I will Marry the girl who helped me become somebody.................
I see a lot of comments saying ''And this is a man i stood by when he had nothing,he left me to marry someone else'
Why are you standing by him and not helping him?Abeggy,I will marry the woman who helped me become someone..
Stood by.........Spectator
Helped .....Active member
Both of them.
ReplyDeleteAm a babe and i aint a lesb, lol 😝
DeleteI will go for the guy that connect me to Dangote/ billgate / Oprah etc
Standing by your man also means helping him, believing in him and supporting him. It's quite the same really, the difference may only be that one has better financial ability and other things like connections to help the man. Sometimes it is not all about money but being loyal and having someone know you have their back no matter what.
DeleteI disagree with you 19:05, a girl standing with her man is different from the one that actually helps her man achieve his potentials.
DeleteSome girls are no different than literal shadows in their men’s lives. Zero support, zero encouragement. “I stood by you” is their mantra. Just a spectator in his life’s journey.
We generally use both phrases but they are quite distinct.
Stella I like your own short distinction ojare.
Am a babe. If it where ti be the other way round. Would marry a guy who helped me become somebody. Why will you just be standing by me,and not helping me reach my potentials? Thats why many people leave dose who stood by them like statues but not helping the people reach their maximum potentials.
DeleteA girl who helped you to become somebody is the one i will go for.
ReplyDeleteDepends, some you help them become something, they shift n follow one nwababy.
ReplyDeleteThe one who stood with me when I had nothing because she can stay with me if I lose everything.
ReplyDeleteRight dear...and that's what we call loyalty.
DeleteNa better brain dey your head no be kunu.
DeleteI concur.
DeleteNone, get a new Chick.
ReplyDeleteEvil.
DeleteNew chick will chop and run, leaving you with None
Don’t go and stand by yourselves be there building up and man that will dumb ya foolish asses. Hissss
DeleteStood by, in this context means supported you financially and materially. Prayed for you, loved you and encouraged you never to give up. It even extends to making you go for opportunities that will build you up career wise.
ReplyDeleteAbeg I will marry a man that stood by me. In standing by me, you have in some way made me become somebody.
You're so correct. 100% right on fleek. Stella you understand inugo?
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Thank you Twin squared, you are on point.
DeleteIf I were a guy,I will marry both.
ReplyDeleteI believe in the process of standing by someone, you would render help one way or the other ,no matter how little. So standing by,means the person ain't doing anything to help ? I believe it's intertwined.
ReplyDeleteTake for instance Lola Okoye, in the process of standing by Peter,she was was also lending help. I give kudos to women who stand by/who helps.
This Lola example no gel at all, he met her when they had their breakthrough
DeleteSays who? pls go inquire more about their story . Which breakthrough?
DeleteEpique so you think Lola will look at a younger broke guy?
Deletemade me remember acrimony movie by Tyler perry
ReplyDeleteMe too
DeleteMmmmm serious confusion.
ReplyDeleteStella forget o even the lady that help a guy become somebody he can still decide not to marry her. Moreover 'stand by' can also mean 'help you become somebody'. What happened to the encouragement and emotional support
ReplyDeleteMadam Stellz,Love isn't confused and every man knows whom they love and intend to spend their life with forever..
ReplyDeleteIf a man goes for the one who stood by him;then that is simply whom his heart desires and not necessarily meaning that he is ungrateful to the one who helped him become somebody..
If you like give a man heaven on earth,every man knows the lady their heart trips for;reason you also hear "AFTER ALL I DID FOR HIM"..
So to the question,A man will always go for the one he LOVES..
@MARTINS ABOY
Over sense dey worry you...
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You are so right. That is why a man can easily leave his wife who stood by him or helped him become somebody just because he has fallen deeply for someone else.
DeleteMay we not meet the love of our life after marriage 🙏🙏
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ReplyDeleteStella has changed the narrative now, most people will now come and say "the one who helped me become somebody"
But basically are both of them not the same people just that in some cases, some don't have basic ideas as to driving one towards achieving his/ her purpose. So I can't really blame the one who just "stood" by me when I had nothing.
Maybe just standing and hoping was her own definition of love while the other one takes the bull by the horn.
This na thing of d mind n heart not the achievement of a thing..
ReplyDeleteWhat if the person who helped you to become something is as stupid as a goat,or may be she is promiscous n extra marital affairs is always her wish?
So with that alone,,ur heart will decide by then..
