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PATERNITY SCAM EXPLAINED

I read somewhere where a doctor talked about how Nigerian women are wicked by bringing home another man's child claiming it's their husband's, well so many things can push someone into doing things like that, some are unaware sef, example in my own case,

I met my husband (currently ex husband) in 2006 through a friend, we started dating in 2008 January 20th, we started cohabiting that same January, by May, his family had started troubling me for not getting pregnant, his mom came to my place a few times to humiliate me for not being pregnant.

 I was treated like some trash, I went to so many places trying to get pregnant to no avail, one day I had an issue with my then neighbour, she mocked me and called me barren, mind you that I had had a child in my mother's house before meeting this man.

 I got angry, the thing led to a fight, and after that, landlord said it's either we pack or I should be asked to leave the compound, this man supported the evil landlord and asked me to return to my family first.

 I left Port Harcourt to Onitsha, he never called nor did he check on me for months, na me still carry myself begin call his friends to beg him for me, he refused. one of his co-worker's wife asked me to come to their house in Warri, lover-geh, na so I rush go, I stayed in her house for weeks until she was able to reunite us again. This time he told me he won't take me back to that compound but I will be staying in his hotel room (cos company gives them hotel allowee ) there in Warri.

 I agreed, this man lodged me in his room and lodged another girl in the next room, the next morning, this girl and her friend came and gave me the beating of my life, and still left me there, Oga was apologising over the phone cos he had gone to work, later in the evening he came back, was still trying to explain how he was sleeping with me and the said girl the same night when that girl came again, this time I decided to see the end, I dealt with the girl and this man again disappeared on me.

 I went through hell, thank God for that him co-worker wife, indigenes for kill my enemy, I was taken back into the room, Oga sent money that again I should return to my father's house at Onitsha, I insisted I must see him before I leave, he sent his elder brother, that one called me a barren woman to my face, he said I was only squandering his money, money wey I no see.

 I left in tears and promised myself that I must move on and never look back, I went back to my parents, it was so much humiliation from my family but I bore it, and after some months, I didn't hear from him, I didn't reach out to him either.

I had this friend whom I always confide in, he was always there for me, one day he came and this shoulder i always lean on became a dick I rode on and the rest became history, this thing happened on a Wednesday and on Friday, my husband came with his people that he wants to marry me.

 After the introduction, he begged my father to allow me to return home with him to Warri, my Dad agreed, we got home that night and had reconciliation s#x, after some weeks, we had a misunderstanding and he beat me blue, black and pink and ran off as usual, I went to meet his dad in Benin, after explaining things to him, he told me that the reason he's always angry is because I was yet to conceive, I quickly told him that I was pregnant.....

 When I told papa that I was pregnant ( I knew I wasn't, but I wanted to save my home, why I was that desperate at such a tender age, I don't know, eating insults and disgrace as food), Papa said are you sure? (It wasn't like I have ever lied to Papa before ooo but because they have concluded in their heart that my enemy is barren, that's why Papa was doubting me) 

I said yes but deep down my heart was panting, he asked that his senior son's wife to take me to a clinic to run a test, when we got there, we explained why we were there to the female doctor, so she took me inside the bathroom to get my urine, while we were inside, I cried and begged the woman to save my home, to lie that I was pregnant, I explained my predicament to her and she promised to help me, but when she came out, she said ******* you're pregnant:

 I felt it was based on our plans, so I was calm but when she said, truly you're pregnant, I saw the excitement in her eyes, I collapsed on the floor, this was how I knew that I was pregnant, I had even forgotten about that one night stand , I thought it was my husband's:

After I had the child, I was placed on 6months of no s#x because of the injury I had during childbirth, he contracted an STD, after the treatment, he was asked to run a sperm count test, he did and the result showed he had zero sperm count.

 My world crashed that day, thank God I didn't go with my child, na there God for start to de punish me, he believed it was the Staphylococcus that killed the sperms cells but I sneaked back and asked the doctor, abeg can this person father a child? He said no that it's impossible, I asked him like when did this thing start, some months ago? He said no, that the thing looks really bad and its dated from years ago, I asked the doctor again, can he father a child like last year, he said no that it isn't possible.

Na that time, e dawn on me say water don pass garri, we did our traditional marriage 9 months after I had my child, paid dowry on that same day, but my conscience was killing me..

I lost every strength to keep managing the marriage, especially when the beating continued, he kuku pushed me out, I returned to my family, but he never found out that the child isn't his until I told him 2yrs ago, he felt betrayed, but I didn't intentionally bring home another man's child, and his family were not nice to me, their wickedness and hurtful words to me were enough to do anything to prove that I was not barren:

 I am not saying I did something right, but I didn't bring home another man's child on purpose, sometimes I wish I can sit him down and tell him this, but fear no go let me, cos I don't wanna die....

So, this is my story, sometimes we dont plan things but they happen...

*Hmmmm, understood and it is better that you told him that the child is not his own...

The situation you described up there is enough to make a woman go crazy...

I heard of someone who was married for long and no child, her friend advised her to go and test another man to see if she would get pregnant, she did and it hooked and she could not bring herself to take it out because she had been TTC for so long.. So she pinned the child on the man and all the insults from family and friends  stopped, she was celebrated and people even gave testimonies on her behalf.

The day she will be found out will be the biggest disgrace of her life.... it is definitely loading!