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Tuesday, March 19, 2019

Chronicle Of Blog Visitor Narrative -RIGHT OF REPLY

Hmmmmm na wah!!!...Yesterday's Chronicle don get reply!!!!






RE- TITHING IN MARRIAGE
Original chronicle here


Good  day...

My wife was the one who sent in the thing about tithing. It’s true that I really didn’t discuss it before we got married but since we are married I thought it was only fair that we pay tithes and do right by God.


 The money going into the joint account is total of our household income so the 10% should come from the household income. That’s not the only reason I’m having a problem with her. I met her in school while I was on f1 visa, I dropped out because I owed money to the school and couldn’t reinstate my status. She is an RN and she makes good money so she offered to help me with the school debt so I can start school again(I didn’t force her) she already paid half of the debt, but since I talked about this tithing, she said she can’t help with my debt anymore since I have a lot of money to be dashing my pastor.


 Mind you it’s not even pastors money it’s for God.

 Why is she punishing me for obeying God? Two weeks ago was my pastors birthday and we were asked to contribute $250 each to get a birthday gift for him. I took out 250 from the account and when she found out why I took the money, she said a lot of unpleasant things to me, she said my pastor needs to get a job and refused for me to send money to my mother that week because she’s claiming I’ve taken out what I was supposed to take already. How is that fair? She’s doing it because she’s making more money than me and it’s disrespectful to me as a man. 


I’m angry at her because she’s being mean to me because of what I believe in. I like to give to the church. I would love for you to post this so people can hear my own side of the story. Thank you ...



WHAT!!!!...Did you just type all these?Let me just step aside for others to say thier bit because oga if i talk eh......If i talk eh it will be like i am insulting you since you already have ego problem....WTF!!!!

214 comments:

  1. You are a mad man. 'they asked you to contribute 250 for pastor's wedding and you decide to take out money from your joint account? What happened to your own personal money?

    So because she earns more than you, she should kill herself abi? Go and fucking get a better job and stop trying to use this lady.

    Did God ask you to take out money from your wife's big salary to help your pastor or pay tithe. Backyard Christian, nigerian Men in the abroad na their way.

    Who marries these kind of men sef? Sigh

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    1. Baby Oku pastor’s birthday not wedding!!!! I am shouting seriously. Mr man have some self respect na? Someone is helping you pay your debt, you are taking out money for pastor’s birthday haba! This man go oyibo land no come get shame at all. Double your hustle and pay 100% as tithe if that would make you sleep well everyday. If madam doesn’t want to pay tithe leave her the hell alone. There’s no compulsion in Christianity. You should have thought of your mother before removing 250$ for pastor’s birthday. Please as you voluntarily sent in this your right of reply, take comments in good faith and don’t victimize madam because I see you getting it hot hot today. As for madam, your marriage might never remain the same oo... from all this things your husband typed my people will say ‘akalanya sa’.

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    2. I don't understand this man I swear down!!!
      The annoying part is that he sees nothing wrong in what he is doing.
      Poster's wife I beg for your sake, do not join your money with this man's money now that you know his stand as regards spending.

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    3. Oga, are you for real? No, I think a troll just want to play with us. No sane person will write what I just read.

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    4. Mr you don't have to force your wife to tithe if she dose not want to remember to blessing would be attached to it because it was given grudgingly. You can pay your own 10% out of your money after your contribution. And again you gave $250 of money you don't have for birthday 🤔🤔,what where you thinking of? Money you could not afford, now you talking of your wife punishing you. No sir,you are the one out of line,because you never discussed any of these issue during courtship. You are doing father Christmas with pastors birthday,meanwhile you have debt to pay off.

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    5. You have been brain washed. How old are you? What manner of rubbish did you type above . You were asked to donate? Is it mandatory ??

      What did the pastor or your church people give you on your birthday? You even sound so entitled to your wife’s money.

      You are a disgrace to manhood! Tufiakwa

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    6. This man left his shame in Nigeria when he was travelling. Oga in your free time, read what you wrote and with your church mind decide if its fair or not

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    7. Oga why not focus on paying off your debt in full and helping your mother than rushing to church to dash your wife's money to them? I believe in tithing but you cannot take another persons sweat to pay tithe. You pay tithe from your own money not from your wife' own. Again it is not compulsory for you to contribute for your pastors birthday while you still have pressing needs. I will advise you to go to your pastor and plead with him to give or lend you money so that you can pay off your debt. cheers. @Blessed Princess

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    8. Prolly the pastor and church donated towards his school debt also hence his insistence on doing everything for the church 😁😁.

      Unku, I love your passion about tithing, I do same unfailingly BUT I didn’t impose it on my partner. It’s up to him to give or not. The only thing is i try to let him know what I have benefited from tithing and I don’t regret it. It’s a personal decision.

      Your wife is feeling used(I will see it same). Because she give a lending hand before, you are now trying to walk all over her. She has a right to OBLIGATION and she sticking by it. You can ask for assistance, with genuine reasons, and if she has and feels obligated, she will drop her token. She is not in your life to shoulder your burden. If the tables were turned, you might not do it and might remind her of all you have done for her.

      In conclusion, please remember it’s not an OBLIGATION for BOTH OF YOU to do what you are not compelled to do. It’s a choice.

      Keep on with the good work for the house of God, he will bless you abundantly. 🙏🏼

      Chai I don talk pass myself today 😄😄😁

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    9. This is almost the most annoying reply.
      Mr poster, I want to ask you this question. When you could not pay your fee, where was your pastor to move the congregation go gather money so you can continue schooling?
      You need a psychologist cos it's obvious you're brain washed

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    10. Oga you don fuck up be that.. Yesterday I supported you but today nah.. Your pastor should help you get out of debt first. Than you can shower your money on him. Seriously if it comes to money leave women out of it. They will never never never understand with you. I will suggest you keep to yourself and pay you debt first before dashing money to your pastor. Once a woman earns her money its only 0.02% that will allow you decide what happens with the money.

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    11. This poster nor too well like that. Madam like I said yesterday dissolve that account.

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    12. You are a scam!!! Not just a scam, YOU ARE A THIEF! You want to be paying tithe for her because she earns better, but I put it to you that you ain't going to be paying the tithe, you going to be stealing the money. If you want to pay tithe, tithe from your income, not from some someone else's income.... anything outside of that is either foolishness or outright scam!!!

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  2. Can you even hera yourself,you dont have money but you want to contribute money to get your pastor a gift,can you just listen to yourself,even you want to go that route its fine but oga please use your money biko..Do you want to be unfortunate???Nonsense!!!

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    1. I do not support you taking out money from a joint account for your pastors birthday, I can even permit the tithing but not birthday.
      Madam you too shouldn't be addressing your hubby in such a manner
      I think you both should dissolve this joint account or shouldn't save so much in it, maybe just percent of your salaries so that you both will have enough change for sending to your parents or shopping or whatever or else na this joint account go scatter this marriage

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    2. Oga is a mad man. Giving 250dollars for gift. Chai.
      Tell ya pasitor and ya church people to contribute for you school fees.

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    3. Mr Man go and pay tithe from your remaining 40% since you want to obey God. Your wife is even trying. She paid your debt yet you aren’t appreciative, some men are looking for women to support them financially.
      Madam I think you were desperate to marry, abi which Love was shaking you that you carried man gbese for your head like gala.Sha finish what you started...Ruth Abokoku
      Your marriage looks like a business deal than a love deal.

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    4. I said it yesterday that the poster's husband is a scammer, he has proven it. What I didn't know was that he is a sick, demented and entitled scammer. Madam, this man married you for your money, I feel so sad for you...

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    5. Chai! I usually do not comment. This one pain me. See your yeye mouth, talking about she volunteered to pay your debt so your sorry ass can finish school. And you are here talking about this woman is disrespecting you because you don't make as much as her? Fuck you. Your type will go about giving Nurses bad name. I'm tired of men like you who think they are too smart. You will leave your own money and use your family savings account to be philanthropying (if it is a word self) up and down. Mtchhhheeewww. Pay your tithe out of your earnings, after all that is what it is about. 10% of your income not your family savings. Infact that 10% should be before tax. As the accountant that I is. Omo, wetin I read just vex me.

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    6. Chai! I usually do not comment. This one pain me. See your yeye mouth, talking about she volunteered to pay your debt so your sorry ass can finish school. And you are here talking about this woman is disrespecting you because you don't make as much as her? Fuck you. Your type will go about giving Nurses bad name. I'm tired of men like you who think they are too smart. You will leave your own money and use your family savings account to be philanthropying (if it is a word self) up and down. Mtchhhheeewww. Pay your tithe out of your earnings, after all that is what it is about. 10% of your income not your family savings. Infact that 10% should be before tax. As the accountant that I is. Omo, wetin I read just vex me.

