Tonto Dike has voiced out her opinion on her son calling strangers Aunt and Uncle and she wants to know what you think concerning this....
Well she is right in a way...Making your kids call outsiders Aunt and Uncle makes them develop trust for complete strangers...Only Family members should be called Aunt or Uncle and that is the Orientation my boys have,every other person they refer to politely....
I also think when you distance your kids from strangers,abuse will be less....
Drama queen of the year from one drama to another
ReplyDeleteI agree with you Stella. But Tonto didn't state that as her reason. Knowing Tonto, her reason might just be arrogance or rudeness😏
DeleteHahaha,kids get molested mostly by close family; the same ones you want them to call Aunty and Uncle...
DeleteAnon 13:24. Very good observation.My kids call elders aunty and uncle. Every mallam to his kettle
DeleteAnonymous 13:24 your very correct o. Uncles and Aunties molesting children anyhow.
DeleteVery important point.Unfortunately most abuse is from those close to the child!
DeleteAnty that rock her boat.
ReplyDeleteI agree with drama queen this time
ReplyDeleteMy point exactly, in d East where i come from, back in d days we call u by ur name,but with so much respect that pple don't notice anything wrong , wen they start d aunty uncle thing, they seem to develop trust easily. U r not related to me ma'am so pls, my child will call u MRS, MISS or MR, with politeness and her head slightly down , not looking u in d eyes while addressing u. I went to a convent sch,wen we want to greet d Revd sisters we junofleb( spelling is wrong o) as in slightly bend our kness and greet . Biko no aunty or uncle .
ReplyDeleteThe word is 'genuflect'
DeleteIt is genuflex it is a medical term that refers to bending of the knee joint. Genu (knee) flexion (to bend)
DeleteSorry I couldn't help it...junofleb??? Hahahahaha
DeleteNo vex sey I laugh I know u said the spelling is wrong but Menh! Junofleb?????
Anon 15:35, Nice Mum is right. It's GENUFLECT not genuflex.
DeleteNice mum u have my love. Kisses .that's anon15;35 .16;14 no b small thing, u no see as I first talk say I no sabi o,I no b Colin's o, wey dey Spell with conference. Thanks at Skd biggest fan.
DeleteSDK biggest fan, genuflect and genuflexion are both correct. They mean the same thing. Check knee genuflexion it is another name for genuflect. You all should look up meanings before saying that someone is wrong. You know the one you know, anon knows the one he/knows. I just realized they mean the same thing myself.
DeleteWhatever.... Who she EPP?
ReplyDeleteI disagree with you Stella!
ReplyDeleteIts become a norm to call "respectable" strangers Uncle or Aunty, i'm not saying its ethically right but its been imbedded in pupils from our nursery schools... & we grow up to know the difference & doesnt form any bond of trust or mental relation. The true blood related uncles & aunties, are they completely trust worthy? We should teach our kids that blood ties & trust doesnt go hand in hand.
I already feel sorry for this kid, tonto will shape/bend his mind towards her mental carrying capacity of what she interpretes as normal & acceptable in her dictionary.
Oxygen your head dey house
DeleteI disagree with you oxygen. My kids no to only call family members aunt or uncle. Any other person is Mr,Miss,Mrs . And 5hats what their school teachers also. All this uncle and aunt rubbish started from schools. Tontolet is actually right this time around.
DeleteOxygen making sense..
DeleteWhy should this even be an argument. Auntie and Uncle are both English words, please let's stick with the original meaning. Na so drug abuse take start o, you know the meaning of a word but you want to use it how you like, that is abuse.
DeleteWrong! Wrong!! Wrong!! It’s a culture that has perpetuated the evil of abuse even from teachers.
DeleteMy kids are 11 and 12 now and I raised th to not call teachers ‘uncles and aunty’. One of the reasons I also chose the school o chose for them was that the school doesn’t let any child call teacher ‘uncle or Aunty; it’s ‘Ms, Mrs or Mr’
My friends they would add, Ma, Ma’am or sir. Mummy so and so, for close friends whom they’re friends with the kids too..
Then family get the ‘aunty’ and ‘uncle. Also including sisters in-laws and cousins. I always always explain the relationship.
