather advise anyone/everyone to make the right choices. If you chose Christ, worship him. If you chose the world, it is your choice and you are responsible and accountable to God one day. But do not chose Christ and go contrary to his teachings and principles and expect to be praised.
    Whichever is your choice, it is still advisable; note that I use the word "advisable" to be patient until you are married to have sex.
    In your case oma, your "baby daddy" married you. Not all women have it that way. A lot are in dire moral and psychological straights because of that choice.

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    1. ...psychological *straits*...
      because of that choice

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    2. @Anonymous 15:21
      Thank you very much for the correction I never knew this English diction.

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  5. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with keeping a pregnancy. But her statement is not making sense. “I decided to be single” then “papa kamila decided to marry me”.

    All she had to say was they weren’t ready when the first baby came...simple. Making it seem like it was her decision. Single parenthood is not easy at all. Successful co-parenting requires a lot of maturity. They should stop making it seem like it’s a great and joyful situation. I remember she called her baby daddy “yummy” when people were speculating about him being a married man, goes to show that they were in a relationship.

    Karen

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    1. When no husband is forthcoming, they make it look their decision. Hypocrites

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    2. Samurai, you this.

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    3. Karen and Samurai, what is the difference with what she said and what you guys are saying? What I understand from her is, the husband wasn't ready for marriage so she decided to have her baby when she got pregnant, marriage or not, thankfully for her, marriage eventually happened between and her baby daddy.

      I actually applaud women that make the best out of their circumstances and keep their heads high, statements like this is what pushes women to marry narcissists like the chronicles of yesterday and live miserable lives. Some things happened for you without any stress doesn't mean everyone had it that easy. Please, let's stop being insensitive.

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    4. Some may find single parenting hard but there are so many married people especially women, that are running their household and raising their children as if they’re single parents. Married but lonely and single in the marriage. This actually happens more than you think. Or, the husband only contributes financially and that’s it. No sound relationship with his wife and children. Is a woman in such a marriage married or actually a single parent?

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    5. Anon 16:08, thanks for stating the obvious fact. MOST women in Nigeria are single mothers in reality no matter their marital status. A man with more than one wife has made a single mother of his 1st wife like pastor Reno who makes this kind of noise. You cannot afford to contribute one kobo to the children these women decide to have and they are not asking you to so please go and ask your wife for her 30 percent of the rent and leave adults to live their lives.

      Abike Dabiri raised all her sons as a single mother and they are better placed than all the noisemakers and Bible wielders on this blog. Same with Bola Shagaya, Mrs Onyuike of NSE, Florence Ita Giwa and so many others. Single motherhood is not new in Nigeria, it is just that most women are now more honest about their situation and would prefer not to feed a man for a ring. Most of the armed bandits and unknown gunmen kidnappers and ritualists in Nigeria were raised in the "model" homes and look at the results. Akpan the murderer was raised in a complete household, just like most politicians. These women are not interested in having children for fathers that spend their time on gender wars on Stella's blog and just like before, their children will do as well as the single mothers who specialize in the chronicle lifestyle.

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    6. @feed a man for a ring....🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣

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    7. 20:02, Abike Dabiri and the other ladies u named are the exception, not the rule. Check the stats and see that most of the delinquents we have in society come from polygamous and single parent homes. Some of those women u mentioned up there were actually married at one time or the other before things went south; meaning that they most probably didn't set out to be single mums. Single motherhood is an abberation and there is nothing to encourage there. Those married women u refer to as single mums, why are they still in the marriage? The facts speak for themselves. No need trying to turn the world upside down. God's values remain supreme. Take it or leave it.

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  6. Hmmm. God remains The standard.

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  7. it's wrong o , evil generation.

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  8. Don't shove your belief down my throat. It's your opinion and I have mine.

    Doing the right thing is right.

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  9. Some co-parents are even happier than some married folks. Complaints of cheating everyday, fights, etc.

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    1. That is not the point dear. I am not a saint but the most important thing is for one to acknowledge one's wrongs and never justify it.

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    2. Doesn't justify fornication.

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    3. So if marriage doesn't come for a woman approaching 45, she shouldn't have a baby but remain single and miserable? I hope you all have first class tickets to heaven?