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  3. Guy...for real though...did you just type all that? It seems you were pampered too much when you were growing up by your parents. I cannot believe what i just read here right now...and i'm a guy. You mean you actually dipped from you and wife's savings to give pastor for birthday gift?!!! Common mahnnnn! Your wife is waaaay more matured than you, guy!!! If you want to give God his 10%...that is fine, why impose it on your wife and your savings guyyyyyyy?!!! Use your own money not from you and your wife's savings, especially after she has told you that she is not interested in it. Wake up mahn!!!!

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  4. This one na yeye 'right of reply'. You need to go see a therapist my dear friend.

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    1. Guy, will you KEEP KWAYET. What nonsense are you saying.

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    2. My head wan burst. So your mama no fit ph make you finish’s school and this young woman whom you married took over that responsibility and somehow still
      Wnded up being a bad person?

      I’m sure you agree with your mother ( the same one you have to send money every month) that your wife should Hand over all salary to you so you disburse as you see fit

      Aye mi ohhhhhh
      Chai, women don suffer for this world!

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  5. Mr Oga Man, there is no problem in giving to God at all BUT DO IT FROM YOUR PURSE. IMAGINE 250 DOLLARS OO...AND Its like u did not even discus it with your wife before taking it. I think you're wrong, mnximmm what am I saying? You are wrong period!!!!
    I know your type too inferiority complex dey worry person, e dey pain u that Madam earns higher than you, you want to show muscle even where it's not needed. Abeg abeg don't reply again because i actually can't believe that a normal person typed that. Let me go, I'm late for kids school runs🚶‍♀️🚶‍♀️🚶‍♀️🚶‍♀️

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    1. Oga poster, ya eyes too dey madam money. Na wa ooo. Na ya type go dey shout wetin she dey bring come table, I no want liability before marriage. Now, only you wan finish everything wey dey table.

      My advice be sey make Una two stop this joint akant, and make Una go see professional marriage counselor. Save ya marriage sir.
      I don talk my own.

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  6. Oga the people that are advising you are bad people. Listen to good people before you lose a good woman. Don't take any cent from that joint account unless it's for food and other things for the house. don't give your pastor any money from there. In fact till your debt is clear don't give anyone any money except your mother. OMG. You are so wrong. Pay tithe from your selarase money

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  7. Give your own money to the church and who ever you wish but remove your eyes from your wife's money.

    They said you should contribute 250 dollars for pastor meanwhile you get debt to pay?? Gullible human being.If you have 250 dollars to throw around then man up and pay your debt. If I were your wife I will deal with you. You can't force her to pay tithe? Pay it out of your own salary!!

    This is why i hate this joint account thing. See you piling up expenses on top another person's sweat.

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  8. The only thing I saw there is that you're contributing 250 dollars to pay for your pastor's birthday when you have debts to clear! 0ga your mumu no get part 2

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    1. Oga poster until you lose a good woman na that time your eye go clear.
      Nosence and Tinubu 😏😏😏😑

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  9. Oga you did a wrong thing by taking money from the account without her knowledge, because it is a joint account, it means that any money leaving the account must be approved by the two of you. And you are even being ungrateful, someone helped with your debt, and you had to say, you didn't even force her. You are lucky to have a woman that supports you and you should really be grateful instead of bringing up unnecessary issues.

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  10. You are a very useless man! You literally just spoilt my day!
    You should be ashamed of yourself gentleman. Madam why are you even helping him with his debt??? You have the guts to be taking money off your family financial pot for a pastor who is probably living better than you lot! Gosh!
    Pay your tithe from your own salary and don’t milk the poor woman dry! Damn!!!

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  11. Alaye, you've been brainwashed. I lost it at the contribute $250 for your pastor.

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    1. Brainwash gịnị? He is using his korokoro eyes to do it. Don't excuse nonsense please

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  12. Oga pay your tithes from your income and not from the joint account. You can't force your wife to do what she does not believe in. How can you take money from your joint account to buy pastor a gift? Can't you buy from your personal savings? You are just looking for trouble where there is non.
    I pay my tithes, everybody in my family does,any time I pay I have this peace of mind I can't explain.
    But all this chronicles with reply,hope no be say na one person they take us play?
    Even if na like that, we are learning from it.

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  13. God does not need your money... He needs a contrite heart uncle... How many times will tell you people to read your Bible yourself. If you must tithe, use the money to help the homeless or poor people around you. The pastor you are dashing 250 dollars for his birthday, has he ever given you any birthday gift. You people should use the brain God gave you naa... Haba.
    What is all this

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    1. Person wey dey pay debt dey dash 250 dollars. Oga you sef think am na

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  14. Oga, you just pissed me off with this your chronicle. Na wa

    Your wife is really trying sha

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  15. You will never save with the way you going. Dear wife stop this joint mumu thing, when i realised my hubby doesnt have saving spirit, all he did was buy designers and credit cards. I quickly stopped joint account business and face my life, n9w he is jealous of my huge savings and always threatening to leave. Men!!! Fear them.

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    1. just negodu. some men are shameless.

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    2. He is threatening to leave...this one na woman, nor be man

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    3. Meaning he was planning to reap you off with the joint account scam. Why threatening to leave? You need to fear this man o....why did you even let him know you have a.huge savings. A lot of evil that happens because of money. Abeg watch your back. Ensure even if anything happens to you he cannot get a dime of that money

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    4. I cant try joint account biko....I don't have time to babysit anyone.

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  16. Mr man you're so full of yourself! What nonsense. your wife even try sef to marry you.

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    1. We have heard enough Sir. Thank you!
      Please,Oga pay your tithe from your own personal income. You know your wife earns more that's why you keep taking money from the joint account.



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  17. You have debts to pay;your wife wholeheartedly offered to help out with it and you have the guts to remove money and get your pastor gift!

    Weldone sir!!!

    Nobody said you shouldn't do anything for God,but plsssssssssssssssssssssss take out of your portion and do it!

    Don't drag your wife into it.

    Just look atyou opening your mouth to say she earns more than you,meaning?????she should give you all the money? Are you not supposed to shoulder the responsibilities of your home?you have someone helping out and you still abuse it.

    I'm soooo livid right now! Arrant nonsense

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  18. I don't know what to say, but I know if you want to give thithes it should be from your money only. you don't use the joint money cause it's like your cheating her and paying for something she didn't sign up for.i don't think the significance of the thithes is achieved, because the money is not coming from a source that is totally willing.besides, you're not so financially ok but you go on to contribute for a birthday?? I think you have to get your priorities right

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  19. Oga pls you should not have even responded at all! Your pastor needs to get a job and you also need a brain resetting slap!
    Tell your wife that i said SHE SMELLS NICE!

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  20. Ehen...
    Instead of you to cover your face and do your thing codedly, you want to force her to surrender her all to please your pastor. Yes, your pastor.
    Didn't you read the part of the bible that talks about cheerful giving, and giving not on compulsion or of necessity? That's y women don't like helping their men. She go dey hustle, you go dey order. Oga take time before you lose your good wife or don't you know money could cause great rifts in marriage. Mshwww. Y must the 10% be from the general account? Don't you know tithing is of the old testament and Israelites to Levites. Did you see the apostles paying tithes? I am seriously vexing right now.

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  21. Your wife has a golden heart...she still accommodates this skoin skoin??

    In fact she should scatter that joint account nonsense...i am never in support. It never goes smoothly because of husbands like this! $250 dollar per person. for what please??? I live in the United States and i know exactly what the multiplication effect of that amount can be! After paying tithes, you will dash pastor from her money??? Oga fear God.

    your wife doesn't share your values on tithing so play it by her rules...take out your tithe and she takes her own for shopping simple! men like you will soon start dictating what she should do with her hard earned money. Very soon you will take money and go and marry new wife in Nigeria as you are still insisting on sending to your mother. what of her own parents???


    Nonsense. Man my foot! I hate when men demand respect for nothing!

    Madam, please discontinue that joint rubbish so your home and brain stays intact. Its good you stopped paying his fees. Let him sweat it out and pay the rest. He wont be talking of dashing pastor 4250 or sending money to his village people. He must have told them he is a big man. Feasting on you because you are his maga? Gosh!

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  22. No long talk.
    The best thing that will happen to your wife is to save her money separately.

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  23. Oga tight and gift from your own money not joint account unless your wife agrees. Stop being selfish.

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  24. Very entitled child! I refuse to call you a man!!!

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  25. I can’t believe what I just read too. You live abroad and you even have this kind of stupid mentality? You are trying to make your wife look bad, meanwhile you are the bad one. You gave your pastor $250 and want to send money to your own mother while a woman is working her ass off for you? I don’t have any advice for you.

    If your wife is reading this, she should take my advice and run without looking back. You are a mistake, an ingrate and a lazy ass. The marriage is dead on arrival and i’ll advice madam not to start a family with you yet. Go and get all these rubbish mentality out of your head.

