STAND ALONE NARRATIVE
ADVICE NEEDED
I lost my dad in October 2025 and buried him in December and my mum in-law who lives in same town was not present at his burial...
Since the burial day, she has not called me to find out how everything went till I visited her last week during the festive season after I went to visit my mum and after her son begged and begged me, but the main truth I will still not call her again because,for the past few months now that she stopped calling me,she and her son have been communicating well, but since I went to visit her now,once she calls her son and he doesn't pick...next thing she'll start calling me ...
I want us to continue the no call life style because I'm comfortable with it although I'm still thinking about the best way to navigate this especially this new year....
You dont need to be friends with her since she lacks empathy.....Find out from your husband why he is not picking her calls and tell him not to allow her put you in the middles cos next you will hear its cause of you the son stopped picking her calls....
If your hubby is around when next she calls, pick and just say "hold on", give him the phone. If it continues like this,she will stop calling you.
ReplyDeleteI feel that is disrespect, it’s better she doesnt pick at all.
DeleteWell said @16:40
DeleteJesus, pls help us always
DeleteSome folks as they get older become quite cold. I’m not sure if it is the cellular changes involved in the aging process, grappling with their mortality, decline in health, or just returning to their true nature, but it is quite common. Not everyone becomes the warm, kind, and wise elder. Most times it’s nothing personal, just nature. Forgive her, let it go, pray for her, and keep your distance.
ReplyDeleteBut she didnt get cold towards her son, wow. See excuse for bad behaviour oo. Selective coldness.
DeleteCold??? It was a whole human that died, not a chicken, This is her inlaw. The poster should stay away from that wicked woman. Old age is no excuse.
DeleteIf she calls, don't pick. If she asks through your husband why you dont pick when she calls, tell her your phone is on silent.
ReplyDeleteIf your husband tries to annoy you cos of that, remind him how he couldn't make his come come for your dads burial.
How can you not show up for something that important and you are calling my phone. Your husband nor dey try.
To love another person pikin na war for some people, too bad. Whether people need to switch to mother inlaw's sister or father in law's sister if mother in law dey mean
ReplyDeleteWell, just keep being you. And continue with what is best.. Before, I will say, avoid troubles, but now ehn, I speak my mind & stand on it.
ReplyDeleteCan't allow anybody Yaminiweyrey..
insensitive people grow old too
Good, as Stella said. Don't be in the middle trying to creating enmity. Just ask your husband why he is not taking her calls.
ReplyDeletePoster please forgive her genuinely. In this part of the world,most elderly people find it hard to say sorry.
ReplyDeleteContinue being polite for your peace of mind.
ReplyDeletePick your call and give her son the phone. Don't worry yourself about her.
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