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    4. So not having a baby but remain single makes one miserable?

      Na u create 'em. U try.

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    5. 15:03, it's in issues like this that TRUE FAITH is tested. Abraham and Sarah waited how long for a child? It's not by calling 'Lord, Lord' on IG. Ppl are in tune with Christianity when it's 'peaches and cream'. When the chips are down, they opt for earthly wisdom. Pray tell, what is to say that that child u insist on having by all means will grow up purposeful in life or will even survive u? Will u play God on that one too? U can say that it is UR decision to have a child out of wedlock but DON'T try to justify it as Christian 'cos that is where u will get argument. Peace.

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  10. What does the bible say?
    Y'all do what's convenient with you, ignoring Gods word, then later you carry bible and call yourself a Christian.

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    1. Not everyone is interested in an old set of middle Eastern stories compiled by Romans and distributed by the English for subjugation of ignorant self hating People. Whatever your Palestinian tales say, whether the Bible or Quran, that's your business and not the constitution of the world.

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    2. We're talking about Christians, here. I blv Omawunmi is a Christian. U're free to go chill with atheists.

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  11. Left to them, Nigerians should leave them alone to join hands with our politicians to completely ruine this place. See her mouth, nye nye nye! We aren't living this life to end up giving birth to baby mama's, baby daddies, criminals, ritualists, prostitutes, yahoo boys, demonic politicians et all because what is wrong is wrong. The next generation will grow up thinking wrongs to be right. If you ask her now, she'd open her mouth waaah and call herself a feminist, her type is forever in the business of disgracing feminists. Your mates are talking how to move this country forward or desolve it, some are thinking how to improve generally and you're here pushing for us to leave you and your kinds alone to turn Nigeria into the most shameful and disgraceful side of the Black American community that has been their undoings, set backs and failures from time immemorial, it won't work.

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    1. πŸ‘ŒπŸ‘Œ

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    2. CHISOM well-articulated!πŸ‘πŸ’–

      Some people have lost their moral values and endorse everything that negates a life of godliness.

      We're all fallible but that's not an excuse to negate godly living.

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    3. No mind 'em.
      Praying for a better morrow and some are using the media to rubbish it.

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  12. These your celebs should stop justifying rubbish. You made a mistake and God worked it out in your favor.
    Do not advise others to make same mistakes you made. Being a baby mama or living in fornication is not
    a virtue, it is an affront to God's Word. πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„πŸ™„

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    1. Why don't you sit down and reason out these things yourself? Do you know that many of the things that some of you prudes here take as God's Word actually are not? But rather change with society's attitudes? Like the belief in monogamy which actually is not found anywhere in the Bible. Rather you have Ex 20:10 which clearly supports polygamy. Do you really know what fornication means? Find out the original meaning yourself and stop believing your pastor for a change! You owe it to yourself.

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    2. @15:47
      I had to go and read Exodus 20:10 because I like to learn new Scriptures. I did not see anywhere it
      "supports polygamy".
      Please read the teachings of Christ in Mark 10 and see that he made reference to how God intended
      things to be "in the beginning"; God made them male and female and therefore shall a A man leave
      his father and mother and be united with his WIFE"
      . The entire thing he said were singular. He told them that there were things Moses permitted them
      to do because of THEIR HARDNESS OF HEARTS not because they were God's Word.
      And please you were wrong in your generalization, I don't have a "pastor," I read my Bible.
      Let me paste Ex. 20:10 for you:
      but the seventh day is a sabbath to the LORD your God. On it you shall not do any work,
      neither you, nor your son or daughter, nor your male or female servant, nor your animals,
      nor any foreigner residing in your towns.

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  13. It's now the norm.. if you're above 35years, make hay now while the sun is still shinning bright oh...

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    1. Thank you for being reasonable and this doesn't mean people should be rushing to have babies for celebrities but choosing to have a child if marriage isn't forthcoming shouldn't be condemned.

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    2. It will continue to be roundly condemned. Take that to the bank!

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  14. Having children out of wedlock is wrong biblically.

    The most Complex B

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  15. If my memory serves me write BABY MAMA is a juxtaposition of two words, 'BABY' and 'MAMA', meaning 'a baby's mother.'