    You are not a Christian. You are a church boy, abi let me say church rat who wants to be in the good book of his pastors and family not minding that you are hurting your own wife who is your rock. As it is, you have placed your pastors and mum, siblings and maybe even friends over your wife.

    Shame! Shame! Shame!

    Madam, don’t be too ashamed to realize your mistake and opt out of that Shitty marriage IF he doesn’t change. HE IS MANIPULATIVE!!!

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  26. This man is very wicked,he has an ego problem.Now he wants everyone to feel pity for him and see the lady as been unfair.If he needs to do anything for his pastor,it should be from his own money and not from their joint account.Why should he be the only one withdrawing from the account?????.

    He should stop being selfish,unfair and STOP playing the guilty party saying she earns more than him. So F***K what. Seriously, who does that.

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  27. Oga, pay your tithe from your income and not from you and your family's savings. Go and read your Bible well Mr.

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  28. Imagine!!! Somebody is working overtime to help your life and you are dashing your pastor 250 DOLLARS for his birthday ???!!! Wtf!!??? So because she is an RN and earns well she should die for you abi???? Is it not enough that she is helping out so you can become a better person but you want her to keep suffering all because of your selfishness !!! Are you happy seeing her exhaust herself on your account?? Do you have conscience??? See you, husband man , head of family!! See you ooo!!! My God.
    I'm so emotional right now.
    So what is wrong with paying your tithe from your own funds ? Is that not the essence of keeping a percentage of your income to yourself? So you can use it to sort your own personal issues? Use your money to serve your God and leave her alone!! It is not by force. Sense man, you are not fighting for any tithe money. Na you know wetin you wan carry that money do but God will fight for my fellow woman.
    Such an ingrate. One would think that your primary focus should be how to complete your education and get a better job so as to reduce her stress but here you are !!!
    I will keep shouting this oo, me I will not marry anybody that cannot shoulder his responsibilities. My husband will buy soteee, he buy salt put for kitchen. He must be the head both in character and principle not just figure head. To avoid stories that touch.
    Jeez, what did I just read!!! 250 dollars that you can't afford for pastor when your own problems are piling up!
    Oh! Papa!!!!

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  29. Two of una just dey co-habit.
    Una pastor na Lord of the Manor.
    Why must parishoners contribute to buy pastor a gift, isn't giving according to one proposes in his heart?
    And if you must contribute, why not take from the one you earned until you are able to convince her to join you in tithing?
    Both of you are selfish.
    Make you no carry gun shoot ya wife like a lot of (foolish) Naija men dey do for yankee o.
    Una no sabi wetin marriage mean at all at all.

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    1. How is the wife selfish? Ode!!!

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  30. Oga if you want to pay your tithe, give pastor money to flex for birthday, pls take it from your personal account.

    Thank God you guys are not based in Naija, that woman would have been subjected to lots of bashing.

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    1. Thank goodness!!!! Imagine him still trying to make her look bad

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  31. Entitled little Prick! Pathetic excuse for a Man! I'm ashamed for you! She offered to pay ur debts and you wrote "ididnt force her" you are an ingrate!!! My goodness! I can't believe what I just read!! $250 each to buy gift for ur pastor? Pay out of ur own pocket! You want to send money to YOUR Mother? Pay out of your own pocket!!! Not from the household account! Those are not household expenses!!! My goodness what woman married you? Our Mothers failed in raising the men in this generation! Lazy, entitled lot!!! Look at this one??? I cant!!!!

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    1. I swear! Very annoying. Our mothers didn’t try at all. If my older brother mistakenly hears that I did small business he’ll be asking for “my share”. Nonsense. My dad has paid for several private and federal schools for him, always dropping out. My mom will still be blaming my dad that it’s because he didn’t send him abroad, that’s why he’s misbehaving. Me and my sister did undergrad here, we didn’t die. We only went for masters. My dad said if he doesn’t get his bachelors he’s not sponsoring him anywhere.

      Me I just dey laugh... I will send him jobs that he can apply for ask him to contact people he won’t answer. Type email and cover letter for him, even though me self I only have one leg. Lol. He will even be calling my sister that he’s 7 years older than for money.

      I just Dey laugh because he won’t understand.

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  32. This man is one ungrateful hegoat.

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    1. This Man is an Ungrateful Sheep... Forming big Manor In Church why Las he has Debit to Pay.. see him Leaving Fake Life.

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  33. Oga you don't have right to take joint money for giving to Pastor. Use your money to do this and allow God to bless you.

    We always also buy gifts for our Bishop during his birthday and it is not compulsory. We use our

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  34. OMG! Who advised you to respond ooooh.....who? I am 300% certain you will be roasted and thoroughly burnt today. Ti e ba e leni

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    1. Heheheheh, he's already roasted, cut up n shared.

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  35. Oga are you hearing yourself?? You just proved your wife is not wrong after all.
    You want to gift your pastor $250 dollars, then fucking do it from your income, not your wife's.
    Your wife is struggling this much to make ends meet and all you are interested in is how to blow it.
    Dear wife, terminate that joint account nonsense right away before this man wrecks you both.
    Let him spend all his money on pastor's gift if he likes. Mtscheew.

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  36. If you want to tithe, tithe in peace from YOUR INCOME.
    If you want to gift your pastor, buy him a gift from YOUR Income.

    You can't compel people to give. God looks at the heart giving and that is what he will bless.

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  37. Puffins no let me type much. Stop using joint account. It brings quarrel. Stop using your wife money who is not in support because God does not bless grumbling money.

    You no try at all

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  38. Oga u have no shame oo
    First I believe in giving greatly
    Why marry someone u both dont hold same beliefs
    What were u expecting
    So u can not force her to start seeing things about giving
    Cos it's not her belief
    This is not about who earns more or not.
    If ur pastor wants to do anything
    Take from your personal money and not from the joint
    U are a user
    Poster wife be wise oooo
    Was joint if one party does not believe in what u are using the money for.
    Nothing now.
    Pls oga if u want to give do from the remaining of ur money
    U are ungrateful and very egoistic.
    Jeez!

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  39. Shameless man

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  40. who married this boy sef? i cant deal abeg. how can u come and be forming boss man on my money? women shine una eyes oooh.

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  41. Just listen to your selfish self, no wonder Daddy Freeze insult you tithe payers as dingbats with no common sense. I pity your wife

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  42. Haba Oga, re U serious? U can't blame her for reacting the way she did, please... How can she be paying ur debt & U re only concerned with spending out of ur joint account? Even without discussing it with her first? Haba na! If I were her, I'd leave it all to U, since U can now afford it... I can tell U don't love this woman, yes U re selfish & mean, if this is how U wanna appreciate a woman who showed kindness to U out of love.. This is not manly, @all...

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    2. I'm still in shock, honestly... I had to scroll back up to read that again. U said the joint account is the household contribution, & according to ur wife, U both put in 60% of ur income.. why then re U sending money to ur Mum from household income? Shouldn't that be from ur remaining 40%? What then do U do with ur own 40%, please? Saving to run away from her when U eventually get a better job? From my understanding of this chronicle, I think ur wife is older than U re, & U probably feel U did her a favor marrying her, maybe U thought she was desperate because she offered to pay ur school debt? I mean there re just too many questions in my head, I simply can't believe U...

      She's not punishing U for obeying God, but for being unreasonable. To think U even find her behavior disrespectful & mean sef, SMH! Answer this truthfully, if U were in her shoes, will U respect U? On top of all these, U re keeping malice, now lemme ask U, to what end exactly? So she'd feel bad & allow U have ur way? Please grow up Sir, she is ur wife & not ur 2nd mother...

      U better take complete charge of ur home, if U re still interested in the marriage, because this rift right here is an eye opener for ur wife, in case U don't know it. A wife is only a helper, she shouldn't be obligated to join/share in the finances. U best take full responsibility of ur household & let her contribute as she desires, whether or not she earns more, ... That is the only way U can earn that respect back, if not, please take a walk already & find ur feet by urself... Odiegwu really!

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  43. His useless sense of entitlement is getting me very angry. I don't know why a woman would agree to marry such dumb BOY. I hope she realises her mistake and dump your pathetic ass

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  44. I wonder why we continue to make ourselves slaves to religion, now tell me how much was contributed for other members of your church on their birthday? NOTHING i guess. Imagine $250 each from every member of your church how much it will amount to for your pastor,I call that slavery, and if you choose to continue to be a slave kindly do so with your own money not with someone else money. Shame no even they catch you, you wey them dey pay school fees for still decides to enslave yourself in a foreign land. Wake up dude because you are still sleeping.