Or what if the woman who helped you to become what you are is an imbecile,what would you have done? Follow ur heart or following the principles of assistance
A human being as stupid as a goat? And U can receive help from an imbecile right? Like seriously?
DeleteAs for me...
ReplyDeleteI'd pick the healthy one, health is wealth afterall 😂😂😂
I can understand dear. Just go with the one that has correct brain biko. You need it more. OK bye.
DeleteIt’s kind of confusing
ReplyDeleteStand by o, stood by oo, stand before oo, stand after oo, stand in between oo, man wey wan leave you, go still leave you.
ReplyDeleteMen are from Mars women are from Venus. Men don’t love like women do. Stand with a man at your own risk.
DeleteStella what if you Don't have feelings for the lady that helped u become somebody,u would still go ahead and marry her....it depends on who he loves coz to me "stood by" and "helped"'mean the same thing.
ReplyDeleteMost times they are left by the wayside
DeleteIf I were a guy,I would marry a girl who wouldn't remind or blackmail me with how she stood by me and changed my life!
ReplyDeleteAcrimony reloaded
ReplyDeleteExactly what came mind
DeleteMy thoughts exactly😂😂😂...
DeleteA man who stood by me , will always remain with me in good and bad times.
ReplyDeleteBoth of them
ReplyDeleteThese category of man I don't need u & hate them with a passion.
ReplyDeleteAs in an "observer" .. for ming stand by u..according to SDK. Lol! 😅😠
*critic = go & die!
*monitoring spirit = go & die!
* copy cat = go & die!
*calories counter or weight watcher = go & die !
*visitor or " jump & pass...greeter" = go & die!!!
Any mischief maker & crook in the name of "standing by u" or forming "being there for me" to target me must GO & DIE!!!
I would marry the man that I love. Marriage is not a rocket science and our choices should not be borne out of sympathy, else bothh parties would end up frustrated in the marriage.
ReplyDeleteOk ooo i had all sorts of comment here after all i use my hands to search for this seemingly "argument" here meanwhile am in a similar situation now but please lets be straight here...i met this guy like 8mnths ago never had noticed him for any reason but the sometimes in oct 2018 i fell ill and this same guy from no were called me up while on sick bed to check up on me that he asked after me and my friend told him am down with ulcer so he decide to get my contact to know how am feeling...i was so touched by his k8nd gesture. But the i dont know jerk about him or his relationship...then i got back strong and healthy and went to check up on my friend the he came and i told my friend to pls help me rhank him for all the calls and all..time after time he keep chatting and constant checking then the usual approach so i shared with my friend and she said oooh he had this "Doctor girlfriend" but it seems they are no longer dating which he confirm that and labelled her as an ex to me so we got talking one time and he was tryn to tell me about their relationsip all that happened how she helped him get over his addictions and all but then she had this thong in her mind that he doesnt have a job he said she tried all she could but to no avail that she is almost given up on him meanwhile his family are not in surppot of their friendship but he had to convinced them since he liked her...so he went for the first ti.e to meey with the parent after exchanging pleasantries the mom now ask him what he does for a living and he said nothing for now but he is working on his renewable energy bussiness and the next thing her mum said to him was that he cant marry her daughter cos he didnt have a 9-5 job and besides his face reminds her of a terrible past... in his heart he broke down..then i came into the picture innocently i started working on one or two things for him getting jobs here and there as aatter of fact he made me to leave my previous job to join him in his bussiness since am good with people and have good influence over him which i aggree to join him after like 2-3mntgs i started noticing some changes from him but i wasnt bold enough to confront him then suddenly one night was at my friends' plc as usual stepped out to make a call then u saw his so called ex parked in front of his house and walk inside then i chatted him up but no respobse so i tried to call him on his cell but switched off meanwhile he new i was around cos we spoke prior to that time and i said i was on my way...long story short i asked what was the meaning of his action his reply was nothing and no explanation of any kind but the buttomline is that "she has seen him moved on"and now he can afford to pay bills and all that so she is coming back for her bite....the question here is,am i wrong to conclude that she is a gold digger? Cos if she had believed in his dream same way i did and deffended him when her mum was saying all the things she said to him but instead she was cold and not bothered now she is coming back and i can seems to understand him anymore not that we both decide that we are done but just a mutual breakup and he still wants me to be part of his company as exsecutive marketer pls i need a clear advice and i still refere this whole scenerio as to Acrimony in desquise...ur advice pls
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