Sometimes pushing doesnt happen.....
this isn't my first time writing you though I just decided to send in my Labour room story(this is my first child)
I had a very very easy pregnancy,no morning sickness,or swollen feet I was still very active till the day I put to bed,everyone kept commenting on how strong and lucky I was hehe...
I had a very very easy pregnancy,no morning sickness,or swollen feet I was still very active till the day I put to bed,everyone kept commenting on how strong and lucky I was hehe...
I had read every labour room story on your blog and stories online(i can assure you google can be scary sometimes)prior to me giving birth in trying to prepare myself for the d day.
I first registered at a general hospital and then a private hospital close to home for antenatal hubby didnt want to take any risk so I was visiting both places till my due date..
AT the private hospital it was discovered I had symptoms of pre eclampsia but I didn't have any swelling my bp was just high on and off from the 5th month till I gave birth..
Fast forward to my due date I kept waiting for something to happen..but nothing happened..I went to the hospital because his kicking had reduced,they checked and said all was okay that my baby wasn't just ready to come out so I went back home.
Exactly a week after my due date.i woke up in the morning as usual wanted to pee but as i stood up my water broke.i knew because I couldn't hold it in I didn't see any show or maybe I missed it....hubby had gone to work already,I was home alone so I thought I'd just wait since from all the stories I read it's until I started feeling pains before there was any need to go to the hospital but I had a second thought and decided to call my husband(I am glad I did)..
he sends someone to take me to the private hospital immediately I was even telling him that we should wait a bit till I start feeling pains since the hospital was about 20mins from our place but he ignored me.anyways I carried my wobbly self to the car and I got to the hospital by this time I had called my mum and other family members..i was taken to my room where a doctor with a nurse came in checked my bp wrote something down then proceeded to dip his gloved hands in my vjayjay,he then wrote something down after.
I was wondering what he was writing but I was also watching Africa magic to distract myself..I was getting ready for the "pains and pushing"..
He and the nurse stepped out and left me alone..hubby got to my room about 30minutes later..stayed with me watching tv..I was getting hungry as I hadn't eaten so I told him to go get me food...the next thing a nurse came in with the hospital gown and asked me to change that I would soon go to the Labour room..I now told her soon ke that I haven't felt anything yet plus I was waiting for food .infact the water was till coming out small small..
she just smiled and left..
I was now wondering whats going on..called hubby he didn't pick,called my mum she just got there and came to my room..gisted a bit then left..30minutes later a man came in and started asking if i have had a surgery before,if i reacted to any drugs ..I answered both saying no but why was he asking he now said he has to ask because I was going to have any epidural because I was doing a cs..
I looked at him like and said sir you have the wrong room I àm not having a cs.
He left then a nurse came in and said lets go to the theatre ;I'm still confused but followed her..when we got there I was asked to sit on the bed then my doctor came in and said we have to do a cs..your bp is too high and your baby is too big..my fear tripled..then I was given the epidural at my spine..it didn't work fast enough because I wasn't completely numb.i dont know what he added but then I went numb,my bp kept rising because I was so scared till now I don't know why.I felt him been brought out and heard his cry but I didn't see him..I felt the doctor sewing me close but it wasn't pain it just felt like someone pulling at my tummy..
Apparently everybody knew I was going to do a cs but me..that's why hubby didnt come back even my mum was told when she came but didn't tell me..their job was to make me relax a bit before the Anaesthesiologist got to the hospital..
After everything ..I'm back in my room my baby in his bed beside me..family members and friends coming in to congratulate me but all I felt was PAIN..
After about 4 days I was finally able to breast feed my son the nurses had to give him formula because he was too big..he wieghed 4.5kg and my milk wasn't coming out well yet plus I was in pain..
I didn't feel that bond when I saw him ,the bond I read about in stories..it took me about a week before I could feel anything asides pain and then I understood what they meant ..I would do anything to protect him..I pray God keeps us all alive to see our children and children's children..he is one now and I love him so dearly.
Thanks for reading my epistle.
Stella I am a huge fan..
Kisses to you!!!..I still dont get it how people in Nigeria treat CS like a curse,like there is something wrong if you lined up for CS?Do you know how many women have died because they refused CS and wanted to birth like the Hebrew woman?hmmmmm,thank God for you!
Please renew your mindset concerning it,if you say its expensive i will understand better than any other excuse!
Nothing as scary and as mind blowing as childbirth! God bless us mothers. For all those who are looking for the fruit of the womb, you will birth all the babies you want and God will give you the means to take good care of them.
ReplyDeleteCongratulations poster. May God make your son a blessing to his family and his generation. But gaskia your doctors acted so unprofessional. They should have counselled you and seek your consent for the surgery before even telling your husband or your mum. Its your right as a patient to know you're going to have surgery done and why it is necessary. The psychological counselling would have reassured you before the surgery thereby allying your anxiety intraop. They can actually be sued for infringing on your fundamental human right. Who just walk up to a pregnant mother and tell her you're having cs without first explaining every every to her before she was taken into the operation room? I mean who does that? Anyway, congratulations once again.
ReplyDeletePls our pregnant mothers in the house endeavor to stick to one good hospital ooh. Doing anti natal in two different hospitals always bring confusion that could be detrimental to the health of the mother or child. One of patient lost her baby on Thursday (baby weighs 4.45kg) but because she was doing anc with us and one other hospital the size of the baby was not detected on time. She didn't do scan with us, she did with that other hospital and they didn't tell her the accurate weight of the child. Imagine pushing that kind of big baby? We lost the child ooh. Come and see every body in the labour ward crying. This couple have bn TTC for long only to conceived and lost the baby due to wrong information from scan given by that other hospital.