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  45. Oga, I like you for making out time to reply, so nice and thoughtful of you.
    Frankly, you cannot eat your cake and have it. If you want to pay tithes, nice, pay but you cannot force your wife to pay tithes, mba , you cannot even force your Child to pay tithes. You did not get your priorities right, that was why you gave out $250 meant for your Mom to your Pastor. You cannot do big man on another person's money, your wife or not. If you want to give out money to your Mom, Pastor, Siblings or whomsoever, it should be from your pocket.
    She is even helping you to pay your debts and you are not grateful? Ha!, Oga, you don't have the fear of God and you are not even a good person. Your wife has a large heart and I bless God for her that she is a principled person.
    Oga, you sound like the kind of person that would leave this woman , God forbids, if she has any financial issue. I put it to you that you do not love your wife genuinely. You are in the marriage for what you stand to gain. Oga, please, fear God and repent.

    Madam, please, open your eyes well, if I were you, I won't trust this man, make sure that you have other savings, please.
    Salvation is personal, likewise payment of tithes. Tithes is paid from one's income alone.
    By the time you finish with your studies, you might even earn more than her and she is magnanimous enough to assist with that. Please, calm down and thread cautiously. Best wishes.

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    1. Gbam..This is not marriage at all... Madam, shine your eyes..imagine someone paying ur debt.. it aint easy..i knew what it took me to clear my college debt...

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    2. Oga, if you do not have other motives ,let this issue be .
      Madam, shine your eyes, this is not a good man. How well do you know him? Are you sure that he doesn't have a wife in Nigeria??
      Unless this man changes, Madam, your marriage is on a long thing, he is with you for your money.
      I prefer you give to the poor than this tithing thing.
      This joint account thing can be discontinued, sef. He is probably the one that suggested a joint account . Your husband na guy man o.
      Madam, may God preserve and prosper you more. Best of luck.

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    3. All I see is N90,000 and
      "I didn't force her"🙆🙆🙆

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  46. Madam I hope you enjoying how every unknown dick and Harry is calling your husband names?

    This things can be resolved amicably.Close down the joint account stick to your view.Or you make him pay from his own salary.

    #womanpower

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    1. See this one!!! Whose right of reply is this, wife of horse and? I bet you're just as shameless as this man.

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    2. Conduct attracts description

      If he is wise, he will learn from it and get the right lessons to memory

      Become a better man
      That she will look up to and Christianity will hungry her by your conduct


      Real Man is not genitals
      Real man is responsibility and discipline

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    3. 😂😂😂😂 small chops, you is wickid aswear 🤣🤣 Réal man is not genitals 🤣😄 una harsh for Sdk blog oooo

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    4. It is people like you that are the problem in Nigeria. You are the ones who encourage women to be silent and endure crap in marriages to prevent a perfect picture and cover up for evil men.

      If this man is a sensible person, he will see wrongs and repent.

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  47. You should have just save ur face...what u said up there is radarada.. oniranu to n foshi shayo yo.
    Rubbish oshi

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  48. Sir, you are sounding quite irresponsible. I can't believe you had the temerity to write back. You used $250 out of your household money to contribute for pastor gift without telling your wife, you still want to send money to your mum that same week, you will still force her to pay Tithe with you... All because you like to give to church. Do you have sense? If this woman is spending household money on shopping because she likes to shop, you will never take it. So this woman should kill herself for you and your wants?

    I don't think you are a real Christian who knows the principles of giving because if you did, you won't be doing all these to your wife. If you love giving to God so much, you would have discussed it before marriage. You just want to look good in the eyes of pastor and other church members.

    You should better drop those your high shoulders and begin to appreciate your wife. She sounds like a good person and I hope you don't lose her before you realize it.

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  49. My brother let me tell you the truth. 1. Pay tithe from your own contribution 2. You know what it's easier to pay tithe and give out of other people's money, when you start earning your own real money...please pay tithe from there. What you have typed up there is anti Christ...it reeks of satanic doctorines passed down by hungry pastors. And guess what ask yourself, deep down the reason you re doing this is so that the pastor will see and believe you re okay and well to do... Don't push a good woman down the alley...I was once a fool like you....learn from others stupidity don't be the fool

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  50. You just spoilt my mood with this shameless response ogbeni with entitlement mentality.
    Gullible and very stupid so called Christian .I am done with you already.

    Madam,I greet you o,you dey try o,I can't just imagine myself with this fool.

    My only advice is to discontinue that joint nonsense because this man is just out to ruin you.

    How can someone still owing debts gifts such money to one swindler called pastor? I am just shocked.

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    1. Not all pastors are swindlers
      Test every spirit
      Ask for discernment for everyone you see





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  51. P. Scheherazade19 March 2019 at 16:29

    This right of reply doesn't deserve my response at all! But, let me oblige you.
    Mr. Man, I put it to you that you're not even a Christian. A true Christian would not marry someone who is upfront about not going to church, cos the Bible warns us about being unequally yoked.
    Tithing, just like salvation, is personal and is supposed to be 10% of your INCREASE.
    Increase being earnings or profits from a business or salaries/income.
    No where does the bible say you must tithe from a joint account. An account for savings isn't an income. It's in existence because you have an income for crying out loud. If you want to tithe, do so from your personal salary.
    Your wife offered to pay off your debt and you're paying a whole $250 for a pastor's gift, from a joint account and without even informing her, you're definitely a spoiled, deluded, manipulative and greedy child. As far as you're concerned, she's just your meal ticket, abi?
    I'm not even going to get into what kind of church asks members to pay $250 towards buying a gift for the pastor.

    To the wife, if this boy doesn't grow up and behave like a human being, please leave him. Don't spend the rest of your life cleaning up messes cos that is what you will be doing.

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  52. God help me express my feeling because shai.....lemme calm down. oga PLEASE feel free to feed what you believe in but dont drag your wife by her hair to do same.Buying gifts for your pastor was your idea, dont force her to contribute,paying tithe was your idea, if she doesnt want to pay tithe leave her alone. if you cannot afford the kind of life you want(gifting and tithing, go out and get a better you and leave that woman' money alone. it is her money, you didnt train her in school so stop forcing her or telling her how to spend it. then i wonder why it is so difficult to take 100% of your money to church without taking from the contributed one for the household, you are so selfish. Your tithe should not come from the household money, but from your pocket(after taking out the money for your family). And hoe dare you say you did not force her to help out with your debt, you are so ungrateful and you dont deserve that woman. And for you madam, this one no be husband, he is so jealous you earn more than him and he is determined to ruin you for it. shes not punishing you for obeying God abeg stop dragging God into this, instead you are punishing her for earning more and having an opinion on her own money. you are an excuse of a man abeg, such a selfish motherfucker

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  53. Oga why did u post this?
    Just know you're in soup in Stella's bvs hands today....hahahahaha
    But iz like u not ok truly.
    😀😀😀😀

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  54. Guy, you have problems, who spends the tithe? this woman is slaving away her ass for you and you think using her money to contribute $250 is not an insult, use your money for your pastor and church matters and leave her out of it and man up and stop thinking she's behaving like that because it's her money

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  55. Poster of yesterday's chronicle, now you know what to do about this particular joint account..........OPEN YOUR EYES........

    Young man, so you decided to be a deceiver & a liar, yet still claim to be a Christian? This is why I don't care about people's religion, instead YOUR CHARACTER, I mean YOUR CHARACTER......

    I wish there's NOTHING like RELIGION. Look at the world today.....

    You even sound as if you did her a FAVOUR by marrying her.....



    chim-oma aka Miss Kapusu

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  56. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂, Stella vex sotey she said What the f*****ck.

    Oga!!! WHAT THE F****CK. Why you still dey carry Naija mentality around??? WTF. Hahahaha

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  57. Come on fam! Please let's ease up with the abusive words and name callings? Regardless of how "unique" he may be, he is still our "e-in-law", he is still married to one of us. I'm assuming she accepted him warts and all before getting married to him.

    She may be upset right now and feel justified but no woman will be happy to see her hubby being bashed and dragged by the balls horizontally and diagonally across the blog whether or not he deserves it. I'm not applauding him and probably he shouldn't have replied but two wrongs don't make a right. Let's try to draw in our claws and fangs, please, before this whole ish really goes south.

    Poster of yesterday's chronicles, sweetheart, some of us will use your hubby to blow off steam and log off. You're the one who is going to share the house with him. It's pointless to win the battle but lose the war. Even when a husband goofs publicly, the wife should do damage control. You alone have the right to drag him as you see fit. Merely a suggestion, please.

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    1. What are you saying? he’s the one who sent in today’s post. Just because your so called submit and look like a fool advice was rightfully called out as wrong you’re now still running round in circles trying to put the blame on other BVs for being harsh. Call a spade a spade, sometimes you’re wrong

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    2. This Ronalda lives in a fantasy world. Even if a man is wrong, and stupid, according to her you still have to pamper him, and go an extra mile to please him. A human being just like yourself, a grown ass manfor that matter?Marriage is not a do or die affair, abeg.

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    3. Hmmmm...this your comment @Ronalda, pls I take back what I said previously about your comments being top notch cos I don't understand again. This particular one to this right of reply, did it for me. Peace.


      Ada.

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    4. To me, she is delusionally mumu, her hubby may be a good man but it doesnt work with all men.