    Omowumi she not over think this matter. Children are gift from God, if you have one, praise your God for the privilege. Even some married women have not conceived, talk more of carrying their young.

    If you opened your leg freely without protection, then answering a Baby Mama shouldn't be much ado also. " He that uses his head to carry a Termite firewood should also be ready for the visiting of Lizards"

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    1. Person open legs collect sweetness and sperm, na the other result dem no want.

      Apart from rape o.

      Omaw...things cost for market now, channel that energy to FG.

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  16. Me being a baby mama is as a result of doctors order. My man was not ready for marriage due to lack of money.
    I got pregnant an was bless with a child .

    After the birth of my baby, my health challenges for years stop. Living my life as my fellow women for once.

    Taking care of my child all alone has not been easy. Don't want to feel bad. Will always remain thankful to God. Positive mindset I choose over negativity.

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  17. Doctors are poor moral compasses. Just leave it at medicine.

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    1. 14:34 you got that right. God's Word is!

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  18. All these artistes...they never fail to deliver on disappointment.

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  19. If u say u are a Christian, FORNICATION IS A SIN. PERIOD. If it's too difficult for u, ask God for help, with a SINCERE heart. Don't seek to bend and twist His word to suit ur purpose. They said the road is narrow and winding yet ppl keep looking for appian way to join express. 'Doesn't work that way, ok? He that hath ears, let him hear!

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  20. Omawunmi Magbele, with her Itsekiri gbagbati.....this her haircut, really brought out the proper Ode Itsekiri mama in her. I saw her on Yourview show.
    Oma wonder, dey represent wella !
    Aproko United !

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  21. Mr and Mrs Sanctimonious, please remember that not everyone is a Christian or believes in your imaginary God. As such, we don’t have to live by his prison guidelines/ framework. So before you start talking about whether a person is living a “godly” life, please first ask if they have signed up to this.

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    1. With the Christian God, Whom I blv Omawummi wills to serve, what u 'sign up' for is, OBIDIENCE. It's really that simple.

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    2. *OBEDIENCE*.

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  22. As you're choosing to have a child for whatever reason, just remember the child may not like it in the end. Think well o. Many children prefer complete homes. Lets stop this unfortunate trend.

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  23. Baby mama syndrome is a bye product of Slavery, Jim Crow, segregation and racism where white men were taken from farm to farm, lynched, and later on jailed for misdemeanors as felonies. A felony on your Social security meant no good job and so they hauled away black guys creating a scarcity of enough black bachelors and an attitude of promiscuity in the black society by lowering their self esteem. Black women in America have always preferred black men and so you have 4 of them competing for the attention of each well educated one. The African way was polygamy but since it is illegal here, the girls “trapped” them lying at times they had no womb. The sociology of the syndrome is important to understand whether it’s something we should copy as it didn’t just happen. Up till now, black men are still more likely to be jailed for an offense a white guy will be fined for. Black women tradittionally prefer their men. It’s the rich black guys that want to “upgrade” to the white women like Tiger woods & some athletes, and it always ends badly. They need to teach black history in its entirety including colonization, apartheid, slavery, Jim Crow, Black Wakk street burnt down as far back as the 1920s so Nigerians know what to copy and what not to copy. Stella print this one. Omawummi does not have the depth of knowledge to advise you on that any more than on sagging & Ebonics ( gonna, am o etc), the pidgin of the Ghetto. We don’t have to continue the wicked legacy of slavery across the ocean. Africans practiced polygamy not baby mamarism and if you are single, don’t fret, it’s not a sickness, work hard and pray but don’t trap any man because marriage hasn’t happened. Freeze your eggs.

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    1. Not a bad write up other than the issue of black men and their choice of women. There's no generalization. Ppl marry who they want to marry for whatever reason and I blv we shd leave them to that. Holding it against them for marrying Caucasian women is like fighting to keep a man. The question of 'upgrade' can only be a figment of the imagination of those with 'esteem' issues.

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    2. Not a bad write up other than the issue of black men and their choice of women. There's no generalization. Ppl marry who they want to marry for whatever reason and I blv we shd leave them to that. Holding it against them for marrying Caucasian women is like fighting to keep a man. The question of 'upgrade' can only be a figment of the imagination of those with 'esteem' issues.