And we started talking ‘abuse/ molestation right from when they could talk and name their body parts
Please dont disturb mothers with all these your trivial issues, we're happy in our homes & more challenges in family, you want to stop ur son from looking at strangers in the eye while talking thats up to you... aunty and uncle has been around for generations, u alwasy have a project at hand to solve, last week was ur marriage
ReplyDeleteShe's right. What happens to MR./MS./MRS etc? Why call a total stranger aunty or uncle. The 1st time I came into a contact with a Nigerian and the person though older than me called me aunty, I was so pissed.
ReplyDeleteI was also pissed and like...what's that, someone explained that its respect I shouldn't vex oo
DeleteShe is so right. I raise my children like this too, most of the time is these strange uncle,aunty and brother that molests them.
ReplyDeleteIf this is the sole reason y you are raising ur kids like that, then i feel you are wrong, because statistics show that kids get molested more often by family members than total strangers, reason being that they tend to trust family members more than strangers.
DeleteThis days family uncles and aunties are the main abusers, even fathers and mothers. We grew up calling everybody aunty and uncle. But it's all good for her, that's what she wants. But Yoruba's won't really take that o, you see your mom's friend and call her what?
ReplyDeleteI disagree. Does it mean that the abroad ones that call their ‘strangers’ Mister and Misses and they still end up abusing them don’t trust issues too abi dem no get. It is the norm of where we are. It does not stop evil things from happening. Aunty or no Aunty name. Even the ones wey their heads no correct still de form teacher Nomagbo for their kids.
ReplyDeleteTo each his Own
ReplyDeleteWe are all wired differently, if it makes her feel better... it’s all good.
To each his Own
ReplyDeleteWe are all wired differently, if it makes her feel better... it’s all good.
It still doesn’t stop the abuse because some family members are the CULPRIT
I agree with Tonto this time...
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with her. Even primary school pupils address their teachers as teacher this or that. But the yorubas wont allow o. I use to have a friend that called her in-laws including the ones she was older than aunty or uncle. A friend of mine slightly older than i am almost chopped off my head cause i didnt add aunty to her name. So that might really not work for us. It's in our system already and might be difficult to get it out.
ReplyDeleteMy son addressed outsiders and even my friends as Ms. Or Mr.! I taught him that.
ReplyDeleteI taught him to address his cousins as cousins and aunt as aunt, then, his aunt's husband as uncle.
He is yet to visit his numerous cousins, uncles and aunties in Nigeria.
My son will not call strangers aunties or uncles.
But, I'm teaching him to be respectful and polite towards everyone.
That's d best way to address someone that's neither ur aunt nor uncle, my sis kids are taught so in school, they address their teachers as Ms. Or Mr...if u visit and they don't know u, the little girl will greet u and ask u your name, I was impressed.
DeleteI like her hair... any seller in the house? Ego le?
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Some peopple feel they are well read, take time to find the meaning of uncle and aunty and variants definitions.
ReplyDeleteI don't even have a problem with aunty/uncle. How about those that even expect you to call them mummy/daddy.
ReplyDeleteMy former bank where eye-service was the order of the day. Imagine hailing the company sec. "Mummy mummy,you look nice today". Just to get in her good books. They also expect you to carry their bags when you see them. Office enviroment fa.
If you dont lick their ass promotion will be far from you.
I want no one referring to me as mummy if you aint my child.
Tonto is right, it's high time we stopped this auntie and uncle nonsense to strangers. What I taught my kids is to call unmarried female strangers miss, married female strangers mrs/madam and the males sir, simple
DeleteNa that mummy mummy I no go ever try. Ever! Even in school and NYSC fellowship, they'll expect you to call them mummy or maama. When you're not my mom? Rubbish
DeleteI stand with Tonto.
ReplyDeleteFrom your formative years in school and at home that was the norm I met and followed, passed on to my immediate family.
Driver is a Mr. Nanny is a Mrs but Housekeeper is a Sisi sha.
Some Uncles like to touch when you least expect.
La o ju e.
Before you argue with Tonto, ask yourself what is the dictionary definition of Aunty/uncle.
ReplyDeleteWhen you get the answers, ask yourself why you shouldn't teach your children what is right.
Church own even make sense as per we are all brother and sister in Christ!
ReplyDeleteBut your kids need to know why that is so. That it’s cos of church relationship.
ReplyDeleteI make a point of explaining relationships to my kids...that way they won’t get nothing twisted
She still hasn't learnt the difference between "Been and Being"
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