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    5. She posted her issues anonymously and shared the link with him. We all agreed with her that his briefs had piss stains yesterday and she showed him our feedback quietly.

      The foolish stubborn man was adamant that his briefs were not urine stained but sparkling white and decided to come here to spread them for us to inspect properly.

      Because he did that, we realised his briefs didn’t only have piss stains but had shit smeared all over it and how it stunk to high heavens. As people with properly working senses we informed him outrightly that he is wrong as his briefs are disgusting as fuck and he should learn to wipe his arse properly! Ain’t nobody’s fault but his!

      Like I say this is social media with a different assortment of people. If you can’t take the heat stay the hell away from the kitchen.

      Ivannah

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    6. She posted her issues anonymously and shared the link with him. We all agreed with her that his briefs had piss stains yesterday and she showed him our feedback quietly.

      The foolish stubborn man was adamant that his briefs were not urine stained but sparkling white and decided to come here to spread them for us to inspect properly.

      Because he did that, we realised his briefs didn’t only have piss stains but had shit smeared all over it and how it stunk to high heavens. As people with properly working senses we informed him outrightly that he is wrong as his briefs are disgusting as fuck and he should learn to wipe his arse properly! Ain’t nobody’s fault but his!

      Like I say this is social media with a different assortment of people. If you can’t take the heat stay the hell away from the kitchen.

      Ivannah

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    7. Ronalda, that you married a sensible man shouldn't make you insensitive. I never thought I'd say this especially to someone I don't know, but go and thank God that He has made you find favour in the eyes of your husband. I'm married to a man that treats me like a queen. I expected to marry a good man, but even I have to admit I never considered it would be this good. There are some things I do for him, that I can't advise another woman to try with her husband cos I know not every man's head is correct.

      When you're with an amazing man, it's very tempting to assume that it's all your doing and every man is sane; you're in a bubble. And I feel like you practise corporate law, so your job isn't helping. I don't mean this as an insult. I say this cos corporate law and ADR, the clients tend to be sane. Greedy and arrogant, maybe. But generally sane - they want quick resolutions, they know they might meet again so they try not to burn all their bridges, they're not trying to be adversarial for the heck of it. There's a temptation for lawyers like you who also have a good home life, to assume that tea and biscuits at a glossy table in a high-rise building overlooking Canary Wharf, will calm everyone's nerves. Ronalda, people are crazy. There are cases I've seen that make me thank God I'm married to my husband. Like I do a praise-fest on my own. If every married man was sensible, the problem that created the post that sparked this right of reply, wouldn't exist.

      You're talking submission with a careless man that doesn't even know where he's going in life? A man that is so ignorantly and brazenly stupid, that he can hurt his wife? So that tomorrow, he will empty their whole account and claim he's a Christian, then the wife will sleep on the streets?

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    8. Ivannah, you not only hit the nail on the head, your analysis left me reeling with laughter. Well said Sis! I can boldly say this right here is the first chronicle (of 2019) I've judiciously followed up on. I love everyone's input, most especially Ivannah's & Amebonawork.

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  58. Memo to Poster's wife

    Madam, please ensure you have personal savings apart from your joint account if you choose to continue with the joint account.

    I repeat, ensure you have personal savings
    I repeat, ensure you have personal savings
    I repeat, ensure you have personal savings
    I repeat, ensure you have personal savings
    I repeat, ensure you have personal savings
    I repeat, ensure you have personal savings
    I repeat, ensure you have personal savings
    I repeat, ensure you have personal savings
    I repeat, ensure you have personal savings
    I repeat, ensure you have personal savings
    I repeat, ensure you have personal savings

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    1. I'm 100% sure it was the man who initiated this joint account stuff so he can have uncontrolled access to her money. He obviously married her for papers.The poster's wife better have sense now.

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  59. What Kind of yeye reply is this. When and how did God ask you for money. I like your wife, she’s taking the right decision. Yeye reply. Jealousy man.

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  60. Mr husband, I don't want to be harsh on you with the reality from ur write up, but I'm still going to tell you the honest truth. My husband read this too and he's like WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH THIS MAN?
    You have this sense of entitlement that most Nigerian men who get married to Registered Nurses (RN) in America have! This is the simple reason they kill their wives! They feel she's earning more than me, I can do anything with OUR money , after all , it's our JOINT ACCOUNT & im the head of the home, I can use it for any needs I have.
    Oga, I'm very sure if you earned more than her, your type would not agree to a Joint Account, NEVER !!!!
    Secondly, you need to grow up! Be a responsible man!!!
    Not a wailing babyyyy!!! Sending in A reply is childish enough, but sending in a childish reply has thrown me off balance. I mean did a man just write that???? REALLY?
    You are paying the tithe from the joint account not because u love God too much, but becos u want ur church people to think ur salary is big, so 10% of both parties is what u are claiming as 10% of ur salary b4 ur church members and pastors. So u are claiming big boy status!
    2ndly, why didn't you pay the $250 birthday gift 4m ur own wallet? Aren't you working? Why must u send money to your mum 4m joint account? Is it every month you send money to your mum? Are u the only child?
    You're an ungrateful soul! A woman helped u pay ur fees, u still have the outstanding balance to pay & you re paying $250 to pastor? I'm sure it's A Christ embassy or winners church. Irrespective of the church, kneel down & beg ur wife for forgiveness! Why take out $250 4m a joint account without even informing her? Joint account is for running a home, not for buying gifts for pastors or sending to ur family! U have this sense of entitlement and it's difficult to correct men like you. Why not make ur church realize how much ur real salary is? Why not tell them u cannot afford $250 as gift but $100? Why forming a big man b4 everyone when you know you're not financially buoyant ? Na wa o. Even my husband is speechless and in shock! Mind u, he's a pastor

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    1. You hit the nail on the head. He's a proud fellow forming big man everywhere he goes and now needs to back up the mouth with action.
      May God deliver ALL good women from men like you.

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    2. ...and you had to call Christ Embassy and Winners in this your rant because your pastor husband is not pastoring there? E dey vex u that he is not the one that collected those $250 contributions...

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    3. I mentally and spiritually check out from churches that are so money focused to the detriment of the well-being of their members. 🚶🚶🚶

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    4. Why mention names of churches, you just spoilt your beautiful write up with that and justifying it by saying I mentally and spiritually checked the churches that are money focused when we all know that 90 percent of churches in Nigeria place emphasis on tithe and seed sowing...!you are not even different from the poster cos you and him have a whacked mentality

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  61. Dingbat horseband!

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  62. U guys should take it easy on d man

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  63. Contribute to your church and pay your tithe from your personal income and forget her money,you are very ungrateful,see what you wrote,you didn't force her to assist in paying your school debt,and you are so full of your self,I so dislike men like you, be shouting I'm a man,I'm a man with nothing to show for it,she doesn't share same beliefs with you and yet you went ahead and married her,how much are you earning that you will contribute $250 for pastors birthday,I hope you are not jealous she earns higher than you?your wife is not mean to you,she's simply wiser than you,don't scatter your home by your self.

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  64. Alternative Facts19 March 2019 at 16:47

    This marriage shouldn’t have happened in the first place. This is what you get when youre married to an unbeliever. Since you guys are planning together, you need her consent to do anything extra.

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    1. Between the so called Christian husband and the wife who is better? If this is what a Christian partner is then people are better off not marrying such. It’s not enough to be a Christian and for someone to not be a Christian to say unequally yoked. That’s a proud and condescending thing to say, especially because this man like many other identifying Christians are doing terrible things to their fellow human beings. If you need to call yourself a Christian to be a good person then there’s a serious problem somewhere

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    2. There’s nothing condescending about that. It simply means that you shouldn’t marry a person that doesn’t share in your beliefs

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    3. Honestly, this is how a lot of guys these days reason, home and abroad. Looking for a well established young lady to marry with the intent of controlling her and her finances.
      What a shame!

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    4. Well, your stating alternative facts, because this
      So called non- Christian woman is by far better than your so-called christin brother. Choke on that!!!!

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  65. Oga you are sick in the head, why dont you get an extra job to be able to pay and give money to the church since you are a CHEEERFUL GIVER. I WILL ADVICE THE WOMAN TO START SAVING SEPERATELY BECAUSE ONE YOU WILL TAKE THE WHOLE MONEY AND DASH YOUR PASTOR AND CHURCH.

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  66. If at any point you were typing this chronicle you were not ashamed of yourself, then I have nothing to tell you.

    $250 for birthday gift for YOUR pastor while YOUR woman is still struggling to pay YOUR debts? Oga, you're a selfish ingrate.

    I have no words. Be gone.

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  67. Where was the pastor and the church when you couldn't continue school and was in debt?Since you are obeying God,why aren't you providing for your family instead of taking from her?Women,shine your eyes and stop marrying men with baggage.A man who is in debt but is contributing 250$ for a pastors birthday.Religion is the opium of the masses Karl max

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  68. A woman is working hard to save for her future and you are giving pastor 250$ for birthday,are you sure you are sane?Giving pastor almost 100k naira.Where was it written in the Bible to celebrate birthday for pastor?My dear sister,please let this man take his responsibilities in the house and save your money,he is not a focused person.