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  24. Anon 12:32, I’m not writing to impress you or for grades. I’m an informed highly educated I dare say writer. Serena Williams dated many black football & basketball players who were intimidated and she fell for a confident less wealthy white man. Nobody holds it against her. If you really know this society you will realize that as a black woman you are considered less beautiful than your white peers. It’s the reason some black wealthy families here give the “talk” to our children about police from 16 years when they start driving and a second “talk” when they start dating. If all you do is spend weeks or months in America or years in predominantly Nigerian city areas, you won’t understand the second “talk”. If all successful no felony black professionals marry white, who will marry black girls? Ever seen that blacks forced most cosmetic companies to include black models. I rest my case you are a reason black dignity & black history need to be taught to every black person! FYI White surburban wealthy parents “talk” to their young professionals too.

    It’s more than choice and I’m not holding marrying a Caucasian against anyone just providing the sociological background of baby mama syndrome, naming conventions, sagging, the role of the church as the center of liberation theology to free black folks from copying things that their forefathers would frown at. I know many armchair experts of the US who have no idea of how many things came to be. Next time just pass your comment as you didn’t see me “holding anything” against them, I stated facts. I have friends & kids of marriage age and the moment a white girl knows you have a future, they won’t leave black boys till marriage and yes, it’s usually a vertical move. I stand by my decades of life in “Wisteria lane desperate housewives suburbia” and those of my black friends and colleagues with grown up professionals in the suburbs here.

    You don’t really understand the nuances and complexities of the US unless you school or live here for long. The white colonialists secured the bag so much so that the central bags of Francophone West Africa is in France as we speak. Give your own opinion, don’t piggyback on mine.

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  25. You don’t know me & my circle if you did you won’t talk about “imagination of esteem issues”. That is an insult but I’ll pass. Go get well educated on black history before George Floyd. I meant “ Black Wall Street” in my first write up. The US is more complicated than it looks.

    Not generalizing but do your research, it’s usually a vertical move and you mostly live in the gym or eat low calories (a good thing though) to keep a particular weight else they lose interest in you for the most part. You must not add weight o!

    Let’s relax and not rudely piggyback on other people’s comments. It’s almost like every Nigerian is angry. It’s the governments fault. Not generalizing, go for any race you want. I use public figures as examples.

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  26. U just buttressed my point by saying, "if all successful no felony black professionals marry white, who will marry black girls?" Attacking black men for marrying whites easily comes across as coming from a place of pain for black women in particular; and that is why the likes of Serena can get off easier than the likes of Tiger Woods, for the same action. It's like the pain of a woman scorned. That is why I referred to it in terms of a woman fighting to keep a man. It smacks of an effort at bullying successful black men to keep it within their race. Where the men go in to marriage for such pathetic reasons as 'marrying up' I can understand the aggression but not if there's a genuine interest in an intended marriage partner.

    I don't have to live a thousand years in a society for me to perceive its cultural nuances. A lot of u comment on Nigerian issues, do u live in Nigeria? Perceptions of beauty and prepping young adults for the future, for example, are pretty evident issues to anybody even averagely interested in studying American society or Black history, anyway, if those are the sort things u have in mind. Then speaking of Black dignity, pray tell me, who's the more dignified between a person who's sensitivities has him/her up in arms at every perception of a slight on their person; or one whose self confidence frustrates all such effort to slight? Being constantly aggressive as a result of both real and perceived affronts merely confirms to the other party, the power of the tool the latter has in their hand, to rile one up, at will. How dignified a position is that? I repeat, black ppl (especially men) marrying Caucasian women shd not be a subject of attack. I made that as a general comment and not to u in particular; just as my reference to 'esteem issues' is directed at ppl who absurdly blv within them that marrying white is marrying up. How a particular group of ppl perceives one is the former's choice. Everybody is entitled to their opinion. What matters is that a person knows their worth for what it is and functions accordingly.

    About piggybacking on ur comment. Well, truth to tell, once u air ur view on a public forum like this, expect reactions. I believe we're all aware there's a 'reply' option to the comments, which we all tacitly endorse when we press 'submit'. Otherwise, we all might as well just keep our views to ourselves. Cheers.

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