STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
HUBAND TO BE AND HIS EX
I noticed that my husband to be has been in communication with his ex and due to the recent celebrity stories flying around, I asked him why he’s still texting and calling her. He told me he still likes her and can’t stop talking to her just like that, since they didn’t quarrel but only separated along the line due to genotype issues.
At this point, I’m confused.
Mind you, we’re about a month away from holding our traditional wedding. Now I’m asking myself if I should stay, because I seem to be competing with his past.
You need to really have a conversation with him, theres no crime in still being in touch with her and lving you but if shes the one he loves, then call it off...Ask him to be sure where hi feelings are....Did he propose or you did?He is definitely not over her.....
You need to really have a conversation with him, theres no crime in still being in touch with her and lving you but if shes the one he loves, then call it off...Ask him to be sure where hi feelings are....Did he propose or you did?He is definitely not over her.....
You will wear his ring.
ReplyDeleteShe will have his heart.
Simple and short. Post you better decide which want you want.
DeleteThat is it , so ask yourself this question, can you continue like this for the rest of your life because they may not stop
DeleteExactly!!!
DeleteRealty
DeleteI know you would still marry him.
ReplyDeleteI wish you well. You are about to enter hot soup; hot well garnished orishirishi soup.
Men and even women who still have feelings for their past are the WORST people to marry.
Negodu his stinking audacity.
And you’re still addressing him and husband-to-be.
Anyways HML to you three.
😂😂 she come add confused join. pele sis. it's well with you.
DeleteOh Anon how I love this comment. Poster please enter if you wan see shege.
DeleteDo not stay. Whatever conversations you have with him will not yield any result.
ReplyDeleteYou cannot tell the heart what to feel. He has told you he still loves her. They will keep being intimate until she marries...that's if she is interested in marrying someone else.
Do not go forward with that wedding, you will not have peace!!
Please read this again and again, they won’t stop . I walked a way from a similar situation in 2010 , in the mist of serious discussion all he mentioned is her name
DeleteI hate to say this but abort mission, ask him how he would feel if you still kept in touch with your ex since you still like him but had to dump him cuz your your mama no like am.
ReplyDeleteInfact dump him, I hate rubbish
More disrespect awaits you In the future
They can even have one or two kids with others then later in a few years get back together. I hope he doesn't divorce you later when you have given him kids. She still sees him as her man else why is she still talking to him when it's obvious they can never be together?
ReplyDeleteBe sure before you say I do, else, you will just be a title holder while she will have his heart.
ReplyDeleteMarriage with the right person requires some work, now imagine doing this with someone that has created doubts in your heart. Please, don't discard what your head is telling you. Pray too but decide on time
Stop breaking up because of genotype IF you can afford ivf
ReplyDeleteToo many miserable people
Well it's obvious he loves her and if not for genotype you wouldn't be in the picture. I will tell you to give him an ultimatum to cut ties completely with the lady and communicate it to her before the marriage but would he? I would also tell you to pick a race but it's easier said than done. So search within yourself and see if this is something you can cope with for the rest of your life.
ReplyDeletePray and decide
ReplyDeleteMany people move on from their ex …eventually
I hate to break it to you, but that's the actual love of his life. Just that genotype decided to do its thing. Even if you have an conversation with him, he'll just be more discreet
ReplyDeleteYou better discuss with him yo be sure where his heart belong to. If he love her, abeg let him be with her but if he loves you. Then he should set boundaries.
ReplyDeleteThe biggest concern is not that he speaks to his ex; it's that he openly told you he still likes her and cannot stop talking to her a month before your traditional wedding. That suggests he may not be emotionally ready to fully commit to your relationship. Before making any decision, have a serious and honest conversation with him. Ask him whether he has truly moved on and whether he is prepared to set appropriate boundaries with his ex. Marriage should not begin with one partner feeling like they are competing for a place in the other's heart.
ReplyDeleteIf he is uncertain, unwilling to create boundaries, or still emotionally attached to his ex, it may be wiser to postpone/cancel the wedding than to enter a marriage with unresolved feelings. A delayed wedding is far less painful than a troubled marriage. Choose a husband who is fully choosing you, not one who is still deciding between you and his past.
She is the love of his life and when you two get married he will be reporting you to her. He will tell her things he cannot tell you. He will tell her everything that goes on your house.
ReplyDeleteYou're about to enter hot soup, you can marry him if you can overlook, but just know that you may never have his heart.
ReplyDeleteMy husband tells his sister everything that happens in our home and it drives me mad, even when it's obvious that his sister craves and enjoy his attention, competing for it with me that is his wife.
ReplyDeleteNow imagine how you'll feel when it's another lady who has been intimate with your partner.
I'll rather be single than enter that marriage o.
Dear Poster,
ReplyDeleteAs it is, I can't boldly declare the ex as an alternative foregone because of the door that has been left ajar, which is what is blurring the line between his past choice and his present attachment.
A person can mourn a lost relationship because it was helplessly befitting. That's our nature. But a person preparing for marriage should not leave their future spouse wondering whether they are the first choice in the heart and merely the practical choice on paper.
There is a big difference between respectfully maintaining occasional contact with someone who was once so important. And remaining emotionally invested in someone you supposedly chose not to build a future with. That's the complication of your situation.
Sometimes people move on physically before they move on emotionally. Sometimes they choose the person they can marry while still grieving the person they wanted to marry. And that's one reality many people deliberately avoid admitting.
His ex was not rejected because he fell out of love. She was rejected because circumstances made marriage impractical. So you became an option. What place will this ex realistically occupy in your married life after you're in? There are no respectful boundaries in place, which is regrettable.
As for whether you should stay, it's not ours; you decide. Based on peculiarities and realities of what you've seen and known. Even if those two nouns are not the final truth of your situation, it is an important signal to measure the integrity of your impending marital character.
Marriage is difficult enough when only two people are in it. It becomes much harder when one partner is still emotionally indulging a previous attachment.
The conversations that feel uncomfortable now are usually much cheaper than the consequences of avoiding them later. So, explore and exhaust all the ides thoroughly before this wedding, not after it.
May God direct your choice and decision with a discerning revelation.
Don't go for anyone that makes you a second option, talking from experience.
ReplyDeletePoster abort mission. You are the one doing him a favour for the fact that its genotype that broke him and his ex that means you are the one with AA genotype and he has the effrontery to be liking his ex over you that is doing him a favour. Leave him let him go look for another women. Does he think its easy to get a lady with AA genotype
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