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  69. "i didn't force her" Aye ma ni'ika o

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    1. That’s Nigerian men after they have sucked you dry. They will say’ I don’t ask you to do it’
      Ungrateful lot!!!!

      Scammers!!!

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  70. You ended up berating yourself, I had advised your wife to think about compromise, but honestly, you're very very very... I really can't find a word that wouldn't insult you. Seriously? you sent this in as a reply to redeem yourself! seriously???

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  71. This one too will come out if they call for man!???? I dey vex

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  72. Do not be unequally yoked. You see now?
    God please have mercy on your children and help us make the right decision always.

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    1. The woman make mistake unequally yoke with am. This one Na Christian for show off

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  73. I honestly believe in EQUALITY like in the full sense of the word. This one is not equality at all. I will never marry a man with debt, who wouldn’t bring as much as I bring to the table. I’m very sorry. All of this would have been discussed. Joint accounts should have both of you as signatories and not either or. There’s nothing wrong with joint account, if both of you are financially responsible and on the same page about what the monies from that account to be used for.

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  74. Mr I like to give to the church why don't you wait until you make your own money before you can start dashing whomever you wish to dash? When they talked about dashing pastor $250 why you no talk say u no get?
    Now I understand why madam is mad at you. She has enough load on her head already & you want to be playing father Christmas. If it was only the tithe I would have said ok let us plead with her on your behalf, but now you asking for too much

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    1. Why plead with her about tithe? Is that what the bible says about tithing?
      Tithe is from your income, not your spouse' income. Not from a contribution between you and your partner either.
      This man is reading his bible upside down obviously. They're the ones giving Christianity a bad name.

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    2. Alternative Facts19 March 2019 at 20:12

      That's not true.You can tithe as a family but it shouldn't be imposed. And you tithe before anything else not after. True believers understand that tithing is an opportunity to get blessed. You did yourself by being unequally yoked with an unbeliever. But here's my take; even though you're the head of the house, you need your wife's consent to tithe from the family's fund otherwise tithe first from your resources before making your own contribution. Whatever your your wife does not consent to, you'd have to do it from your own resources. This is really hard because your marriage is sitting on a faulty foundation. I suggest you pray for your wife. But you were wrong for taking the $250 from that budget without her consent. However,I think there's too much separation In this marriage, "your mother", "My pastor". In marriage everything is jointly owned. There's nothing like "My money" or "your money, it's "our money. It's tricky because even at that, nothing is forced. You plan, grow and build together. This seems like a tug of war or a battle for supremacy. It's a lot easier when marriage is founded on true love and respect, for the right reasons and with your kind.

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    3. @Alternative facts pls read 1 Cor 7:13. Christains have been marrying unbelievers and the apostles knew about it without condeming it. Apart from that, this man's acts are not christ like at all and he knows it.

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  75. Please pay your tithe in this manner; if your current salary is $500, take out 60%(joint account savings) and 10%(tithe) from the money and the rest is for your personal use. You shouldn't pay tithe from a joint account.

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    1. Alternative Facts19 March 2019 at 20:14

      Great comment! You made your point without bashing the man.

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  76. You see why it is not good to marry down. I pity poster's wife, he is just an egoistic fool.

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  77. Chaii see a man that married a sensible woman but cannot appreciate it. You are a child of God but you are bullying madam to pay tithe? Thank God she is not pretending, I may not support her decision about not paying tithe because of recent I started looking for people in dare need and give them my tithe, allow her to grow. You are
    Ungrateful
    Cunning
    Proud
    Have a sense of entitlement
    Selfish
    Please pray God to teach you how to be humble. Na wah oh! Probably she helped you to pay for her marriage abi? Madam stop paying the debt oh, let Oga solve his own problem, if you must assist pay a particular percentage, before you will become an ATM. Stop shouldering problems please, help as a woman. Oga if madam is no longer paying your debt she's justified, you said you didn't beg her abi? And did you feel insulted when she started paying off you debt. Why are you sending your mum $250 dollars? Weekly? That's much oh, ah ah. Ok oh. Madam please respect OGA oh. Don't get a head swell because you got this one right. Pray for him to also grow. Deal with your ego. I hate that Nigerian man ego Shit!!!

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  78. @poster..
    $250 is too much for your pastors bday... foodstamps is about $300 for a month for thos on welfare in the USA.
    $250 dollars is someone's monthly good money and you dash it to your pastor.God didnt order that.

    2. Tithe should be from your income, after which you budget the balance as you have both desired. It's not your call to pay tithe from a pool. That's not Gods injunction. Pay from your own earnings and if she decides to pay from hers fine, that's none of your bussiness. Then you both decide what to do with the balance after that is putting God first. Dont take from the pool.

    3. You didnt discuss tithe before marriage and now you are just realizing it is right. Brother you are wrong on all levels here. You cant fault her for going contrary to that injunction knowing fully well before marriage. She wasnt into such.

    4. You sound really uncouth and yes ungrateful..in your words,'I didn't force her" and now since she decided to stop help you with the fees you are suddenly mad at her. My dear you need deliverance

    5. She is not saying you shouldn't give to God she is saying dont force her to give to your god(pastor).
    Young man give to your pastor no wahala... but if you earn $2000 monthly and yo uh wish to give 1000 to your pastor ,no problem but just know that after removing your dashing money you then budget tey remainder either her remainder after she has removed her dashing money.

    5. You are not shameless, aswear down. Being a RN in the USA comes with a lot of sacrifice on her part and out of love she paid half of your debt. You are still claiming she is mean..my God, I pity your wife. I put it to you , you are an ungrateful human being. Nobody is saying you she be her servant but all you are angry about is because she is simply saying dont spend the money on unnecessary nonsense.
    Oga...do you have 410k ongoing, have you being able to put a downpayment for a house? The car you drive have you completely paid? You are here dashing $250 for pastor. You are just useless to say the least. Haba...have you opened a trust fund for your kids?
    You say she earns more than you.you are silly, jealousy and an apology for a
    husband.
    So she paid half your school fees, paid to file for adjustment of your status and you are still angry and silly.
    Mind you mr man she is not mean to you she is only allowing you to be the man by allowing you handle your responsibilities and you are calling her disrespectful. Oga handle your responsibilities as a man and stop allowing your wife babysit you. You are just petulant. Btw I understand the USA system well all this your talk is straight up nonsense..money that you have not finished earning by your self, that can be used for 2 weeks feeding at least naim you carry dash pastor. You sabi dash God ..you no sabi use money wey you earn for God you wan collect person own add join claim blessing from God..

    Posters wife hit me up ..click my name and send me a mail

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  79. Na wa oo. This reply get as e be.
    This man no get shame at all. You don't love your wife because if you do, you won't balance on top of her money, and be running your mouth.
    How can you go to a joint account, withdraw that amount of money just for pastors gift?
    Well.. I'll blame your wife cos it seems she is not only offsetting your debt, she is making sure you are wearing designers clothes, shoes and also pumping you with good food to the extent you started thinking like a big man!
    $250 for pastor, about to withdraw more for your Mother, more outstanding debts + sense of entitlement..... Madam wife, the Lord is thy strength.

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  80. I'm sure the reason you paid that $250 is cos you're trying to bribe God and buy a blessing. You are NOT a Christian. From tithing with someone else's money, your stupidity is increasing along with your sense of entitlement. Tomorrow, someone will think Daddy Freeze is being mean. Oga, you're a useless church boy that doesn't know God. You're definitely not a Christian. Ladies, learn from this - that a man goes to church doesn't mean he has sense or that he knows God. If you are stupid enough to try to buy your pastor's approval cos you think that's a ticket to heaven, use your own money. Better ask your wife's forgiveness for showing her such a BAD example of Christianity, cos you're not a man that a woman can trust and follow anywhere.

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  81. Joint account brings a lot of troubles in marriage even if its just savings but its still a lot od trouble. I do not have a joint account with my husband but each person knows what they should do. He pays the mortgage and i pay the bills but when i need extra cash i ask him and if he is short on cash i also assists. That way its much easier for me to send money to my family or friends without him being judgemental. I even used to donate to some of these messages that pass round the internet of people needing help but i don't have to bother my husband for that and i never tell him. Oga you have an entitlement mentality. You feel that your wife's money should be used at will because she is your wife. You guys have to agree on how you use the money and should be accepted by both parties. Dissolve that account and each person should take care of their responsibilities.