It is well jare..
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DeleteMay God give them another one that will stay
You should have repeated the scan in your own hospital. Even the abdomen would have pointed to the fact that the baby would likely to be big. This is a precious baby that should have made you guys to dot all your i's and cross all your Ts. This is not pleasant to hear at all.
DeleteThanks...yes If I had stayed with one hospital they would have monitored me better..their reason for not telling me was because they didn't want my no higher than it was..I pray the couple who lost theirs will be blessed with double
DeleteHow can u come and blame the other hospital for the negligence and gross misconduct of ur hospital??? Only shows all of u in that hospital are incompetent. Because common how can u not do ur own scan and blood tests? Like that is supposed to be routine. Your complete incompetence and gross misconduct made a couple loose their child. Your hospital should be sued. Nonsense!
DeleteWhat did I just read? Nurse Eliza! What kind of hell hole hospital do you work for? How do you take on a patient and not request for scan all the period she attended antenatal? The way you've laid the blame on the victim shows you didn't learn anything from this. You lot killed that baby. It is your duty to monitor the baby's heartbeat once she came in for delivery and recommend CS if the woman's pelvic is too small (which should have been noted during antenatal) or labour goes on for too long and the baby starts getting distressed. You are a butcher not a healthcare worker. Better go back for training or the careless treatment you give patients will be visited upon yours.
DeleteThe size of the baby is 4.45kg. My sister delivered 4.5kg with zero tear. There is no fixed rule!not
You treat each patient based on their medical history/how things progress. The and nurses that handled her case should be prosecuted.
Anon, there is nothing wrong in having 2 hospitals. That is the wise thing to do in Nigeria wjerw quack medical personnel a plenty. Second and even third opinions becomes very important.
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ReplyDeleteBe happybu and ur baby are safe and stop whining.
Congrats o. I thank God for your life and the life of your baby. I don't understand why una dey fear CS. Me, I booked an elective CS sharpish when I discovered I was pregnant as I was told my pelvis was very small. I fear toto that will be busted and stitched up and then become as wide and the grand canyon. My husband sef was secretly happy. I just made sure I had a lot of extra help for a week after delivery.
ReplyDeleteThanks sis..funny enough i always wanted cs in my mind but you know how our people are,they kept saying you will give birth like the hebrew woman and i said amen..I wasn't scared because of the cs itself but the pain afterwards,my threshold for pain is low..I should have pointed that out in the story.
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ReplyDeleteMay God bless all mothers. Abiyamo tooto.
ReplyDeleteCongrats, had CS with my second child. At 39weeks I went for anc and I was told to wait, the doctor said something was wrong with the baby. She needed to check her heartbeat.omo Fear grip me ooo lol! I na so the doctor begin Tori poo, to cut the story short,she convinced me that it was the solution as for the baby was breathing heavily and so as not to loose her, the CS was needed,i can not be induce because the child was breech. Thank God today she is fine though she came out very hot and we were asked not to wear her any cloth.
ReplyDeleteNo be small thing, mothers are really trying. I pray that someday we too will experience the joy of motherhood.
ReplyDeleteThanks Stella for posting.. I have nothing against cs.infact it was my preferred method from the beginning because I didn't want my vjayjay to expand(according to stories I have read)..i was just scared of the pain afterwards..i can't stand pain..but you are right cs is treated like a curse..when older people ask how you have birth and you say cs the look they give sometimes is like oh ok but if you say natural delivery they go oh wow you are strong o..
ReplyDeleteCongratulations poster. I am just confused as to why your husband and mum didn't tell you. Not having them by your side would only make you panic so it would have been better if you heard it from one of them. Are husbands not allowed to be with their wives during CS in Nigeria?
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ReplyDeleteCongratulations.when I look back I wish I opted for cs too.pushing a 4.2kg baby destroyed my vagina despite given episiotomy.dint heal properly until the fifth month,in all it wasn't easy.its been over two years now n I still remember n feel scared of another labour.I think once it's known that the baby is on the big side CS should be encouraged.
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ReplyDeleteWhat type if hospital do you work in that specialises in recording death and near fatal accidents especially when it comes to Pregnant women.
On your first post, your people embarked on emergency CS for a woman with low PVC and she still ended up losing so much blood during surgery while you practiced how to give anaesthesia on her spine. I would have thought with such a serious case, they will get a specialist to administer spinal injection and they will be more careful during surgery to avoid her losing so much blood.
On this post, your hospital embarked on vaginal delivery without doing ground work like conducting a scan to know how big the baby is and the measurement of the pelvic. A 4.5kg baby is not an excuse for CS. Yes we are trying to remove the stigma attached to CS but not every case of delivery should take the CS route. Not every case of maternal mortality and infant death is as a result of the woman insisting on vaginal delivery. Let us be accountable and blame doctors, consultant and nurses when necessary. Let the doctors and nurses be accountable and recognize their errors so it will not repeat itself, not dropping moral stories to justify their carelessness whenever death occurs.
Until Patients start suing hospitals in Nigeria and the hospitals have to pay through their noses, such carelessness will not abate.
KING XOXO MYSTERY
If I had commented when I wanted to I would have been very rude. It’s painful how she is proudly sharing her experience in that abattoir she is tagging as a hospital. If people can afford it please have your child out of the country or use lagoon hospital. Rubbish!
DeleteCongrats poster on your bundle of joy.The part that got to me was where you said your water broke and you had wanted to stay back till you felt pains.Once your water breaks,please head to the hospital at once,its very risky to stay back when membrane has ruptured as that could endanger the life of the baby,infections and all.
ReplyDeleteWow congratulations dear. May God bless and keep you.
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