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  82. Bia this man I am not understanding, so someone is helping clear your debt and you are Paying for pastor's birthday because you are the one that gave birth to the pastor abi....mtcheeeeeew

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  83. Please please please! GOD DOES NOT NEED YOUR MONEY AND YOU ARE NOT OBEYING GOD! That tithe you are paying goes into your thieving pastor’s belly. Tithing is an old law and we are not under the law anymore. God will surely begin to punish those of you paying it and your pastors that are receiving it with all sorts of calamities because you cannot just obey one part of the law and ignore the rest. Useless people. Your pastors keep feeding fat off you people and you all keep getting poorer by the day.

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  84. Gentleman, you are doing exactly what any man in your shoes would do. Let's call a spade a spade:

    1. Shebi you were on your own minding your business jeje when Mother Teresa stepped in like bangdadadang and offered to clear your gbese, work overtime to pay your fees and even open joint account to take care of utilities? You kukuma didn't force her as you've rightly stated.

    2. Madam Obioma RN still operated joint account and didn't ensure that the mandate requires both your signatures before a withdrawal is made? Oh sorry! You used the credit card on your Pastor's POS to donate the ordinary $250 for Pastor's birthday gift that she is now ranting about. A whole Pastor!! Your wife should fear God na. Haba!

    3. Instead of closing the account after that $250 debit, she is now punishing you by not allowing you send money to mama and your extended family in Ogbomosho abi Agbor? Imagine! Later now, she will be claiming she loves you. Mtscheww.

    4. What's your business with her religious inclination? You are the head of the family and she must join you to pay tithe from your joint account! That's what is expected of a real African woman who is submissive to her husband and wants to remain married. Shikena!

    5. She should be grateful to God she met you. She needs a very smart man like you to call 'husband' abi does she think husbands grow on trees? Shebi she doesn't know that after you are done with school you guys will need to review some rules.

    6. I believe you have "discussed" about not starting a family until you are done with school abi? Sharp guy!

    Memo to Madam Poster: Shebi you want to use your money and time to be playing BetNaija ni? You Gon' Learn!

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    1. Hahahaha oshey ! Sarcasm at its best

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    2. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
      Iya niyen Amebonawork maami 🙌🙌🙌

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  85. na only anonymous dy comment here

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  86. The first, major and root cause mistake you made was marrying her. The bible clearly stated that "can 2 walk together except they be agree"?
    Ones spiritual belief is an integral part of a marriage and if u are not on the same page together, there will be a big vacuum.
    Since you have already made this mistake, here is my proposition.
    Firstly, you have to have an understanding of tithe. The 10% is paid from your total income not a fraction. In your case, at the end of each pay, you ought to deduct the 10% to God before any other deductions. And trust God for the blessings of the tithe, by meditating on Malachi 3v10-12. And confessing it. It works like magic if you believe.
    But note that, if you don't pay the tithe rightly, there is no blessing. It must be 10% from the whole income (yours).
    Now, concerning doing it jointly, how can u ask someone to pay her 10% to The God she dosent believe in? Do you think God is hungry or needs our money more than our salvation, or how can she even be blessed for doing so when she dosent believe?
    You should start by introducing her to God by both your words, bible and especially your character. Let her find God and leave the rest.
    Moreso, why did you marry her? Is It for financial assistance or It is a conditional marriage? If she Stops paying your debt, true God to pay it.
    You have brought disrespect to God and his servants (Pastors) by this your act.
    Whatever you want to give to God and your Pastor, kindly do it from your personal income, not the joint. And what you are doing for them is very good and the blessings will soon be manifest. But, do it from your personal income.
    Try and man up by footing your bills and debts. Live within your income. Most of this insults and disrespect wouldn't jab been there if you were not seeking her financial assistance.

    Madam, the man is the head of the home. Not you. You seem very domineering and controlling. And you are clearly abusing and challenging his belief.
    Marriage though two equal partners, there is a leader and a head. It is the man. You have no respect for your husband. If you continue this way, your marriage will hit the rock very soon.

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    1. There is no marriage sef , the man is with her because of her money.

      Madam, please,DO NOT contribute to any joint project here in Nigeria for now. I don tell you, your hubby na guy man o. Use your sense, please. I even fear for your life . I will always remember you in prayers. May God protect you.

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    2. Can you read ? This was written by the husband.
      And Mr Good Christian, it’s uour fellow Christian brother living above his means, letting his wife pay off his debt while donating money he doesn’t have to the pastor. The person who’s unequally yoked is the wife

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    3. Alternative Facts19 March 2019 at 20:23

      Best comment!

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    4. Highly favoured, you had to use your biz id to write that madness up there?

      When they tell you, peeps, to go to school, you'll refuse and be doing nonsense upandan, see as you disgrace your business!


      Wife of the poster, if you like your life, you need to leave this entitled leech; a pond scum!... he is going to kill you soon.

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    5. Madam Duvet and bedsheets. I am very very concerned you’re using your business handle to post such a comment.

      You’ve given the husband a pat on the wrist and a hug but stripped the wife naked with your words because it seems he’s on the side of God. Afterall his tithes and gifts are for God, therefore he is your “brother in Christ” married to an “unbeliever”. I see through your words. You are more mean than the poster’s husband because you’re cunningly devious. Bloody serpent tongue.

      I sincerely feel sorry for you and the people you’ll raise.

      Ivannah

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    6. What is that one up there yarning?? She is domineering because she is airing her view?? Abusing his belief??? Shut up if you don't know what to say.

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  87. The wife resent this again,In another format.

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  88. The wife is a moron. How can you marry such a nincompoop? Sell the man's kidneys and go marry a man. She married a fool.

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  89. The best thing now is for the wife to separate her money from her husband’s own, as much as I love my hubby, I can never operate a joint account with him. Love never shack me reach that level. Madam please let your husband give his pastor all his own money, don’t ever join him in giving any pastor birthday gift, I talk to God directly and He has never failed me, all this rubbish you people are doing with all these your olojukokoro(greedy) will one day bite you in the butt, who told you God needs your money, Na your pastors dey flex on top all these tithes and offerings! You better wake up

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  90. Bros, you are selfishly foolish. There is nothing wrong with tithing if it is your income. Mind you, you are a man and she is busy slaving for you to have a good future and the thank you you can think of is to take out savings from your joint account to sponsor pastor because you love giving? The things women see in the name of marriage dry tire me. Joint account is it not for running your family? Plz, I know you love God so much and that is why I will advise you to sit down and study your Bible so you can obtain financial sense. Stop hiding behind religion to perpetrate nonsense. Why didn't wait until u finish your study and get a job before you marry? You can work as a student and spend from there.

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  91. Personally, I detest feeding, clothing or picking a man's bill, even if I am the Chair of World Bank Inc. A man should and must work to take care of his needs. That is what makes a man, not his penis. People don't have conscience at all. Go to that same pastor and ask for your school fees or even tell him you want to celebrate your birthday and need his contribution as your pastor. Haha!!! Where is the place of maturity before marriage? Why do we have slot of physically mature men without emotional and financial maturity? If an my dime you spend like that for rubbish, even your MA go tell me thanks by the time she sees my hand work on you.

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  92. Pls o.u guys should take it easy with d insults o.na person husband be this oo

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  93. Please people, take it easy with the cursing. Dear poster I advise you tithe only with your own income and watch the lord embarrass you financially. As for the pastor's birthday , since you both share a joint account you should have discussed with her before taking the money. Wifey you shouldn't disrespect your husband because you earn more money than him , I can understand if you dont share the same beliefs as him when it comes to religion,but if he chooses to serve God with his income too let him do that peacefully. Remember you are both in this marriage together. I am also a Nurse made way more than my husband. I supported him a 100% financially until I suddenly became paralyzed from working too hard/ stress and the table turned around . My husband stood by me throughout my ordeal. Thank God I'm back on my feet now , but I do not make as much money now cos I'm not picking up much shift. My husband makes more than me now and never withhold/ deny me anything. Girl pls do not listen to the people on this blogoooo. Support ur husband, if you think his giving away too much to the church/ family members/ or any organization talk I repeat talk to him nicely about it and make him see reasons why he shouldn't. This is my advice. Sorry people for the mistakes I am at work but just had to chip in .

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    1. I am sure your husband did not squander your money and appreciated you. This is different.

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  94. Madam listen very well, please the kind of mentality this man have requires that u stop joint account now cos he already believe u have and it must be squandered .infact he already told people there's money and want to show them he can spend it. He is in ur life cos of that money so be careful. U can only help him get a good job if u can but I know if he gets a good job he may also leave u. He needs to appreciate you first for d one ur already doinh

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  95. hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm, get as this story be. Is real? ok o

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  96. Let me quote him” She is doing this because she is earning more than me😒😒Oh shut up!!!! Ur wife is very nice i swear down!! Do u know what it takes to work for 12 hours as an RN nurse?? sometimes up to 18hours!! They be brainwashed u in dat church u don’t have brain again na! mtcheewww!! See ehhh by d time u loose ur wife because of all these pastor dis church dat eee i will see if pastor will give u his own wife. U better receive brain now because ur write up is annoying ☹️Seriously 250 dollars contribution for pastors bday 😳😳nd u wanna send money to ur mom dat same week😩😩. Your wife is niccceeee!!! You can’t try dis shit with me .

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  97. Madam listen very well, please the kind of mentality this man have requires that u stop joint account now cos he already believe u have and it must be squandered .infact he already told people there's money and want to show them he can spend it. He is in ur life cos of that money so be careful. U can only help him get a good job if u can but I know if he gets a good job he may also leave u. He needs to appreciate you first for d one ur already doinh

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    1. Oga, giving is a good thing likewise tithing which I believe in both but not the way you're going about it.
      It's not compulsory to gift you Pastor when you dont have enough of your own. The joint account is strictly for family affair and what you spent on wasn't for family in anyway. Also, you have debts and someone is assisting you to settle it. So, you should be grateful and be prudent in your giving until you clear off your debt.
      Pay your tithe from your own salary and not from the joint account. Do not allow this matter to scatter your home.

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  98. Intact this guy has started saving from madam already cos me I don't believe this whole amount was given to pastor

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  99. Madam, please stop supporting him financially. STOP NOW!!!

    Did you see what wrote in the 2nd line? He said he didn’t force you to take up the bill. This guy is ready to deny you and make you look bad despite all your sacrifices. Besides, why are you running a joint account with a psychopath like this? This will only bring trouble. He will use your own money to control you. Can’t you see he is a control freak?

    Infact, stop sharing bills with him. Let him pay for everything, since he can give his pastor $250 without your approval and also send money to his mother. Withdraw all your money from the joint account and run your own account. Wise up. This man is up to no good.

    Instead of him to be on his knees begging his wife, he came up here replying his wife’s chronicle. Ontop wetin? Jobless fool!!! I’m sooooooo angryyyyyy!!!!

    I don’t know him, but i’m sure he will be a talkative. And guess what? I hate men that talk too much. I just can’t stand them and I know this guy is one of them. Mtcheeeeww.

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  100. Dear Ladies,
    Please avoid joint account; it's a trap. Most men don't have a good saving culture. Have your own account and save for your kids education. Remember that one day you will grow old and won't be able to work. Some men are so wicked that they can throw tantrum anytime they need money and it's not forth coming. Our men should wake up from their slumber ..Have. what is happening in this generation?
    I am sure that the $250 you gave was to show off..monkey. Who told you that it compulsory that you must give towards a Pastor's birthday?? I have been dealt with in the past because of joint account and I promised myself that I will never get in involve in such a thing again. Most men are scum.

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  101. Nothing is as terrible as not being on Par intellectually with your partner.I think pastors are now competing with politician for wealth. Your fellow man use word of mouth collect 250dollars from you with your outstanding debts and you're angry at your wife, your entitlement mentality is irritating.
    What of your pastor's wife birthday???
    I really pity her because if this is the kind of man she has to put up with for the rest of her life then she's is in trouble.
    I am sure you're waiting her 10yrs to make millions so that you can take her out... oponu!
    Sit there and rant like the unreasonable child that you are.
    oloriburuku!!!

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  102. This man is definitely not a Christian. you saw a Registered Nurse and quickly married with the intention of swindling her and one of the ways you achieved this was the joint account..
    Infact I put it to you that you planned with your pastor to milk your wife.
    These pastors are one of the most manipulative beings on earth who are in the business of hunting individuals without wits and mesmerizing them until they become deluded.
    *someone should involve daddy freeze...mbok*

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  103. Guys! Let’s just take a step back right!

    If this guy was in the woman’s shoes I.e higher earner and contributed more and the wife wanted tithes money 10% and gift for pastor and money for her mum and he could afford it.....but complained and said no,y’all would have come at him

    I am a woman, I have been in her shoes I.e higher earner. I earned 3 times more than hubby. He made a career change and now earns more than me. If I was complaining like the wife, how would I be treated now that he earns more than 1 do!

    Mr Husband and Mrs wife, don’t focus on negative comments. You guys know each other and ultimately know if the sacrifice is worth it. Mrs Wife, if he is a good man and you KNOW he’s worth it, this is a minor!

    Mr Husband maybe slow down with your requests but Madam, pls and pls.....remember tables TURN

    B

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    1. Is your husband paying off your school debt by working overtime and giving you gift for pastor and taking care of your mother and feeding you be real

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    2. Never encourage someone to take a huge risk because it worked for you. I'm sure your husband was not this kind of man. Plus the dynamics are not the same if a man is the higher earner: the man can dictate how the woman spends his money but if a Nigerian woman dictates how her own money should be spent she's called evil and disrespectful. And when a woman is the breadwinner she's still expected to do all the housework etc. As you can see the dynamics are different because men and women are seen differently. Nigerian women all over the world often get mistreated, cheated on and bullied out of their own wealth because they were trying to prove submissive and loyal. In yesterday's post the woman later added that the husband reported the wife to his mum and the mum asked the wife to give her husband her whole salary. This is not the man you want to be defending.

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    3. No. This sounds different. This man emotionally abuses the wife. He is a whiner. He has already reported her to his mother and thinks she is mean. This woman works her butt off to ph his student loan just so their credit isn’t adversely affected and still contributed the same percentage to their joint account. Isn’t that the same thing he should do with any extraneous bill? Spend it from his remaining salary?
      This is a man that is manipulative and it shows!

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  104. Lazy man, madam you have enterne one chance. If I were you I will close that account and stop paying this ungrateful man's bills.

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  105. Mr poster u are VERY VERY STUPID! Where was ur pastor and church members when u dropped out of school. Oh! They didn’t think of contributing to help u out abi? But u were asked to contribute to celebrate ur pastor’s birthday and u did, nna i bu ewu ( u are a goat) anu Mpama.
    Of course you have already taken ur mother’s monthly allowance and donated to the church since you don’t know that helping a family member is still part of tithing. If u feel helping a family member is not considered tithing then give the money to the needy or orphanage, all na contributing to someone’s life.
    See as I dey vex for another person matter 😡

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  106. Mr poster sorry for all the insult you caused for your self next time press ignore botton you hear.

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  107. Madam better shine your eyes wella. This guy is using ur status to shine. He hasn’t even paid u back ur money and he made u to have joint account and taking from it to settle his family members and his pastors. Just have it at the back of ur mind that he’s in that marriage because he feels indebted to you AND marrying you u to complete his papers. He is a user. Open your eyes madam and receive sense.

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  108. I don’t still understand why ladies marry this kind of me(good sex?Because he is just a lazy ass hoe. Your wife is RN and earns more(you are not ashamed as a man to depend on your wife income(poor woman that will salve for you).

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  109. Mr you are so fucking dumb dumb and shameless,I am ashamed on your behalf like WTF did I just read?even though I stopped at where u said u were told to contribute 250dollars for your pastor's birthday,gosh you have.You have the brain of a snail,as in you typed this and sent?Didn't you read this nonsense you wrote befor sending to Stella?See you dead reply,if you were my son i would have disowned you anu mpana.

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  110. It obvious this guy is out of his mind.Can some slap him out of his sleep?He needs brain reset.

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  111. Oga, please pay tithe only from your personal money.

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  112. Cheiii see comments.
    I didnt see ceaser,teejay,chike and other men comment on this post.

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  113. Very useless poor arrogant entitled spoilt lazy irresponsible brainwashed goat.
    God please do not let me enter the hand of this kind of human being in Jesus name! Amen

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  114. Honestly, some wives do have them. First, I tithe. But, tithe is personal. So your summary statement that the tithe should be paid on the money in the joint acct is surprising unless both have decided to tithe. Next, I am shocked by the statement that you like to give to the church in these circumstances. Yes, by all means we have things we like to do. Does that mean we can do everything we like? No. Are you a child? You have not settled basic things but you are giving in to your desire to give and at your wife's expense without her concurrence? Are you listening to yourself? It is people like you that scare people out of joint account in marriage. Then you are shocked that she is annoyned? If she is talking because of the money she earns kuku leave her and go and earn your own. I can't even believe this drivel. I dislike folks like you. I know your type. A woman cannot earn higher money in peace instead of facing the crux of any argument money related or not you will always be quick to say it is because she earns more. So you manipulate her emotionally into agreeing to things she won't ordinarily do because she does not want to hear that unfair accusation. So she learns to live with her head bowed just for peace. My friend stop it! I am a man with 3 daughters no sons and men like you give men a bad name. You have a good woman. Handle her with care and show her love and she will do even what you have not asked for joyfully. After all by your own admission she offered to pay your debt without force. So you think she is a fool? You want to turn her to a meal ticket? Thank God she was raised by a figure like me who taught her to recognize bull shit and call it quick. If you like use your hand to spoil your good fortune. Mr. I like to give!

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  115. Oge what u did is wrong before taking that money u should have inform her discuss it with her before given ur pastor for just birthday infact u need to beg her ask forgiveness.

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